Attention Is a Limited Resource. How Are You Doing With Yours?
*This is a guest blog post by my friend Zion Montgomery, licensed marriage and family therapist. She has a wealth…
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Becoming Who Your Relationship Needs You to Be
What do you need to do in order to bring your best self to the people who matter most? What…
What If Everything You Learned About Relationships Was Wrong?
If you’ve ever had an original thought, you’re one of very few humans who have. We are great mimics, learning…
What Messy Families Tell Us About the Kingdom of God
Family is messy! You don’t get to choose your parents, your siblings, or your extended family. Any parent will tell…
Throwing Down the Idols of Marriage, Singleness, or Parenthood
Relationships are usually complicated. And the church has usually idolized one particular relationship status to the detriment of another. It’s…
Unpacking What You Learned About Relationships and Intimacy
Your brain is a sponge, not a source. You may believe you’ve come up with an original thought, but that’s…
Parents, Kids, Technology – and Sex
At its best kids and technology seem like a match made in heaven. But too often it seems more like…
10 Things You Can (and Can’t) Expect In A Good Marriage
With all the destructive marriages out there, is it any wonder many young people are having second thoughts about getting…
5 Things I Wish the Church Taught About Marriage
Is your church serving your marriage and relationship well? Are you satisfied with what the church has taught about marriage?…
How to Strengthen Your Marriage While Navigating Midlife
Midlife is a season of change. As a woman, you’re approaching or going through menopause and everything seems disrupted –…
What Beautiful Thing Do You Want to Create in Your Marriage?
You are creative. You cannot be otherwise! You were made in the image of God, who by nature is the…
How to Strengthen Your Marriage Through the Holidays
The holiday season is always stressful. In spite of the joy, for many people the holiday blues are very real.…
Finding Breakthrough from Guilt as a Parent
When you’re hoping and praying for a breakthrough for your child, most parents struggle with a measure of guilt. If…
When You Need a Breakthrough For Your Child
If you’re a parent, there’s little you care about more than the wellbeing of your children and your relationship with…
8 Ways You May Have Broken Trust With Your Spouse
You can’t have a healthy marriage without trust. It’s comparatively easy to trust each other when the emotions are running…
Your Marriage Under Lockdown
If things are wonderful between you and your spouse, lockdown due to the COVID-19 pandemic may seem great; you’ve got…
Give Your Marriage the Gift of Communication
When we surveyed hundreds of couples young and old about what they wanted in their relationship, by far the most…
How Your Mood Affects Your Spouse
The honeymoon is over. You’ve settled into the routine of life. Small irritations and disappointments seem all too common. Life,…
Four Things I Learned About a Healthy Blended Family
Remarriages have a discouraging track record. Blended families have more than the usual set of challenges. But that doesn’t mean…
How Family and Friends Impact Your Marriage
Most weddings are a celebration. Love is in the air. Family and friends show up for the party bringing bitter-sweet…
Don’t Settle for a Miserable Marriage
Marriage affects your wellbeing. If your relationship is healthy you are happier, healthier, and generally live a longer more productive…
When You Become Your Spouse’s Caregiver
If your marriage has had a reasonable degree of closeness and love, when one spouse becomes ill it affects the…
The SCENE in your Marriage
Today’s Western culture is often less than helpful or friendly to long-term Christian marriage. Few believers would dispute that, and…
Three Things to Focus On When Your Spouse is Not a Believer
You may have married before you became a Christian, and now feel the growing disconnect between your newer relationship with…
Taking Your Marriage from Good to Great
If your marriage is good, be grateful! Those struggling in a bad marriage can learn a lot from you. But…
How to Know if you are Released from your Marriage
Jesus said that even though it was not God’s original design for marriage, divorce is “allowed” in some circumstances “because…
How to Get on the Same Page with your Spouse
Two people sliding into marriage don’t naturally “fall into” being aligned. Their expectations are different, their goals are different, their…
What it Means to Be On the Same Page With Your Spouse
One of the most frequent desires I hear from married people is, “I wish my spouse and I could get…
Three Keys to Lasting Love
Valentine’s Day is coming up next week. If you’re a wife, you may be thinking, “I hope he remembers!” If…
She Needs You to Lead
This one is for husbands. (I know; you’ll probably keep reading even if you’re not a husband.) Let me share…
He Needs You to Need Him
This one is for wives only. (I know; you may read this even if you’re not a wife.) But here’s…
Merry Married Christmas to You
The holiday season can add a lot of stress to your marriage. Time and money pressures build up. Some relatives…
Put the Fun Back in Your Marriage
The stakes are high. If you’re married, there’s little if anything that has a bigger impact on your sense of…
What Do You See in Your Spouse?
There are many ways you could describe the one you’re married to. You might see them as your confidant, friend,…
What is Your Communication Style?
Relationships can’t survive without communication. In marriage—the closest relationship on earth, communication breakdowns are both common and destructive. When asked,…
5 Ways to Keep Family Dysfunction from Ruining Christmas
Family is a big deal around Christmas. The memories you have of Christmases past – both good and bad –…
If Opposites Attract, How Can We Get Along?
Do opposites really attract? In many marriages it seems so. No two people are exactly alike, but if opposites attract…
When Is It Abuse?
God designed marriage to be a transformative, healing, growth-producing, fulfilling relationship full of intimacy and love. In our sinful messed-up…
How God Uses Marriage to Heal You
God uses marriage to heal you. It’s one of the most important and effective tools He uses to bring you…
Pornography and your Christian Marriage
If the gospel is good for anything it must have an answer to the worst problems humans face. As believers…
Your Spouse’s Bad Behavior: 5 Things to Do
Your spouse’s bad behavior can make your life seem as though it’s falling apart. Your psyche is stretched to the…
Say This, Not That: Healthy Communication Examples for Marriage
Communication can be difficult. You and your spouse seem to speak different languages. Attempts at talking seem to end up…
Pursuing Intimacy with Your Wife
(This is a message especially for husbands. Last week I talked about the other side – a post especially for…
10 Ways to Show Respect to Your Spouse
A marriage without respect will not thrive. But sometimes it’s hard to know how to show respect to your spouse.…
What is a Submissive Wife?
She is obviously struggling. As a young wife and mother she wants to do things God’s way. She wrote to…
When Your Children Break Your Heart
You will always be a parent, even when your children are grown. And sometimes the choices they make are completely…
Women In Charge!
Women have a difficult time in this world. We always have. It’s not that men always have it easy, but…
7 Personal Christmas Gift Ideas for Someone You Love
It’s almost Christmas! Some families, like ours, plan to open gifts on Christmas Eve. Some are planning to go to…
The 10 Commandments for a Strong Marriage
God’s rules for living – the 10 Commandments – have stood the test of time. They should; they were written…
Preparing for Marriage when you Carry Bad Baggage
None of us goes through life baggage-free. But some of us seem to accumulate more than our fair share of…
