HOLD the Communication! Do These Things First
The usual ways you and your spouse communicate lead to predictable results; frustration, anger, withdrawing, or fighting. Is it even…
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40 Days to Freedom from Fear and Anxiety
Does your mind keep you awake at night, unable to stop swirling about bad stuff that might be about to…
Your Spouse is Emotionally Cheating: 5 Things to Do
It might seem simpler, though even more devastating, to walk in and find your spouse in bed with someone else.…
Who Is Your God?
Do you know who your God is? As Christian believers that may seem a rhetorical question. But if someone met…
Pursuing Intimacy with Your Husband
(This is a message especially for wives. Last week I talked about the other side – a message for husbands.)…
Your Prescription for Fear and Anxiety
What are you so worried about? What are you so afraid of? The Bible says we should not be anxious…
How Spirituality and Fear Affect Each Other
You’re afraid. You’re anxious and upset. So you pray. And pray some more. But what about when your fear and…
When You or Your Spouse is Angry
You do not want to be married to someone who never becomes angry. There is no more boring or superficial…
Lonely and Disappointed on Valentine’s Day
Do you feel like a member of the Lonely Hearts Club? Were you disappointed on Valentine’s Day? You’re not alone.…
How to Hear from God: 5 Keys
God must often feel like shouting, “Can you hear me now?” People ask me quite often how to hear from…
7 Things to Know if your Spouse is a Christian and Abusive
God-talk and violence – physical, sexual, mental, or spiritual – have mixed for centuries. Sadly that same mixture shows up…
Positive Thinking and the Bible
Is it magic? Is it “mind over matter?” Does faith mean white-knuckling it with positive thoughts and affirmations? What do you…
If Your Spouse Suffers from Depression: 3 Things to Do
The quality of your home life and your marriage is certainly affected by your spouse’s mental health. When your spouse…
Two Times when Anxiety may be Useful
Anxiety is uncomfortable. You’re keyed up inside. You wonder if you can trust your thinking. And your body may experience…
When Your Spouse is Emotionally Distant
He seems to pay more attention to his dog and his TV than he does to you. She is always…
The Stockdale Paradox and Spiritual Warfare
Vice Admiral James B. Stockdale was an officer in the US Navy during the Vietnam War. He became a fighter…
HOPE for the In-Between Times
The in-between times can often be one of the most challenging. The Christmas celebrations are over. The New Year is…
7 Things to Do the Day After Christmas
It’s the day after Christmas. The presents are unwrapped. The Christmas decorations may still be up. Christmas dinner leftovers are…
12 Things to do if you’re Lonely at Christmas
The Christmas holiday season is promoted as a time of togetherness. Families sometimes travel long distances to be with loved…
The 3 Biggest False Beliefs About Marriage
Is your marriage turning out like you thought it would? Probably not. What you believed about marriage before saying “I…
7 Steps to Dealing with BIG Marriage Problems
You could handle the little things, or so you tell yourself. You could pick up his dirty clothes now and…
Does Your Spouse Feel Safe With You?
Connected. Loving. Engaged. Invigorating. Happy. Isn’t that the kind of marriage you want? If you answered yes, then keep reading.…
How to Find the Presence of God
You may have heard or read things about the presence of God. You may have experienced times yourself when God…
More Than Gratitude: Trusting God for ENOUGH
There’s something powerful about relishing the enough-ness of where you are and what you have right now. It’s more than…
What to do if you Feel Unloved
Unwanted. Rejected. Second class. Fifth wheel. Unimportant. Not good enough. Lonely. You feel unloved, and it hurts. You want to…
Forgiveness in Marriage: How to Do it Well
Your spouse has hurt you. Guaranteed. If you haven’t been hurt by your spouse, you either got married five minutes…
How Can I Get My Spouse To . . . ? Facing a Miserable Marriage
One of the most common questions I am asked is some variation of “How can I get my spouse to…
3 Keys to Help You Manage Emotions
Have you picked up the habit of expressing yourself with emoticons? They fill our text messages, Facebook status updates, and…
Depressed Husband, Lonely Wife
A very lonely wife reached out to me: “I have a great husband, but he doesn’t take care of me intimately.…
Menopausal Wife, Frustrated Husband
A very frustrated husband reached out to me: “My wife seems like a different person since she became menopausal. I’m having…
How to Know God as your Husband
There’s that Scripture you know should mean more to you: “Your Maker is your husband.” (Isaiah 54:5) But you’re just…
What to Do when you Don’t Know What to Do
Wouldn’t you love it if you could wake up in the morning and find a message from God written on…
What Would Jesus Say to an LGBT Person?
Contemporary culture in our country and much of the world has seemed to place same-sex relationships on a par with…
Christian Women, their Hormones, and their Mental Health
You feel crazy. And your man is CERTAIN that you’re crazy. You feel as though you are a victim to…
How a Christian Deals with Money Worries
Money worries can have you by the throat. Perhaps you’re out of a job and don’t have any immediate prospects.…
Politics, Faith, and Fear
Politics and faith have clashed even more strongly during this election year in the United States. People on both sides…
Punish Your Wife or Husband the Right Way
Your spouse is completely exasperating you, and you can’t put up with it any longer. Perhaps if you punish your…
What to Do When You Feel Guilty
You can’t be a Christian very long before you experience the attack of guilt. You are just starting to feel…
7 Mistakes to Avoid When You’re Worked Up
It’s a rare person who never gets emotionally flustered. And I’m not sure such a person truly exists. Some people…
Raging Against Death: The End of the Story
You can handle a lot – for a while. You can handle separation from your sweetheart if you know you’ll…
No Fear Here: 3 Steps to Becoming Unafraid
One of the most common directives in the Bible is, “Don’t be afraid!” Do a search in your Bible app…
How to Trust God when Everything’s NOT Alright
Perhaps you’ve heard this old gospel song. It talks about the Bible stories of Moses, David, and Jesus, times when…
3 Keys to Overcoming the Resistance to Taking Charge
You’ve decided to take charge of some problem area in your life. You’re feeling encouraged. You’re taking the first steps…
5 Things the Bible Says to Those who are Depressed
Some people live lives filled with trouble or trauma, and it’s easy to understand why they feel tired, down, and…
The Meaning of Sex in the Heart of a Woman
Sex is messy. And the messiness of sex is not primarily physical (although it is that). The meaning of sex,…
Two Minutes to Being More Happy
People who are more happy experience 23% less stress, 39% better health, 31% more productivity, and 34% more positive social interactions.…
How to Find Comfort When You Need It
I need to be comforted this week. I “lost” a patient. Actually, two patients. Both mother and baby died, and…
4 Times that God Needs You to be Angry
The only people who are never angry are dead people – either dead literally, or dead-on-the-inside kind of dead. I’m…
4 Keys to Good Mental Health
Struggling with stress, anxiety, depression, or the like? Would you like to have good mental health? There’s more you can…
How to Use Your Faith as Help For Mental Health
Major depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder – these and other mental-health challenges are part of our human experience just as…
