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Jesus has done something for you. You have experienced transformation in some area of your life. Perhaps a blog post,…
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Uncovering the Heart of a Christian Man
It may be somewhat dangerous to write specifically to men. I’m not a man, and I speak carefully. Some things…
How to “Forget the Past” When it Haunts You
You’ve messed up. Perhaps you’ve messed up a lot over a long period of time. You’d like things to be…
Five Ways to Pray About Your Troubled Marriage
Every marriage faces challenges. And praying is the best thing you can do. God loves to do miracles! He is…
When Praying to Restore Your Marriage Isn’t Working
It’s dangerous to even imply that prayer isn’t enough. That seems to go against what any “good” Christian believes. And…
Two Reasons to Rejoice on Good Friday
This is Holy Week, the time each year when Christians around the world remember the death and resurrection of Jesus.…
What “Winter” Exposes in Your Life
Ice is extraordinarily destructive. A few weeks ago Texas spent seven days choked by a deep freeze. Ice, then snow,…
Overcoming the Fear of Dealing with Your Sexual Stuff
There are good reasons for you to hold back. Fear is a big part of why you keep hiding. Getting…
Sex Before Marriage: What I Did Right – And Wrong
I did it right. I made it. I didn’t have sex before marriage. And it was a long wait, too.…
Why do I Keep Sinning the Same Way?
There’s something you keep doing that you know you shouldn’t be doing. Or perhaps you’re not doing something you know…
How Your Sexual Story Impacts Your Marriage
If you’ve been raised in church you’ve probably heard this is how it’s “supposed” to be: boy meets girl, they…
How to Ditch what is Holding You Back from Your Purpose
You’ve heard, “God has a purpose for you.” But many people are frustrated, wondering why they’re not finding or experiencing…
Finding God’s Purpose for Your Marriage
Swimmingly smooth or terribly turbulent, newlyweds or lifelong lovers, there is a purpose behind your marriage. You may have slid…
What YOU Have Made Possible
As 2020 comes to an end, I want to say Thank You for what YOU have made possible. Your involvement…
How to be Grateful For Your Messy Marriage
This week we celebrate Thanksgiving Day in the United States. The challenges presented by the COVID-19 pandemic, racial and political…
Dealing with Triggers in your Marriage
The only people who don’t get triggered are those who are perfectly healed and completely mature. And neither you nor…
Are You Hoping or Doing for Your Breakthrough?
When you feel stuck and little seems to change, humans tend to fall into one of two ditches. Some people…
Want a Better Marriage? Start Breakthrough Prayers
A healthy marriage doesn’t just “happen.” You’ve learned that by now. And you’ve prayed and prayed, but nothing seems to…
How to Experience Breakthrough That Actually Lasts
Problem solved! Your prayers are answered! That thing you needed God to address; He’s done it. God showed up. Hallelujah!…
When Your Marriage Needs a Breakthrough
Marriage is a good thing, as God designed it. But as with every good thing from God, your marriage is…
You CAN Experience Breakthrough
Why does it often seem so hard? The stuff you want to be different in your life – why doesn’t…
Can Any Good Come from Your Marriage Problems?
Your marriage is the union of two sinners. What a setup for problems! There are the “usual suspects” – money,…
The Resurrection that Follows Death
Death is not the end. That’s the message of the gospel, the good news. The paradigm of death followed by…
What Dying to Yourself Can Mean for your Christian Walk
The kingdom of God turns many of our human assumptions upside down. The way to power is through service. The…
How to Extend Grace Without Tolerating Sin
Jesus was full of both grace and truth. (John 1:14) We as humans tend to easily fall into the ditch…
How Unhealthy Christianity can Wreck Your Marriage
Isn’t making Christ the foundation of your marriage supposed to make things better? Then why are things between you and…
Is God Disappointed in You?
How does God feel about you? (We’re using human words to talk about God; that’s troublesome. But stick with me.)…
Three Steps to Overcoming Your Insecurity
Feeling insecure lately? Welcome to the club. Your brain may be saying, “Nobody would want me if they really knew.”…
How to Repair Your Relationship After “I’m Sorry”
A good marriage is the union of two good forgivers. But when you’ve hurt your spouse it may take a…
El Roi: The God Who Sees Me
You carefully curate the pictures you upload to social media. You want to look your best. Or perhaps you are…
Why Can’t I Stop Sinning?
You’re still frequently angry and bitter. Curse words are still coming out of your mouth. You keep satisfying your sexual…
How to Deal With the Control Freak In Your Marriage
We all know a control freak – that person who has to micromanage everyone and everything around them. Such a…
How Messy is Always Part of the Process
Jesus accepts you just as you are. Unconditionally! And if you let Him, He has promised to take you to…
How I Learned to Love Well
While learning to love well is a life-long process, loving well was something I was privileged to deeply experience with…
Life After Dealing with your Stuff
Doing something hard becomes a lot easier when you know the awesome result that’s coming. Looking under the surface and…
How to Deal with What’s Under the Surface
What’s under the surface in your heart will continue to define you until and unless you deal with it. All…
What You Don’t Know About Marriage CAN Hurt You
Marriage as God intended it to be is about learning to love well. We don’t learn that automatically. What you…
How the Holy Spirit Changes You
When did you first say Yes to Jesus? Last weekend in church? Years ago, when you were a child? When…
How to Become Useful in God’s Kingdom
When you lay awake at night, do you ever wonder why you’re here? What’s the point of all this, anyway?…
Don’t Settle for a Miserable Marriage
Marriage affects your wellbeing. If your relationship is healthy you are happier, healthier, and generally live a longer more productive…
What Restoration Actually Looks Like
A marriage that’s damaged through infidelity. A public figure who betrays the trust of those they lead. A pastor caught…
Dealing with the Roots of Sexual “Stuff”
If you’ve been mowing the weeds of troubling, unwanted, or ungodly sexual thoughts or behaviors and they keep growing back,…
How to Experience Intimacy with God
Some people are hyper-religious and super-spiritual – and obnoxious. If that’s what “intimacy with God” produces, who wants it? Others…
Why God Invented Sex
How is intimacy going for you? It is good, healthy, nourishing? Or have your attempts at intimacy resulted in only…
What Intimacy with God Means
You’ve heard people talk about it. Perhaps it sounds a little weird, and at the same time something in your…
Getting Unstuck.. Past, Present, and Future
Some people get stuck in the past. They respond as though the trauma or other challenge they experienced decades ago…
How to Come Out of Hiding
How we love to hide! It’s been that way ever since the Garden of Eden. (Genesis 3:8-10) Wounds create shame.…
Marriage in the Real World
The marriages you saw and experienced growing up were a mixture of good and bad. If your parents were happily…
Creating a New Marriage
Every marriage experiences mess-ups. It’s easy to get caught up in shame, blame, and misery. But taking the necessary steps…
How to Escape Unnecessary Suffering
No human being escapes all suffering. While perhaps unkind, it would have been true for me to say over the…
