What You CAN Control in Your Marriage
Human beings love to be in control. But in marriage, when one person tries to control another true intimacy is…
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What does Wholeness Look Like?
Jesus had a wonderful way of asking questions. You may know the story well. Jesus sees a man lying on…
How to Deal With the Control Freak In Your Marriage
We all know a control freak – that person who has to micromanage everyone and everything around them. Such a…
How I Learned to Love Well
While learning to love well is a life-long process, loving well was something I was privileged to deeply experience with…
Love is NOT All You Need
If you’re over a certain age perhaps you can hear it in your head even now: “All you need is…
Brain Science, Porn and Human Trafficking
Why is porn so addictive? What’s the connection between porn and human trafficking? I’m thrilled to present this guest post…
What You Don’t Know About Marriage CAN Hurt You
Marriage as God intended it to be is about learning to love well. We don’t learn that automatically. What you…
God Does Not Work Alone
God can and does work any way He chooses. But God did not create you to need only Him. That…
Relationship Habits
Like locking the door behind you when you enter your home or brushing your teeth before going to bed, relationship…
The Difference Between Codependency and Love
Unhealthy people draw other people into their dysfunction. Anyone trying to be married to, or parent, or care for, or…
Three Relationship Goals for Your Marriage
Whether you’re a New Year’s Resolutions person or not, the science is clear that defining clear goals makes it more…
Top Five Marriage Resources from 2019
If your marriage is less than you wish, this holiday season may feel especially challenging. Helping couples have the Healthy…
When Christmas Affects Your Marriage
Hallmark movies would seem to indicate that romance and presents and the holiday spirit work wonders on relationships. Sometimes that’s…
Give Your Marriage the Gift of Communication
When we surveyed hundreds of couples young and old about what they wanted in their relationship, by far the most…
What Your Spouse Really Wants for Christmas
Gift-giving can be complicated. What does he/she want? How much money do you spend? You may feel pressure to “top”…
Holidays and Relationships: It’s Complicated
This week in the United States many families will gather together to celebrate Thanksgiving. And Christmas is just a few…
How to Confront Your Spouse’s Bad Behavior
Micromanaging, criticizing, and fault-finding are toxic to a relationship. But problems don’t go away by ignoring them. What do you…
How Your Mood Affects Your Spouse
The honeymoon is over. You’ve settled into the routine of life. Small irritations and disappointments seem all too common. Life,…
How to Help, and Not Help, a Struggling Marriage
The marriage of someone close to you is in serious trouble. You may be tempted to tell your friend, “Why…
Four Things I Learned About a Healthy Blended Family
Remarriages have a discouraging track record. Blended families have more than the usual set of challenges. But that doesn’t mean…
How Family and Friends Impact Your Marriage
Most weddings are a celebration. Love is in the air. Family and friends show up for the party bringing bitter-sweet…
The Key to Better Intimacy With Your Spouse
How’s your sex life with your spouse? If this topic leaves you frustrated, angry, lonely, or feeling rejected, you’re in…
Is My Marriage Toxic?
How bad is bad enough? When you are unhappily married that can be a difficult question. If you’re serious about…
Don’t Settle for a Miserable Marriage
Marriage affects your wellbeing. If your relationship is healthy you are happier, healthier, and generally live a longer more productive…
Five Ways to Help Someone who is Depressed or Anxious
If the statistic is even somewhat true that one in four of us struggles with a mental health challenge, you…
When Your Spouse Hurts You
You will be wounded in your marriage. It’s not a question of if, but when your spouse hurts you. But…
How to Re-Learn about Sex and Intimacy
Where did you first learn about it? Was it in a class in school? From classmates, or older kids in…
When You Become Your Spouse’s Caregiver
If your marriage has had a reasonable degree of closeness and love, when one spouse becomes ill it affects the…
Closing the Gap Between You and Your Spouse
Intimacy doesn’t just happen. If you and your spouse ever are going to come closer together, one of you will…
When Your Spouse is Negative
Keeping a positive outlook on life brings many benefits – both to your own experience and to your marriage. But…
“I Hate Sex!”
If your heart whispers – or screams – “I hate sex”, you’re not alone. That might sound as strange as…
How to Reconnect with Your Spouse
You are feeling seriously disconnected from your spouse, and it’s just plain awful. You’ve determined you will no longer ignore,…
3 Things NOT to do When You Feel Disconnected From Your Spouse
Getting married, you were hoping the fireworks between you would continue. The bond was real, and it felt good. But…
Understanding Your Spouse’s Heart
You fell in love. You said “I do.” You thought you knew the person you were planning to make a…
When People Disappoint You
Did you know that happiness research is a “thing?” For the past few decades researchers have looked at what determines…
Marriage in the Real World
The marriages you saw and experienced growing up were a mixture of good and bad. If your parents were happily…
The Secret Ingredient that Makes Marriage Work
The trash didn’t get taken out – again. His underwear is there on the floor – again. She was late…
Connecting with Others when you’re Single
Feeling isolated, alone, or lonely is a common struggle for singles. And you may imagine that finding a boyfriend/girlfriend and…
5 Steps to Take if you Messed Up in your Marriage
Marriage is the union of two sinners. You can be sure your spouse will mess up; that’s what sinners do.…
5 Questions Every Married Person Should Ask
Ask the wrong questions, and you’ll get answers that are misleading at best and possibly harmful. Ask better questions, and…
Finishing Your Marriage Without Regrets
Marriage is for our benefit here on earth. Marriage can sometimes seem endless and tedious, but it is temporary. And…
The SCENE in your Marriage
Today’s Western culture is often less than helpful or friendly to long-term Christian marriage. Few believers would dispute that, and…
When you should NOT be Kind to Your Spouse
Truthfully you should always be kind to your spouse. The problem comes when you confuse kind with nice. And accepting…
What to Do When You Feel Lonely
Pain is perhaps the loneliest thing in the world. That goes for emotional pain, physical pain, spiritual pain. It becomes…
How to Know if This Is “The One”
So you’re looking for and praying for Mr. or Mrs. Right, your soulmate, the person God has uniquely created who…
Taking Your Marriage from Good to Great
If your marriage is good, be grateful! Those struggling in a bad marriage can learn a lot from you. But…
The “Good News” About Sex
Why talk about sex? Because God talks a lot about it, because the devil works overtime to distort and use…
3 Things You CAN Do in a Bad Marriage
Some marriages are just plain bad. Words like sharp knives pierce tender hearts. Affection and sex are demanded, withheld, or…
How to Move Closer to your Spouse
Knowing about God’s design for intimacy in marriage is great. But that goal can seem so impossible to approach. What…
What I’ve Learned from Being Single – Again
Being single again often seems harder. As difficult as navigating singleness as a never-married young (or not-so-young) person can be,…
