The Christian’s Journey Through Grief
** My new book The Christian’s Journey Through Grief is to be released next week, May 7, 2019, and it’s…
Emotional and Mental Health
The SCENE in your Marriage
Today’s Western culture is often less than helpful or friendly to long-term Christian marriage. Few believers would dispute that, and…
The Antidote to Self-Doubt
What does the self-talk in your head sound like? What do you tell yourself? Perhaps like so many people you…
When you should NOT be Kind to Your Spouse
Truthfully you should always be kind to your spouse. The problem comes when you confuse kind with nice. And accepting…
What to Do When You Feel Lonely
Pain is perhaps the loneliest thing in the world. That goes for emotional pain, physical pain, spiritual pain. It becomes…
3 Steps to Fulfilling what God Created You to Do
Why are you here? What is the reason God placed you on this earth? Many people struggle with that question.…
God’s Design for Intimacy in Marriage
The very first institution God gave to humankind in the Garden of Eden was marriage. Surely He knew that marriage,…
When God Calls You to Stay in a Bad Marriage
Every marriage will have periods of challenge, times when “till death do us part” seems beyond your ability to handle.…
How to Know if you are Released from your Marriage
Jesus said that even though it was not God’s original design for marriage, divorce is “allowed” in some circumstances “because…
Take Jesus There With You
God doesn’t simply rain down healing or transformation from “on high.” Instead, He came to be with us. And in…
How I Push Through the Holiday Blues
Holidays are supposed to be “happy and bright,” right? But every year I hear from people for whom the holiday…
Sometimes I Feel Like Cheating
You haven’t done it – not yet. But you’ve felt like it. Part of you knows you shouldn’t. But things…
How Loving Others Changes You
Ask almost any Christian believer, and they will say Yes to the question, “Are you interested in becoming more like…
5 Things to do After a Fight with your Spouse
Chances are good you and your spouse have had a fight. Perhaps you even had a fight during the just-ended…
What Gratitude Does For You
Today is Thanksgiving Day in the United States. Many are gathering to celebrate with family, food, — and football. It’s…
Three Things I Learned As a Single
I wanted to get married, but nothing was happening. I spent many years wondering what was so wrong with me…
What Your Spouse CAN and CANNOT Do For You
In a healthy marriage your spouse meets some of your needs, but not all of them. It’s so easy to…
You’re Not Meant to Grow Alone
It’s a very old song: “No man is an island. No man stands alone.” In the body of Christ that’s…
Your Change, Your Choice
The God who created you has treated you with amazing dignity by giving you the gift of choice. Your limited…
Are You Wounding or Healing Your Spouse?
You’re probably doing both. Two sinners getting married is a setup for pain – and for transformation. It’s likely you’re…
How to Deal with Masturbation and Pornography as a Christian
How do you handle the solo sexual stuff? How do you deal with masturbation and pornography as a Christian? I’m…
To the Woman Feeling Rejected By Her Husband
You’re a woman feeling rejected. Part of you believes it shouldn’t bother you so much, but it does. You thought…
What To Do When Your Husband Doesn’t Want To Have Sex With You
The stereotype of a man pressuring his wife for sex does not apply to every relationship: there are many women who experience just the opposite. Even when a woman is not the sexual aggressor, it wounds a woman’s heart when her husband does not demonstrate sexual attraction to her.
Rather than wallowing in self-pity, or looking outside the marriage for satisfaction, here are five questions to consider if your husband appears to shrink from having sex with you.
5 Things To Do When You Feel Like God Doesn’t Care
Do you ever feel like God doesn’t care? Someone says, “God is good.” And you respond, “All the time!” And yet…
What To Do When Your Wife Doesn’t Want To Have Sex With You
I’ve heard from husbands of my patients, blog readers, radio listeners, and others about how frustrated and even angry a man can become when repeatedly rejected sexually.
Rather than feeling sorry for yourself, or looking outside your marriage for satisfaction, here are five questions to consider, and some practical things you may do, that have a good chance of improving the sexual connection in your marriage.
The Transformation of Your Mind
Our heads get us into trouble. Feelings get triggered by anything and everything, and some of us are more diligent…
Independence or Transformation?
Here in the United States we celebrated Independence Day yesterday. For some the day was filled with a parade, sun,…
5 Ways to Fight For Your Marriage
Sometimes even before the honeymoon is over it seems “the world, the flesh, and the devil” are conspiring to destroy…
Undo the Shame, Unlock your Transformation
Hiding is human. But if any part of you wants things to be different, it’s time to undo the shame…
Is Sex a Need?
Oh my, we’re getting touchy! Perhaps even asking that question feels like sandpaper in the most sensitive parts of you.…
Listening to God in a Distracted Culture
We live in a distracted age. The American Marketing Association estimates the average person is exposed to up to 10,000…
Setting Boundaries in your Marriage
Forgiveness is absolutely necessary in a healthy marriage, but by itself it’s not enough. Communication is vital, but it doesn’t…
How Helping Others Helps You
You were not created for yourself. Jesus did not come to simply make you feel better. Living as part of…
Can Your Feelings Change?
Feelings color everything we do. Some feelings are wonderful. And sometimes worry, anger, loneliness, depression, irritation, overwhelm, fear, or other…
The One Thing Single and Married Both Need
Single people searching for Mr. or Mrs. Right, or simply hooking up because marriage seems like too much work. Married…
What Can Christmas Do for You?
Few of us, if any, come to Christmas unscathed. The busyness of family and church events, family drama, or wishing…
How to Fall Back in Love with Your Spouse
Feeling in love is a heady exhilarating experience for most people. Your stomach has butterflies, your eyes only see stars,…
Holiday Blues: Coping with Depression and Loneliness This Season
Perhaps you’re too young to remember Elvis’s Blue Christmas, but you may find yourself fighting a serious case of the…
What to Do When You Don’t Feel Thankful on Thanksgiving
Today in the United States we celebrate Thanksgiving Day. Family and friends gather to enjoy each other and remember our…
How to Get what you Want from your Spouse
You’ve tried to change your spouse, but it’s not working. You need them to communicate better. That annoying habit of…
Submission in Christian Marriage
Hear the words “submission” and “marriage” in the same sentence and you may feel something visceral rise up in your…
Responding to #MeToo with More than a Hashtag
Gretchen Carlson. Alyssa Milano. Angelina Jolie. Katie Couric. Lady Gaga. Beth Moore. Kay Warren. Thousands of women from every walk…
Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places
Sure, others wound us. But many of our wounds are self-inflicted. God created us for intimacy, but we too often…
Feeling God’s Love when Others Don’t Love You
You believe what the Bible says; “God is love.” But that can seem so intellectual, so “spiritual.” Your heart aches…
Why God Created Us For Intimacy
Hiding is human. We’ve been doing it ever since Adam and Eve tried to hide from God in the Garden…
How to Receive Healing from God
We all need to receive healing from God. (And if you believe you’re the exception, you need an extra special…
Married On Purpose: Intentional Relationship Investments
Too many people slide into marriage without much intentionality. It’s just something you do – “if we feel like it.”…
Keep Your Sanity when your Spouse Doesn’t Meet your Needs
Your spouse should do more to meet your needs. Really, how could your husband or wife be that insensitive, clueless,…
5 Healthy Steps to Handling Conflict in Marriage
Money. Intimacy. In-laws. Parenting. What do you and your spouse fight about? Conflict happens in any marriage. The complete absence…
4 Necessary Keys to Helping People
Blessed to be a blessing. Cultivating generosity. There are few things in life that lead to more satisfaction, more fulfillment,…
