Intimacy when Sex Becomes Impossible
Can you stay physically connected and enjoy intimacy when sex becomes truly physically impossible? Intimacy between husband and wife is…
Relationships
Depressed Husband, Lonely Wife
A very lonely wife reached out to me: “I have a great husband, but he doesn’t take care of me intimately.…
Sleeping With the Elephants: the BIG Marriage Problems
It’s one thing to have an “elephant in the room” – the BIG problem that nobody wants to talk about…
What Would Jesus Say to an LGBT Person?
Contemporary culture in our country and much of the world has seemed to place same-sex relationships on a par with…
What To Do When Someone You Love Keeps on Sinning
Your spouse, your child, your parent, a close friend is bent on destroying themselves. Oh, they probably don’t see it…
Five Must-Haves in a Potential Spouse
What should you be looking for in a potential spouse? Is it the financial stability? The chemistry? The sexual attraction?…
Punish Your Wife or Husband the Right Way
Your spouse is completely exasperating you, and you can’t put up with it any longer. Perhaps if you punish your…
How to Say NO to Sex but YES to Your Spouse
In every marriage there are times when you are not on the same page as your spouse when it comes…
When You Can’t Let Go after Your Spouse Leaves
Marriage is supposed to be forever! When you said “I do” you looked forward to joining your lives, building your…
9 Characteristics of a Healthy Sexual Relationship for a Christian
Husband wants sex, but wife resists. Wife can’t understand why husband hasn’t asked for sex in some time. Wife feel…
The Four Facets of Intimacy in Marriage
Intimacy in marriage. Men often spell it S-E-X. Women frequently spell it T-A-L-K. It’s something married couples usually take for…
The 10 Commandments for a Strong Marriage
God’s rules for living – the 10 Commandments – have stood the test of time. They should; they were written…
How to Save Your Marriage With Prayer
The wake of the Ashley Madison scandal has left many marriages traumatized. Church members have discovered the indiscretions of their…
Preparing for Marriage when you Carry Bad Baggage
None of us goes through life baggage-free. But some of us seem to accumulate more than our fair share of…
To the Woman Whose Husband is Addicted to Pornography
I hear from you regularly, you whose husband’s eyes are filled with many other women and not with you. You…
What I Wish Christian Parents Would Teach Kids About Sex
At 15 years old she was scared. Her mother sat there silent. I confirmed that Angela (not her real name)…
6 Reasons Your Wife Doesn’t Want Sex
If you’re like many men you want sex more than your wife does. If she says NO your natural reaction…
Intimacy Is Worth the Risk
Get too close and you’re likely to get hurt. No wonder many people are afraid to take the risk. Most…
6 Things To Do If You’re Disappointed In Your Marriage
The honeymoon is long over. The person waking up across from you in the bed every morning doesn’t have a…
5 Ways a Woman Can Make a Miserable Man
Can’t life with them; can’t live without them. That’s how some men see us women. And perhaps we’ve given them…
You Don’t Have To Be Happily Married
There’s no checkbox for “relationship status” on the employment application God gives you. And regardless of how the culture in…
7 Ingredients to Rebuilding Trust Between You and Your Spouse
A long-haul truck driver called our radio program. He worried about his wife every time he left home. It wasn’t…
How to “Make Up” When You’ve Hurt Your Spouse
As uncomfortable as it may be, saying “I’m sorry” for a small thing to someone you may never see again…
What to Do When Your Spouse Won’t Change
It’s frustrating with your spouse won’t change. Your husband left his dirty socks strewn on the bedroom floor. Again. Your…
What to Do If You Feel Guilty After Watching 50 Shades of Grey
Three years ago the 50 Shades of Grey trilogy became a publishing phenomenon. And 10 days ago the movie version…
5 Ways to Pray For Your Wife
You know you “should” pray for your wife. And you want to. You really do. But you feel awkward. Long…
5 Keys to Having the Husband You Want
You want your husband to understand you, love you, and be there for you when you need him. You want…
5 Questions to Ask When You Dislike Someone
Not long ago I posted 5 Questions to Ask When Someone Doesn’t Like You. But what about when YOU dislike…
5 Ways To Help Your Husband Desire You
Deep inside a woman’s soul is the desire to be wanted. God put it there. And all the feminism, the…
6 Ways To Answer When Your Spouse Asks, “What’s Wrong?”
Your spouse: “What’s wrong?” You: “Nothing.” How’s that been working? Probably not very well. And it may even be making…
The Second Thing to Learn In Marriage
EVERY couple will face conflict. The question is not IF you will face conflict, but rather HOW you manage conflicts when they arise. Handling conflict in marriage is a learned skill: no one knows how to do it automatically, but anyone can get better at it.
Don’t be surprised when you and your spouse see things differently: after all, if you were both the same, one of you would be unnecessary! What’s important is what you do then.
Here are five important steps to learn:
7 Conversation Starters with your Spouse
Communicate. Communicate. Communicate. Yes, that’s the secret of a great relationship. Although good communication between husband and wife is so important, it may not seem easy to do.
“But I have nothing to say. What do we talk about?”
That’s why you’re reading this! If things tend to be somewhat silent between you, here are some suggestions for conversation.
Five Daily Choices in your Relationship
Let’s be honest – sometimes we just don’t feel like it. We don’t feel like being kind, or loving, or healthy, or spiritual, or much of anything else. Sometimes it feels easier to just snap! Or pout. Or go away somewhere.
Yes, there are times we all feel like binging on self-pity, or anger, or negativity.
But even though we may feel like acting badly, we have a choice. And that is never truer than in our closest relationships. In spite of our anxiety, fatigue, and legitimate needs, we can CHOOSE to act in ways that foster a healthy, strong marriage, rather than tearing the relationship apart. And choosing to act in these ways most of the time really DOES increase the likelihood our needs will be met.
You Are More Powerful Than You Think
In your marriage, you are more powerful than you probably realize. There were very few things that surprised me when…
