What Dying to Yourself Can Mean for your Christian Walk
The kingdom of God turns many of our human assumptions upside down. The way to power is through service. The…
Christian Life
Singles, Are You Idolizing Marriage?
Marriage is a good thing. The Bible says so. And if you want to be married, that desire is good.…
How to Extend Grace Without Tolerating Sin
Jesus was full of both grace and truth. (John 1:14) We as humans tend to easily fall into the ditch…
How Unhealthy Christianity can Wreck Your Marriage
Isn’t making Christ the foundation of your marriage supposed to make things better? Then why are things between you and…
How to Hold to Truth Without Being Judgmental
Jesus was full of both grace and truth. (John 1:14) But we as humans tend to easily fall into the…
Is God Disappointed in You?
How does God feel about you? (We’re using human words to talk about God; that’s troublesome. But stick with me.)…
Five Men Christian Women Should NOT Marry
You want a husband, right? But if there’s one thing worse than remaining single, it’s getting married to the wrong…
How to Put God First in All Things
You know the Scripture: “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be…
Five Women Christian Men Should NOT Marry
If you’re a man wanting to get married, there’s only one thing worse than remaining single: getting married to the…
Making Deposits in your Relationship Trust Account
A marriage without trust is not much of a marriage. It’s relatively easy to break trust with your spouse, and…
Solid Ground in Times of Change
A wise professor told me once, “You can never step in the same river twice.” Each time you step in,…
Is It Healing? Or Is It Deliverance?
Give a boy a hammer and the whole world looks like a nail. And Christians can fall into the same…
How to Make Christ the Foundation of Your Marriage
It sounds good. You know you “should” do it. “Make Christ the foundation of your marriage.” But what does that…
What Should I be Outraged About?
Outrage seems the order of the day. And if you’re not sufficiently outraged at the current politically correct evil in…
When You Care More Than Your Spouse
Feeling as though someone else doesn’t care as much as you do hurts a lot. You want things to work…
What Does Breakthrough Look Like?
Something is going on, and you want a breakthrough. You need God to come through for you in your finances,…
Learning to Pray for a Breakthrough
Have you felt stuck in your prayer life? Does it seem your prayers don’t get anywhere? Things are really bad,…
Why You Are NOT Entitled to Sex
You expected to be having sex with your spouse when you got married. And you may have also imagined that…
Why Free Will?
Couldn’t God have created us all to automatically love Him? Why did sin ever come into existence? Why free will…
How to Repair Your Relationship After “I’m Sorry”
A good marriage is the union of two good forgivers. But when you’ve hurt your spouse it may take a…
The View from the Top
Perspective matters. You know that. A good leader regularly reminds herself and those she leads of the bigger picture, especially…
What Forgiveness Does NOT Do for your Marriage
Your spouse is messing up BAD. He/she is having an affair, getting drunk, hiding out-of-control spending, using pornography, or engaging…
El Roi: The God Who Sees Me
You carefully curate the pictures you upload to social media. You want to look your best. Or perhaps you are…
What God Wants More than your Happiness
Have you said, “Doesn’t God want me to be happy?” In the forever sense, certainly He does. But what about…
What Is God’s Desire For You in this Pandemic?
Last Sunday millions of Christians around the world celebrated Easter differently. Many worshiped using online streaming services. Others met in…
How Knowing Who Your God Is Helps You in a Crisis
Who is your God? What kind of a God do you serve? How does knowing Who your God is make…
What Does “Crisis Mode” Look Like for Believers?
The COVID-19 pandemic has placed most families, businesses, and other organizations in crisis mode. Business as usual is not happening.…
Finding Spiritual Intimacy with your Spouse
God designed marriage to be an object lesson of the intimacy He desires with each one of us. That includes…
Why Can’t I Stop Sinning?
You’re still frequently angry and bitter. Curse words are still coming out of your mouth. You keep satisfying your sexual…
What You CAN Control in Your Marriage
Human beings love to be in control. But in marriage, when one person tries to control another true intimacy is…
What does Wholeness Look Like?
Jesus had a wonderful way of asking questions. You may know the story well. Jesus sees a man lying on…
How to Deal With the Control Freak In Your Marriage
We all know a control freak – that person who has to micromanage everyone and everything around them. Such a…
How Messy is Always Part of the Process
Jesus accepts you just as you are. Unconditionally! And if you let Him, He has promised to take you to…
How I Learned to Love Well
While learning to love well is a life-long process, loving well was something I was privileged to deeply experience with…
Life After Dealing with your Stuff
Doing something hard becomes a lot easier when you know the awesome result that’s coming. Looking under the surface and…
How to Deal with What’s Under the Surface
What’s under the surface in your heart will continue to define you until and unless you deal with it. All…
A Cure, not a Band-Aid
The problem isn’t always the real problem. Taking Tylenol when you have a fever doesn’t cure the infection. Mowing the…
God Does Not Work Alone
God can and does work any way He chooses. But God did not create you to need only Him. That…
Relationship Habits
Like locking the door behind you when you enter your home or brushing your teeth before going to bed, relationship…
The Difference Between Codependency and Love
Unhealthy people draw other people into their dysfunction. Anyone trying to be married to, or parent, or care for, or…
Choosing Your Focus for 2020
Happy 2020! Welcome to a new year, and a new decade! And if you want this year to be better…
Top Five Marriage Resources from 2019
If your marriage is less than you wish, this holiday season may feel especially challenging. Helping couples have the Healthy…
Waiting for Christmas – and Eternity
If you have a child or grandchild, you’re watching them count the days until Christmas with great excitement and anticipation.…
Broken Creche, Broken Heart at Christmas
The little olivewood creche was special to me ever since I had purchased it at a little tourist shop in…
Can Spiritual Warfare Be Healthy?
Bring up the topic of spiritual warfare and some people shout Hallelujah and begin praising God. Other people respond to…
How the Holy Spirit Changes You
When did you first say Yes to Jesus? Last weekend in church? Years ago, when you were a child? When…
How to Keep Your Faith When Things are Bad
Jesus promised His followers two things: trouble – and peace. “I have said these things to you, that in me…
How to Become Useful in God’s Kingdom
When you lay awake at night, do you ever wonder why you’re here? What’s the point of all this, anyway?…
How Family and Friends Impact Your Marriage
Most weddings are a celebration. Love is in the air. Family and friends show up for the party bringing bitter-sweet…
How Darkness Might Help You See Farther
How long has it been since you walked outside at night in a dark place, and really looked up at…
