What’s Your Mission in Marriage?
Why did you get married? Are those reasons still applicable today? Do you and your spouse agree on the WHY…
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She Needs You to Lead
This one is for husbands. (I know; you’ll probably keep reading even if you’re not a husband.) Let me share…
He Needs You to Need Him
This one is for wives only. (I know; you may read this even if you’re not a wife.) But here’s…
What’s It Like To Be Married To Me?
The fact that any two sinful human beings ever make it through decades living together can seem like a miracle.…
Merry Married Christmas to You
The holiday season can add a lot of stress to your marriage. Time and money pressures build up. Some relatives…
Sometimes I Feel Like Cheating
You haven’t done it – not yet. But you’ve felt like it. Part of you knows you shouldn’t. But things…
Community by Design: How God Uses People to Transform You
Few people experience lasting spiritual growth in isolation. God never intended us to grow alone. He created us with the…
5 Things to do After a Fight with your Spouse
Chances are good you and your spouse have had a fight. Perhaps you even had a fight during the just-ended…
Three Things I Learned As a Single
I wanted to get married, but nothing was happening. I spent many years wondering what was so wrong with me…
Blended and Blessed: Finding Peace in a Step-Family
Over 50% of families in the United States are “re-coupled”, with one or both partners having been married before. Over…
What Your Spouse CAN and CANNOT Do For You
In a healthy marriage your spouse meets some of your needs, but not all of them. It’s so easy to…
Did I Marry the Wrong Person?
It’s important to choose your spouse wisely. But you’re already married! When your relationship goes sideways it’s easy to feel…
3 Guaranteed Ways to Change Your Spouse
Oh, if it were only that easy! I hear every day from a husband or wife who says, “I can’t…
Intimacy in a Fallen World
How you do relationships is both a reflection of and the determining factor in the quality of your life. If…
Use the Conflict in your Marriage to bring you Closer
Fights where you or your spouse use words or fists (or anything else) to hurt or manipulate the other is…
You’re Not Meant to Grow Alone
It’s a very old song: “No man is an island. No man stands alone.” In the body of Christ that’s…
How to Grow a One Flesh Marriage
Imagine that Friday in the Garden of Eden. Adam wakes from his God-induced sleep missing a rib, and before him…
Are You Wounding or Healing Your Spouse?
You’re probably doing both. Two sinners getting married is a setup for pain – and for transformation. It’s likely you’re…
4 Ways to Change the Dance in Your Marriage
A relationship is like a dance. You and your spouse have fallen into some ways of relating that seem “normal.”…
When You Don’t Feel Like Loving Your Spouse
Loving is easy when it feels good. That’s why they call it “falling in love.” In our 21st century western…
Having the Sex Talk with Your Spouse
There’s not a couple who comes to marriage where both partners have the same desires, expectations, or internal “map” around…
To the Woman Feeling Rejected By Her Husband
You’re a woman feeling rejected. Part of you believes it shouldn’t bother you so much, but it does. You thought…
What To Do When Your Wife Doesn’t Want To Have Sex With You
I’ve heard from husbands of my patients, blog readers, radio listeners, and others about how frustrated and even angry a man can become when repeatedly rejected sexually.
Rather than feeling sorry for yourself, or looking outside your marriage for satisfaction, here are five questions to consider, and some practical things you may do, that have a good chance of improving the sexual connection in your marriage.
How to Start a Difficult Conversation with Your Spouse
Perhaps your spouse isn’t picking up the hints you’re dropping. Things aren’t going well, and perhaps you find it necessary…
How Sexual Questions are Spiritual Questions
A spouse feeling lost and lonely because their husband or wife isn’t interested in sexual intimacy. A young (or not-so-young)…
20 Things You Should Know About Your Spouse
No human being has the potential to make a greater impact on the quality of your life than your husband…
Helping Your Spouse Move Past Their Past
Every human being comes into marriage with baggage. You cannot make it through a couple decades or more of life…
What Did You Get Married For?
When you said “I do” you imagined things would be great. Most people expect to be happy when they get…
Is Sex a Need?
Oh my, we’re getting touchy! Perhaps even asking that question feels like sandpaper in the most sensitive parts of you.…
Is Your Marriage Beyond Repair?
How bad is bad enough? How long do you need to “put up with” seriously destructive behavior from your spouse?…
Setting Boundaries in your Marriage
Forgiveness is absolutely necessary in a healthy marriage, but by itself it’s not enough. Communication is vital, but it doesn’t…
How to Forgive Your Spouse When It’s Hard
In every marriage people get wounded. Your spouse is a flawed human being, a sinner who causes you pain. (You…
10 Reasons Why Your Spouse Hasn’t Forgiven You Yet
Every marriage is the union of two broken sinful people who, left to their own devices, will destroy each other.…
Your Role in Your Spouse’s Transformation
Your spouse doesn’t need or want another mother, father, coach, or Junior Holy Spirit. You wouldn’t, would you? There’s Someone…
First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then Comes Transformation
Boy meets girl. Boy and girl fall in love, get married, have kids, and live happily ever after. The end.…
Two Perspectives That Will Transform Your Marriage
Your perspective matters. Things may look completely different at 35,000 feet from how they look out a car window at…
What to Do when your Spouse Won’t be Intimate
Husbands and wives both deal with this. “I’m not getting enough L.U.S.T. – love, understanding, sex, and trust.” “Trying to…
5 Lies When Marriage and Ministry Collide
Modern culture puts intense pressure on marriages. The only way any marriage can thrive is through God’s grace as the…
The One Thing Single and Married Both Need
Single people searching for Mr. or Mrs. Right, or simply hooking up because marriage seems like too much work. Married…
When your Husband Is Behaving Badly
Neither gender has a corner on bad behavior. Last week we talked about wives behaving badly, but today is for…
When your Wife Is Behaving Badly
Neither gender has a corner on bad behavior, so I had to arbitrarily pick which side to address first. Next…
15 Things YOU Can Do Toward Your Marriage Transformation
If you answered YES to our recent question Do You Need a Transformed Marriage?, you’re already on the road. Perhaps…
How to Transform your Marriage Communication
The communication in your marriage could certainly be healthier. You fight, nag, yell, criticize, or give your spouse the silent…
Do You Need a Transformed Marriage?
Relationship status is more than a tag on Facebook, or a box you check when filling out your tax return.…
Put the Fun Back in Your Marriage
The stakes are high. If you’re married, there’s little if anything that has a bigger impact on your sense of…
What Do You See in Your Spouse?
There are many ways you could describe the one you’re married to. You might see them as your confidant, friend,…
How to Take Charge of Your Marriage
There are two opposite and equally destructive strategies many husbands and wives fall into when it comes to seeking marital…
How to Break the Crazy Communication Cycle
Do your attempts to communicate with your spouse end up leaving you more frustrated and upset? The Crazy Communication Cycle…
How to Open the Door to Intimacy
The need in the human heart for intimacy is deep. God created you and me for intimacy. One of the…
What is Your Communication Style?
Relationships can’t survive without communication. In marriage—the closest relationship on earth, communication breakdowns are both common and destructive. When asked,…
