Do You Have the Same Effect on People that Jesus Did?
What’s it like to be on the other side of you? If you were your friend, husband, wife, child, employee,…
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What Does Sexual Wholeness Look Like?
What is Jesus inviting you into? Steve imagined a life of striving and trying harder, never feeling like he could…
How to Consecrate THAT Part of You to Jesus
Recently I mentioned a concept that got a lot of response; “consecrate that part of you to Jesus.” For whatever…
How Does God Feel About You?
With some frequency I ask people, “How do you feel God feels about you?” I’m not looking for an intellectual or…
Overcome Your Complex Relationship with Sex, Intimacy, and God
Believe it or not, sex and all that comes with it affects you deeply. Your relationship with sex is complicated.…
How to Make Your Time with God Meaningful, Long or Short
Are you satisfied with how your spiritual life is going? Are you more like Jesus than you were a year…
Deep Transformation: How to Become Different from the Inside Out
Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. You’ve probably heard that before. But you may find yourself…
From Temptation to Triumph: Designing Your Personal Escape Plan
Whatever your personal brand of “stuff,” especially sexual “stuff,” you can be sure you will be tempted again. The process…
What’s the State of Your Heart?
Think of someone you love to be around. How would you describe their heart? Chances are their inner being is…
Addressing Sin Issues in Others with Grace and Truth
We humans easily fall into ditches. Trying to be zealous for God’s way of righteousness, we fall into the truth…
Why Prayer is Not Enough: What to Do When You’re Still Struggling
For the follower of Jesus who is feeling close to Him, the words “prayer is not enough” may seem like…
What’s Required for Healthy Sexual Discipleship?
A spouse feeling hurt and lonely because their partner seems uninterested in sexual intimacy. A young (or not-so-young) person heavy…
Your Journey to Sexual Wholeness Will Be Opposed
I hear from people every day who are facing opposition on the journey to sexual wholeness. If all it took…
Five Key Elements in the Process of Becoming Sexually Whole
Many of the people I talk with wish God would just “zap” them from their current state of misery and…
When God-Talk has Brought Pain to Your Sexuality
Love it or hate it, sex is a big deal. God cares about your sexuality, and the Bible has a…
The 3 “C’s” of Growing in Sexual Wholeness
Time for a reality check. If you haven’t sensed it already you soon will; your growing in sexual wholeness (or…
Beyond Bad Behavior: Get From Sobriety to Recovery to Redemption
Every addiction is a whole-person “disease.” The “thing” might be alcohol, pornography, sex, gambling, video games, or a multitude of…
Three Things to Do With Your Messy Sexual Story
Every single day, no exceptions, I hear from people struggling. Men and women, married and unmarried, young and old, from…
What Your Need for Intimacy Tells You About God’s Plan
Personal relationships. Intimacy. Sex and sexuality. What first comes to mind when you hear those phrases? It might be privacy…
The One Thing that will Transform Your Relationship Starting TODAY
What grade would you give your marriage today? A+? Hallelujah! But perhaps it’s more like a D. There isn’t one…
Answering Your Questions About Relationships
There’s little, if anything, that makes a bigger difference in your sense of wellbeing than the quality of your closest…
Are You Using Your Influence to Help Others?
You have influence. You may not consider yourself an “influencer.” You may not have millions of “followers.” But there are…
What Telling Your Story Does for You and Others
Darla wanted to hide. She’d been doing it all her life. Her story was a difficult one, and she’d gotten…
How to Become the Spouse God Needs You to Be in 2022
How would you grade your marriage today? There are few things that make a bigger impact on your sense of…
Pastor’s Marriage and Ministry Restored
John is a pastor. He loves being a pastor. He loves being the husband to his wife and the father…
You Don’t Need This if You’re Comfortable with Change
You can ignore the rest of this post if: Changes internally or externally don’t bother or disturb you at all…
How Your Marriage Gets Better When You Get Better
There’s something healthy and satisfying about coming through when someone else is counting on you. Perhaps you’ve been in a…
How to Have an Encounter with God
A few years ago I was privileged to travel to Bangalore, India. Hundreds of thousands of Christians from all over…
How Identity Leads To Behavior: Who You Are to What You Do
Why do you do what you do? Why do you work out, or keep a clean house, or go on…
When Sex Gets in the Way of Pursuing Intimacy
God created you with the need, desire, and capacity for intimacy. When you said “I do” you expected intimacy, including…
Are You Taking the Next Steps Toward Transformation?
You know things aren’t yet the way they should be. Perhaps you’re frustrated and discouraged. You’ve prayed, and things don’t…
The Trust Required for Intimacy, and How to Build It
You expect to be able to trust your spouse. And that’s not an unreasonable expectation. But if your marriage is…
Overcoming the Fear of Dealing with Your Sexual Stuff
There are good reasons for you to hold back. Fear is a big part of why you keep hiding. Getting…
Why do I Keep Sinning the Same Way?
There’s something you keep doing that you know you shouldn’t be doing. Or perhaps you’re not doing something you know…
Uprooting Why You Feel Unhappy in Your Marriage
Every marriage has challenges. It wouldn’t make sense to expect the union of two different human beings to proceed without…
How to Take Your Marriage from Just OK to Great
Your marriage has had its ups and downs, but it’s not toxic. You might give your marriage a C+, maybe…
Three Questions that will Get You What You Want in 2021
Some people make New Year’s Resolutions. Some people never do, because you have an 80% chance of not keeping them…
Three Powerful Keys to a Better Marriage in 2021
Last year was so – 2020. A year many people want never to repeat. Most are hoping and praying for…
How to Access God’s Plan for you to Become Whole and Stay Whole
You get really sick. What do you need to become whole and stay whole? You may need to visit the…
Do This, Not That: 5 Attitudes for a Better Marriage
Attitudes color everything. Attitudes develop usually without you realizing it. Some attitudes you brought to your marriage and some you…
How to Extend Grace Without Tolerating Sin
Jesus was full of both grace and truth. (John 1:14) We as humans tend to easily fall into the ditch…
What Is God’s Desire For You in this Pandemic?
Last Sunday millions of Christians around the world celebrated Easter differently. Many worshiped using online streaming services. Others met in…
Why Can’t I Stop Sinning?
You’re still frequently angry and bitter. Curse words are still coming out of your mouth. You keep satisfying your sexual…
What does Wholeness Look Like?
Jesus had a wonderful way of asking questions. You may know the story well. Jesus sees a man lying on…
How to Deal With the Control Freak In Your Marriage
We all know a control freak – that person who has to micromanage everyone and everything around them. Such a…
Life After Dealing with your Stuff
Doing something hard becomes a lot easier when you know the awesome result that’s coming. Looking under the surface and…
A Cure, not a Band-Aid
The problem isn’t always the real problem. Taking Tylenol when you have a fever doesn’t cure the infection. Mowing the…
God Does Not Work Alone
God can and does work any way He chooses. But God did not create you to need only Him. That…
Relationship Habits
Like locking the door behind you when you enter your home or brushing your teeth before going to bed, relationship…
Top Five Marriage Resources from 2019
If your marriage is less than you wish, this holiday season may feel especially challenging. Helping couples have the Healthy…
