Attention Is a Limited Resource. How Are You Doing With Yours?
*This is a guest blog post by my friend Zion Montgomery, licensed marriage and family therapist. She has a wealth…
marriage
When Your Relationship Isn’t Working
There’s little if anything that makes a greater difference in your sense of wellbeing than the quality of your closest…
When “One Flesh” Tears Apart: The Trauma of Broken Covenant
We don’t use the word covenant much today. But this deeply Biblical concept applies to our lives more than many…
Learning to Love Well in Challenging Relationships
People; love them, perhaps “hate” them. (OK, “hate” is much too strong a word.) Introvert or extrovert, you need people.…
When Love Feels Broken: God’s Healing for Your Marriage
Every marriage has troubles. Every single one! And yet when your relationship struggles it’s easy to wonder if healing for…
Your Spouse is NOT the Key to a Better Sex Life
Many married people I talk with say something like, “If my spouse would just say Yes to sex, I wouldn’t…
The Difference Between Lust and Healthy Desire
When the enemy can’t get you to fall into the ditch on one side, he’ll work hard to hurdle you…
5 Reasons Good Sex is Important for Your Marriage
Many couples fight about sex. Or if you don’t fight about it, it’s a frequent source of tension. One wants…
Married Sex: Can it be Good?
Maurice and Monica weren’t sure their marriage would make it. They had lived together for a few years prior to…
A Christmas Prayer for your Marriage
Choosing a gift for your spouse at Christmas may seem difficult, especially when the world – and your life –…
When You and Your Spouse are on Opposite Sides in the Bedroom
You may have expected sex to just “work” when you got married. Or that married sex would fix your porn…
5 Out-of-the-Bedroom Keys to Better Married Sex
The need for intimacy is a part of every human heart, regardless of relationship status. For those who are married…
Throwing Down the Idols of Marriage, Singleness, or Parenthood
Relationships are usually complicated. And the church has usually idolized one particular relationship status to the detriment of another. It’s…
Praying Joy over Your Marriage at Christmas
“Joy to the world.” “Tidings of great joy.” Christmas is a season of joy. Or that’s the way it was…
How to Give a Great Christmas Gift to Your Marriage
Getting a toaster? A cordless drill? A bathrobe? A Weathertech cup holder? Ummm, not likely to create that warm fuzzy…
A Thanksgiving Challenge that will Transform Your Marriage
Research proves it; expressing gratitude is good for you. And it will not only help your mental health; it can…
How to Navigate the Power Dynamics in Your Marriage
Who’s got the power in your marriage? Where does that power come from? Can you find more power? What if…
Three Keys to Dropping the Insanity in Your Marriage
Doing the same thing and expecting a different result; isn’t that the definition of insanity? You’re not a failure if…
When One Spouse Has A High Sexual Appetite
What’s a normal frequency of sex in marriage? That’s usually asked by the spouse with a higher libido looking for…
Sexual Anorexia, Asexuality – Is It a Thing?
I don’t like labels. Sometimes descriptive phrases can be meaningful, but when they become labels they’re more often harmful than…
How Past Intimacy Gone Wrong may Harm Your Marriage Now
Your marriage didn’t start with a blank slate when it comes to intimacy. You may think your spouse is the…
Five Warning Signs Your Marriage is Headed for an Affair
Breaking your marriage vows, especially for a follower of Jesus, doesn’t begin by waking up one morning and deciding to…
The One Thing that will Transform Your Relationship Starting TODAY
What grade would you give your marriage today? A+? Hallelujah! But perhaps it’s more like a D. There isn’t one…
Answering Your Questions About Relationships
There’s little, if anything, that makes a bigger difference in your sense of wellbeing than the quality of your closest…
Fully Alive Marriage: It’s Not What You Think
If you’re single, perhaps you imagine a Fully Alive marriage as one where your spouse anticipates your needs and fulfills…
To Know Your Spouse and Be Known by Them
The intimacy God experiences within Himself–Father, Son, and Spirit–is what He designed husband and wife to experience in marriage. The…
How Being Faithful to Your Spouse is More than Sex
You rightfully expect your spouse to be faithful to your marriage vows and you probably hold yourself to the same…
How the Old “You” Will Have to Die for Your Marriage to Survive
OH! That’s not what the preacher said when he or she pronounced you man and wife. Dying is not what…
The Difference Between Being Nice and Being Kind in Your Marriage
Would you really want to be married to someone who’s “nice?” I don’t think you would. It’s easy to confuse…
What’s Keeping You From Intimacy With Your Spouse?
You thought you wanted intimacy when you got married. But did you realize what kind of work it would take?…
5 Things You May Really Want When You Want Sex
You are more than a biological creature. You are an integrated whole–physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual. That’s why for human…
Try Out These Four Fun and Unique Date Night Ideas
Investing in your relationship for the long haul involves making memories together, learning about each other, and enjoying time together.…
Want Your Marriage to Last? Let Your Relationship Breathe
The healthiest marriages are not the ones where husband and wife spend the most time together. Does that surprise you?…
Where to Invest in Your Marriage for Long-Term Success
Nothing of real value just happens. You don’t drift toward a finely tuned athletic body, a million-dollar retirement fund, or…
The Rhythms of Communication that Keep Marriage Alive
You know communication is necessary for a healthy relationship. But like any other good thing, it doesn’t happen if you…
What It Looks Like to be FOR Your Relationship
Deeper than any specific words or actions is the position from which both you and your spouse come to your…
The Primary Purpose for which God Created Marriage
This is not what you signed up for. The things you expected marriage to be turned out to be wrong,…
Are These 8 Myths About Marriage Harming Your Relationship?
You imagine “I do” should lead to “happily ever after.” That may happen in fairy tales, romance novels, and cheesy…
It’s Time to Let Your Husband Off the Hook
This is not what you signed up for. When you said Yes you thought you were getting friendship, intimacy, even…
To the Husband Blindsided by Your Wife
You’d have given your marriage a 7 or 8 on a scale of 1 to 10. You might prefer more…
How Managing Your Anxiety can Transform Your Marriage
You know you’re not at your best when you’re stressed out, anxious, or afraid. And your internal state doesn’t just…
Stressed or Anxious About Your Marriage?
“Well, YES!” That’s kind of a given, right? Marriage hooks you to another sinner physically, emotionally, financially, even spiritually. Your…
Experiencing the Resurrection Power of Jesus in Your Marriage
When Jesus came and lived, died, and lived again He did so to bring restoration and life to not only…
10 Things You Can (and Can’t) Expect In A Good Marriage
With all the destructive marriages out there, is it any wonder many young people are having second thoughts about getting…
Deciding Whether to Leave or Not Leave Your Marriage
“Should I stay or should I go?” I hear that from married people all the time. Emotions, memories, trauma, disappointment,…
Planning Regular Housecleaning For Your Marriage
Your marriage accumulates debris. Life’s just like that. Even after you’ve dealt with the major trash from the past more…
Getting Rid of the Trash Your Marriage Has Accumulated
Each week the trash truck hauls off the debris you accumulate in your home and most of us rarely if…
Is Marriage Worth the Struggle?
Yesterday I had a long talk with a couple whose marriage almost ended. After some serious bad behavior they separated…
Ten Things to Ask Your Marriage Mentors
Most people embarking on marriage have precious little preparation for what will be the most important earthly relationship they will…
Are Your Reasons for Marriage the Right Reasons?
Why did you get married in the first place, or why do you want to get married? And if you…
