Attention Is a Limited Resource. How Are You Doing With Yours?
*This is a guest blog post by my friend Zion Montgomery, licensed marriage and family therapist. She has a wealth…
Marriage and Family Life
Learning to Love Well in Challenging Relationships
People; love them, perhaps “hate” them. (OK, “hate” is much too strong a word.) Introvert or extrovert, you need people.…
From Rupture to Repair: Working Towards Healing in Your Relationship
Every relationship experiences ruptures. Husband/wife, parent/child, good friends – we are all sinners, and that means some rupture in relationships…
When Love Feels Broken: God’s Healing for Your Marriage
Every marriage has troubles. Every single one! And yet when your relationship struggles it’s easy to wonder if healing for…
What Messy Families Tell Us About the Kingdom of God
Family is messy! You don’t get to choose your parents, your siblings, or your extended family. Any parent will tell…
Stop People-Pleasing: Embracing Authenticity in Relationships and Parenting
Perhaps you’ve recognized that you need to stop people-pleasing. Other people are good at taking up all the mental real…
Married Sex: Can it be Good?
Maurice and Monica weren’t sure their marriage would make it. They had lived together for a few years prior to…
When You and Your Spouse are on Opposite Sides in the Bedroom
You may have expected sex to just “work” when you got married. Or that married sex would fix your porn…
Praying Joy over Your Marriage at Christmas
“Joy to the world.” “Tidings of great joy.” Christmas is a season of joy. Or that’s the way it was…
Parents, Kids, Technology – and Sex
At its best kids and technology seem like a match made in heaven. But too often it seems more like…
A Thanksgiving Challenge that will Transform Your Marriage
Research proves it; expressing gratitude is good for you. And it will not only help your mental health; it can…
How to Navigate the Power Dynamics in Your Marriage
Who’s got the power in your marriage? Where does that power come from? Can you find more power? What if…
When One Spouse Has A High Sexual Appetite
What’s a normal frequency of sex in marriage? That’s usually asked by the spouse with a higher libido looking for…
How Past Intimacy Gone Wrong may Harm Your Marriage Now
Your marriage didn’t start with a blank slate when it comes to intimacy. You may think your spouse is the…
To Know Your Spouse and Be Known by Them
The intimacy God experiences within Himself–Father, Son, and Spirit–is what He designed husband and wife to experience in marriage. The…
How Being Faithful to Your Spouse is More than Sex
You rightfully expect your spouse to be faithful to your marriage vows and you probably hold yourself to the same…
The Difference Between Being Nice and Being Kind in Your Marriage
Would you really want to be married to someone who’s “nice?” I don’t think you would. It’s easy to confuse…
Try Out These Four Fun and Unique Date Night Ideas
Investing in your relationship for the long haul involves making memories together, learning about each other, and enjoying time together.…
Want Your Marriage to Last? Let Your Relationship Breathe
The healthiest marriages are not the ones where husband and wife spend the most time together. Does that surprise you?…
Where to Invest in Your Marriage for Long-Term Success
Nothing of real value just happens. You don’t drift toward a finely tuned athletic body, a million-dollar retirement fund, or…
What It Looks Like to be FOR Your Relationship
Deeper than any specific words or actions is the position from which both you and your spouse come to your…
The Primary Purpose for which God Created Marriage
This is not what you signed up for. The things you expected marriage to be turned out to be wrong,…
Are These 8 Myths About Marriage Harming Your Relationship?
You imagine “I do” should lead to “happily ever after.” That may happen in fairy tales, romance novels, and cheesy…
To the Husband Blindsided by Your Wife
You’d have given your marriage a 7 or 8 on a scale of 1 to 10. You might prefer more…
How Managing Your Anxiety can Transform Your Marriage
You know you’re not at your best when you’re stressed out, anxious, or afraid. And your internal state doesn’t just…
Experiencing the Resurrection Power of Jesus in Your Marriage
When Jesus came and lived, died, and lived again He did so to bring restoration and life to not only…
Deciding Whether to Leave or Not Leave Your Marriage
“Should I stay or should I go?” I hear that from married people all the time. Emotions, memories, trauma, disappointment,…
Planning Regular Housecleaning For Your Marriage
Your marriage accumulates debris. Life’s just like that. Even after you’ve dealt with the major trash from the past more…
Getting Rid of the Trash Your Marriage Has Accumulated
Each week the trash truck hauls off the debris you accumulate in your home and most of us rarely if…
Is Marriage Worth the Struggle?
Yesterday I had a long talk with a couple whose marriage almost ended. After some serious bad behavior they separated…
Are Your Reasons for Marriage the Right Reasons?
Why did you get married in the first place, or why do you want to get married? And if you…
Make Valentine’s Day More than a Burdensome Commercial Pause
Today is Valentine’s Day. This sort-of holiday seems mostly like a chance for retailers to make money during an otherwise…
Five Enemies of Your Marriage (Your Spouse is Not One of Them)
It’s no surprise that marriage is under assault. Younger marriages end when one or both feel unhappy or unfulfilled. Longer-term…
How to Build the Marriage You Desire in the New Year
There’s nothing magic about January 1. But there can be something almost magical about you making a decided change and…
How to Criticize Your Spouse in the Way that Actually Works
Snide remarks. Eyerolls. Angry outbursts. Constant correction. Your spouse deserves that, right? After all, they’re messing up over and over…
What Kind of Marriage Do You Want in the Future?
Drifting, wishing, or hoping doesn’t get you to where you want to go. That’s true in every area of life,…
How to Help Your Wife Navigate Menopause and Midlife
As a husband, if your wife is approaching or experiencing menopause you may feel frustrated and powerless. You may feel…
Three Difficult Dynamics that Make Your Midlife Marriage Messy
If marriage is a marathon, not a sprint, perhaps you’re at mile 10, or 15, or 20. The initial fireworks…
How Your Marriage Gets Better When You Get Better
There’s something healthy and satisfying about coming through when someone else is counting on you. Perhaps you’ve been in a…
Four Questions to Help Diagnose Your Painful Marriage
Where on the spectrum of happy-to-unhappy is your marriage? What’s really the problem, and how serious is it? How can…
How Christ and the Church Form the Model for Marriage and Sex
Intimacy in marriage. The one-flesh experience most Jesus-followers are looking for when they say “I do.” OK, you have physical…
What God Designed Intimacy in Marriage to Be Like
We’ve been talking these last few weeks about the journey to what God designed intimacy in marriage to be like.…
5 Lies When Marriage and Ministry Collide
Modern culture puts intense pressure on marriages. The only way any marriage can thrive is through God’s grace as the…
