Do You Need Better Personal Relationships?
In observing and working with people for decades now, I’ve seen how the biggest determinant of a person’s sense of…
Relationships
A Birthday Gift for Jesus
A few years ago a friend shared with me an important part of how she celebrates Christmas every year. When…
A Christmas Prayer for your Marriage
Choosing a gift for your spouse at Christmas may seem difficult, especially when the world – and your life –…
An Apology from the One Who Hurt You as a Man or a Woman
Who do you need an apology from? Who has wounded you? Our deepest hurts often come from those we “should”…
Boundaries and Freedom: Embracing What You Can and Can’t Do
You are not God. You are not all-powerful. Sometimes that’s a revelation; you are not the center of the universe.…
When God-Talk has Brought Pain to Your Sexuality
Love it or hate it, sex is a big deal. God cares about your sexuality, and the Bible has a…
4 Reasons Everyone Should Have Close Friends, Married or Single
Every human being is made by God with the need, desire, and capacity for intimacy. And that need is real…
Powerful Keys to Stewarding Your Sexuality Well
You have gifts, good things you’ve been given that are valuable. How are you caring for – stewarding – those…
5 Out-of-the-Bedroom Keys to Better Married Sex
The need for intimacy is a part of every human heart, regardless of relationship status. For those who are married…
The Loneliness Epidemic Got You? How to Find Peace and Connection
You can feel lonely in a crowd or a friendship or a marriage, and you can feel perfectly happy and…
5 Wrong Assumptions About the Body, God, and Sexuality
Our assumptions color everything that comes after that. If your starting point is wrong, you’re going to be frustrated or…
Throwing Down the Idols of Marriage, Singleness, or Parenthood
Relationships are usually complicated. And the church has usually idolized one particular relationship status to the detriment of another. It’s…
Tearing Down Inner Walls so you can Experience Intimacy
The idea of intimacy sounds nice, even important. But most people don’t think of it as absolutely necessary for life.…
Why It’s Not Really a Sex Problem
Behaviors matter. Behaviors have consequences. And sexual behaviors especially have consequences. But for those who are struggling here, putting your…
Being the Family of God Whether or Not You Have Earthly Family
Family. Love it, hate it. Want it, can’t stand it. Family is messy because family is made up of, well,…
How Your Relationship Status is Always Complicated
Perhaps the only good thing Facebook has ever done was to allow the relationship status “It’s Complicated.” And is there…
Unpacking What You Learned About Relationships and Intimacy
Your brain is a sponge, not a source. You may believe you’ve come up with an original thought, but that’s…
Disentangling the Connection Between Sex and Intimacy
We use euphemisms all the time, especially around sex. I’ll spare you a list. But did you know the Bible…
When Nothing You’re Doing Makes You Satisfied
I would add something to one of the lists in Proverbs: “Three things are never satisfied; four never say, “Enough”:…
What You Can and Can’t Expect Church to Do for You
Church was Jesus’ idea. I pray your experience of church has been, is now, and will continue to be wonderful.…
The Lifeline You Need to Grow and Thrive
You are not the source. You can’t be; you’re a creature, a created being. You cannot generate life from within…
Praying Joy over Your Marriage at Christmas
“Joy to the world.” “Tidings of great joy.” Christmas is a season of joy. Or that’s the way it was…
How to Give a Great Christmas Gift to Your Marriage
Getting a toaster? A cordless drill? A bathrobe? A Weathertech cup holder? Ummm, not likely to create that warm fuzzy…
A Thanksgiving Challenge that will Transform Your Marriage
Research proves it; expressing gratitude is good for you. And it will not only help your mental health; it can…
Three Keys to Dropping the Insanity in Your Marriage
Doing the same thing and expecting a different result; isn’t that the definition of insanity? You’re not a failure if…
When One Spouse Has A High Sexual Appetite
What’s a normal frequency of sex in marriage? That’s usually asked by the spouse with a higher libido looking for…
Sexual Anorexia, Asexuality – Is It a Thing?
I don’t like labels. Sometimes descriptive phrases can be meaningful, but when they become labels they’re more often harmful than…
How Past Intimacy Gone Wrong may Harm Your Marriage Now
Your marriage didn’t start with a blank slate when it comes to intimacy. You may think your spouse is the…
Five Warning Signs Your Marriage is Headed for an Affair
Breaking your marriage vows, especially for a follower of Jesus, doesn’t begin by waking up one morning and deciding to…
The One Thing that will Transform Your Relationship Starting TODAY
What grade would you give your marriage today? A+? Hallelujah! But perhaps it’s more like a D. There isn’t one…
Answering Your Questions About Relationships
There’s little, if anything, that makes a bigger difference in your sense of wellbeing than the quality of your closest…
To Know Your Spouse and Be Known by Them
The intimacy God experiences within Himself–Father, Son, and Spirit–is what He designed husband and wife to experience in marriage. The…
How the Old “You” Will Have to Die for Your Marriage to Survive
OH! That’s not what the preacher said when he or she pronounced you man and wife. Dying is not what…
The Difference Between Being Nice and Being Kind in Your Marriage
Would you really want to be married to someone who’s “nice?” I don’t think you would. It’s easy to confuse…
What’s Keeping You From Intimacy With Your Spouse?
You thought you wanted intimacy when you got married. But did you realize what kind of work it would take?…
Try Out These Four Fun and Unique Date Night Ideas
Investing in your relationship for the long haul involves making memories together, learning about each other, and enjoying time together.…
Want Your Marriage to Last? Let Your Relationship Breathe
The healthiest marriages are not the ones where husband and wife spend the most time together. Does that surprise you?…
How to Make Jesus Irresistible to Others
As a follower of Jesus you care about the people around you. So how do you respond to your coworker…
Where to Invest in Your Marriage for Long-Term Success
Nothing of real value just happens. You don’t drift toward a finely tuned athletic body, a million-dollar retirement fund, or…
The Rhythms of Communication that Keep Marriage Alive
You know communication is necessary for a healthy relationship. But like any other good thing, it doesn’t happen if you…
What It Looks Like to be FOR Your Relationship
Deeper than any specific words or actions is the position from which both you and your spouse come to your…
Are These 8 Myths About Marriage Harming Your Relationship?
You imagine “I do” should lead to “happily ever after.” That may happen in fairy tales, romance novels, and cheesy…
It’s Time to Let Your Husband Off the Hook
This is not what you signed up for. When you said Yes you thought you were getting friendship, intimacy, even…
To the Husband Blindsided by Your Wife
You’d have given your marriage a 7 or 8 on a scale of 1 to 10. You might prefer more…
How Managing Your Anxiety can Transform Your Marriage
You know you’re not at your best when you’re stressed out, anxious, or afraid. And your internal state doesn’t just…
Stressed or Anxious About Your Marriage?
“Well, YES!” That’s kind of a given, right? Marriage hooks you to another sinner physically, emotionally, financially, even spiritually. Your…
Experiencing the Resurrection Power of Jesus in Your Marriage
When Jesus came and lived, died, and lived again He did so to bring restoration and life to not only…
10 Things You Can (and Can’t) Expect In A Good Marriage
With all the destructive marriages out there, is it any wonder many young people are having second thoughts about getting…
What Telling Your Story Does for You and Others
Darla wanted to hide. She’d been doing it all her life. Her story was a difficult one, and she’d gotten…
Deciding Whether to Leave or Not Leave Your Marriage
“Should I stay or should I go?” I hear that from married people all the time. Emotions, memories, trauma, disappointment,…
