Understanding Your Spouse’s Heart
You fell in love. You said “I do.” You thought you knew the person you were planning to make a…
emotions
When People Disappoint You
Did you know that happiness research is a “thing?” For the past few decades researchers have looked at what determines…
The Secret Ingredient that Makes Marriage Work
The trash didn’t get taken out – again. His underwear is there on the floor – again. She was late…
Is It OK to Ask WHY?
For as long as human beings have tried to survive in a sinful world they have asked WHY. The problem…
The Christian’s Journey Through Grief
** My new book The Christian’s Journey Through Grief is to be released next week, May 7, 2019, and it’s…
The Antidote to Self-Doubt
What does the self-talk in your head sound like? What do you tell yourself? Perhaps like so many people you…
When you should NOT be Kind to Your Spouse
Truthfully you should always be kind to your spouse. The problem comes when you confuse kind with nice. And accepting…
What to Do When You Feel Lonely
Pain is perhaps the loneliest thing in the world. That goes for emotional pain, physical pain, spiritual pain. It becomes…
When God Calls You to Stay in a Bad Marriage
Every marriage will have periods of challenge, times when “till death do us part” seems beyond your ability to handle.…
Take Jesus There With You
God doesn’t simply rain down healing or transformation from “on high.” Instead, He came to be with us. And in…
How to Find a Good Spouse
If you’re single and want to be married, you desire a good thing. Proverbs says, “He who finds a wife…
5 Things to do After a Fight with your Spouse
Chances are good you and your spouse have had a fight. Perhaps you even had a fight during the just-ended…
Three Things I Learned As a Single
I wanted to get married, but nothing was happening. I spent many years wondering what was so wrong with me…
Blended and Blessed: Finding Peace in a Step-Family
Over 50% of families in the United States are “re-coupled”, with one or both partners having been married before. Over…
Sexuality as a Single Christian
Perhaps you look at married couples with envy. It seems they get to express themselves sexually any time they want,…
3 Guaranteed Ways to Change Your Spouse
Oh, if it were only that easy! I hear every day from a husband or wife who says, “I can’t…
Use the Conflict in your Marriage to bring you Closer
Fights where you or your spouse use words or fists (or anything else) to hurt or manipulate the other is…
When You Don’t Feel Like Loving Your Spouse
Loving is easy when it feels good. That’s why they call it “falling in love.” In our 21st century western…
How to Deal with Masturbation and Pornography as a Christian
How do you handle the solo sexual stuff? How do you deal with masturbation and pornography as a Christian? I’m…
5 Things To Do When You Feel Like God Doesn’t Care
Do you ever feel like God doesn’t care? Someone says, “God is good.” And you respond, “All the time!” And yet…
3 Warning Signs You’re Under Spiritual Attack
Do you ever find yourself trudging along as if in a fog? Something’s off and you can’t nail it down.…
The Transformation of Your Mind
Our heads get us into trouble. Feelings get triggered by anything and everything, and some of us are more diligent…
Undo the Shame, Unlock your Transformation
Hiding is human. But if any part of you wants things to be different, it’s time to undo the shame…
How Helping Others Helps You
You were not created for yourself. Jesus did not come to simply make you feel better. Living as part of…
Can Your Feelings Change?
Feelings color everything we do. Some feelings are wonderful. And sometimes worry, anger, loneliness, depression, irritation, overwhelm, fear, or other…
How Changing Your Past Can Change Your Future
A wise mentor once told me, “You can never step into the same river twice.” Life happens. You can’t recreate…
How to Break the Crazy Communication Cycle
Do your attempts to communicate with your spouse end up leaving you more frustrated and upset? The Crazy Communication Cycle…
How to Fall Back in Love with Your Spouse
Feeling in love is a heady exhilarating experience for most people. Your stomach has butterflies, your eyes only see stars,…
Holiday Blues: Coping with Depression and Loneliness This Season
Perhaps you’re too young to remember Elvis’s Blue Christmas, but you may find yourself fighting a serious case of the…
What to Do When You Don’t Feel Thankful on Thanksgiving
Today in the United States we celebrate Thanksgiving Day. Family and friends gather to enjoy each other and remember our…
Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places
Sure, others wound us. But many of our wounds are self-inflicted. God created us for intimacy, but we too often…
Feeling God’s Love when Others Don’t Love You
You believe what the Bible says; “God is love.” But that can seem so intellectual, so “spiritual.” Your heart aches…
How to Receive Healing from God
We all need to receive healing from God. (And if you believe you’re the exception, you need an extra special…
Keep Your Sanity when your Spouse Doesn’t Meet your Needs
Your spouse should do more to meet your needs. Really, how could your husband or wife be that insensitive, clueless,…
When you should NOT have Sex with your Spouse
If your marriage is relatively happy and healthy and your sex life together is satisfying, this is not for you.…
5 Healthy Steps to Handling Conflict in Marriage
Money. Intimacy. In-laws. Parenting. What do you and your spouse fight about? Conflict happens in any marriage. The complete absence…
4 Necessary Keys to Helping People
Blessed to be a blessing. Cultivating generosity. There are few things in life that lead to more satisfaction, more fulfillment,…
Seeking Intimacy – Married or Single
If you’re married, chances are good intimacy was high on the list of what you were looking for when you…
Why Get Married? (It’s NOT for Happily Ever After!)
People get married for all kinds of reasons. In our modern Western society perhaps the most frequent reason is a…
The Water in your Soul: Dry, Stagnant, or Flowing?
What is the state of the water in your soul? Sometimes you feel dry. You’ve given until you have nothing…
Finding Safety in God’s Presence through Worship
If you’re a parent you know what it’s like to have your toddler run to you when they became afraid…
Translation Aids for Man-Speak and Woman-Speak
Perhaps Rosetta Stone, the language learning/translation software, should develop a program to provide translation aids between men and women. Listening…
When You’re Still Afraid and Anxious after you Pray
Jesus and His disciples are in the boat on the Sea of Galilee. The wind and waves are about to…
Say This, Not That: Healthy Communication Examples for Marriage
Communication can be difficult. You and your spouse seem to speak different languages. Attempts at talking seem to end up…
It’s Over on Tuesday!
Your opportunity to get the FREE bonuses for preordering Overcoming Fear and Anxiety through Spiritual Warfare lasts only until the…
No Fear of Death: Fearlessness as a Spiritual Weapon
Fear of death is perhaps the biggest fear of all. And losing the fear of death brings wonderful freedom and…
My Spouse Doesn’t Care About our Marriage: 5 Questions to Ask
You try. You really do! But your spouse seems to show no interest. You want your relationship to improve, and…
How Peter Overcame Crippling Fear
From what you have read in the New Testament, can you imagine Peter, James, John, Paul, or any of the…
Avoid these 8 Mistakes in Communicating with your Spouse
“Honey, we need to talk.” How does that work out for you? Do you end up in a screaming match?…
What are you afraid of? What are you worried about?
Before you answer “Nothing”, pause for a moment and think. Have swirling thoughts about things you can’t do anything about…
