Planning Regular Housecleaning For Your Marriage
Your marriage accumulates debris. Life’s just like that. Even after you’ve dealt with the major trash from the past more…
Relationships
Getting Rid of the Trash Your Marriage Has Accumulated
Each week the trash truck hauls off the debris you accumulate in your home and most of us rarely if…
Is Marriage Worth the Struggle?
Yesterday I had a long talk with a couple whose marriage almost ended. After some serious bad behavior they separated…
Ten Things to Ask Your Marriage Mentors
Most people embarking on marriage have precious little preparation for what will be the most important earthly relationship they will…
Are Your Reasons for Marriage the Right Reasons?
Why did you get married in the first place, or why do you want to get married? And if you…
Make Valentine’s Day More than a Burdensome Commercial Pause
Today is Valentine’s Day. This sort-of holiday seems mostly like a chance for retailers to make money during an otherwise…
5 Things I Wish the Church Taught About Marriage
Is your church serving your marriage and relationship well? Are you satisfied with what the church has taught about marriage?…
Where Did You Learn About Marriage?
You may have thought you entered marriage with a clean slate. You and your beloved were going to live happily…
How to Become the Spouse God Needs You to Be in 2022
How would you grade your marriage today? There are few things that make a bigger impact on your sense of…
How to Build the Marriage You Desire in the New Year
There’s nothing magic about January 1. But there can be something almost magical about you making a decided change and…
Ten Christmas Marriage Moments to Celebrate
Christmas is a time for family. If you’re married that starts with your spouse. Whether your marriage has been happy…
The Gift Your Spouse Really Wants (But Won’t Ask For)
Whether you’ve been married six months or sixty years, coming up with a Christmas present for your spouse can present…
How Gratitude Transforms Your Marriage
Thanksgiving comes this week in the United States. Many research studies demonstrate how intentional gratitude can improve your mental and…
How I’m Wrestling with Feeling Angry About Marriage
I’m angry. And I’m wrestling with what Paul says; “Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun…
How to Criticize Your Spouse in the Way that Actually Works
Snide remarks. Eyerolls. Angry outbursts. Constant correction. Your spouse deserves that, right? After all, they’re messing up over and over…
What Kind of Marriage Do You Want in the Future?
Drifting, wishing, or hoping doesn’t get you to where you want to go. That’s true in every area of life,…
How to Strengthen Your Marriage While Navigating Midlife
Midlife is a season of change. As a woman, you’re approaching or going through menopause and everything seems disrupted –…
How to Navigate Your Marriage Through the Messy Middle
So your marriage is in the messy middle. You’ve been drifting, and things aren’t headed to where you want your…
Three Difficult Dynamics that Make Your Midlife Marriage Messy
If marriage is a marathon, not a sprint, perhaps you’re at mile 10, or 15, or 20. The initial fireworks…
How Your Marriage Gets Better When You Get Better
There’s something healthy and satisfying about coming through when someone else is counting on you. Perhaps you’ve been in a…
50 Date Night Questions For Couples
Remember when you and your sweetheart would talk for hours, about anything and everything? There was never enough time. But…
Ways to Find Hope from Impossible Marriages that Survived
Marriage is both beautiful and hard. Sometimes it seems impossible. In today’s world we constantly see marriages ending. That may…
Four Questions to Help Diagnose Your Painful Marriage
Where on the spectrum of happy-to-unhappy is your marriage? What’s really the problem, and how serious is it? How can…
Five Things Laughter Does for Your Marriage
Marriage can be hard. Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint. Those statements are true, and a successful marriage requires…
What Beautiful Thing Do You Want to Create in Your Marriage?
You are creative. You cannot be otherwise! You were made in the image of God, who by nature is the…
Seven Discussion Questions that will Improve Your Intimacy
Communication between you and your spouse can get stale if you don’t have a plan. You coordinate schedules, talk about…
HELP! My Spouse Doesn’t Love Me Anymore!
You want to be loved. You need to be loved. You thrive when you’re loved and you wither when you’re…
How Christ and the Church Form the Model for Marriage and Sex
Intimacy in marriage. The one-flesh experience most Jesus-followers are looking for when they say “I do.” OK, you have physical…
When Sex Gets in the Way of Pursuing Intimacy
God created you with the need, desire, and capacity for intimacy. When you said “I do” you expected intimacy, including…
Five Steps to Building Better Intimacy in Marriage
God built into you the need, desire, and capacity for intimacy. It’s part of how you are created in His…
Where to Start if Your Marriage Lacks Intimacy
You want intimacy with your spouse and it’s not happening. You’re living as roommates, as if passing as ships in…
How to Build Connection Needed for Healthy Intimacy
God created you with the need, desire, and capacity for intimacy. But intimacy doesn’t just “happen” even if you and…
The Trust Required for Intimacy, and How to Build It
You expect to be able to trust your spouse. And that’s not an unreasonable expectation. But if your marriage is…
How to Build Safety in Your Marriage
You want intimacy. That’s why you got married! But intimacy doesn’t just happen; there are several necessary ingredients that must…
Want Intimacy? You Need Honesty as a Foundation
God created you with the need, desire, and capacity for intimacy. That’s a core part of what you were looking…
Submission in Christian Marriage
Hear the word “submission” and “marriage” in the same sentence and you may be gripped by the sudden urge to…
What it Means to Trust God With Your Marriage
Your marriage is struggling. You pray (and you should!). But when you pray it’s easy to fall into one of…
To the Wife Traumatized by Married Sex
Just because sex happens within marriage doesn’t always mean it’s good. God designed sex to be a beautiful life-giving nurturing…
9 Characteristics of a Healthy Sexual Relationship for a Christian
Sex is complicated. When experienced as God intended it’s beautiful, bonding, nourishing. But when sex is marred and distorted by…
Five Ways to Pray About Your Troubled Marriage
Every marriage faces challenges. And praying is the best thing you can do. God loves to do miracles! He is…
When Praying to Restore Your Marriage Isn’t Working
It’s dangerous to even imply that prayer isn’t enough. That seems to go against what any “good” Christian believes. And…
10 Proven Ways to Connect With Your Spouse
You want to feel connected. That’s what you expected in marriage. The hormones and pheromones and all the other “mones”…
Caring for Your Heart When Your Spouse Won’t Connect
You were created for intimacy. You probably got married expecting that doing so would fulfill your needs for connection, love,…
When Your Spouse Has Sexual Baggage
It’s a rare person, if anyone, who comes to marriage without sexual “stuff.” You did. And so did your spouse.…
Hiding and Intimacy: They Cannot Coexist
Are you aware of how you are hiding? You are hiding, you know, whether you think you are or not.…
How to Stop Hiding From Your Spouse
You’ve got sexual baggage, and your sexual baggage is impacting your marriage. Your spouse has baggage too, but today we’re…
Nine Possible Reasons Your Spouse Doesn’t Want to Sleep With You
Sex and intimacy (they are related, but not the same!) is a top area of conflict in many marriages. Trying…
Single Christian, Are You Struggling with Sex and Intimacy?
If you’re a Christian and you’ve been in church, you’ve probably heard the message “sex is for marriage.” But you’re…
How Your Sexual Story Impacts Your Marriage
If you’ve been raised in church you’ve probably heard this is how it’s “supposed” to be: boy meets girl, they…
Ignore This if Your Love Life is Perfect
Your love life is perfect? Great! You can ignore the rest of this message if: You’re experiencing beautiful regular intimacy,…
