How Authentic Christianity Moves From Religious Activity to Following Jesus
Imagine you’re a marketer for Christianity. What does being a Christian involve? OK, here we go. You get up early…
Christian Life
Are You Taking the Next Steps Toward Transformation?
You know things aren’t yet the way they should be. Perhaps you’re frustrated and discouraged. You’ve prayed, and things don’t…
Five Ways Helping Others Helps You
Aren’t you grateful for what Jesus has done in you? You may have a lot more to grow to get…
How to Celebrate Your Transformation Before You’re Done
How is your life different because of Jesus? You don’t have to be “done” to celebrate your transformation! You didn’t…
Help Someone Find the Transformation They Need
Jesus has done something for you. You have experienced transformation in some area of your life. Perhaps a blog post,…
Uncovering the Heart of a Christian Woman
It’s never been easy to be a woman. Ever since the Garden of Eden the serpent has come against Eve…
Submission in Christian Marriage
Hear the word “submission” and “marriage” in the same sentence and you may be gripped by the sudden urge to…
Uncovering the Heart of a Christian Man
It may be somewhat dangerous to write specifically to men. I’m not a man, and I speak carefully. Some things…
How to “Forget the Past” When it Haunts You
You’ve messed up. Perhaps you’ve messed up a lot over a long period of time. You’d like things to be…
What it Means for God to Make Everything Right
What’s wrong in your life right now? Oh, like me you may be very grateful for many things. I hope…
What Makes God Angry: It’s Not What You Think
I’ve sensed God’s anger. And it’s one of the most empowering, refreshing, encouraging parts of my recent walk with God.…
9 Characteristics of a Healthy Sexual Relationship for a Christian
Sex is complicated. When experienced as God intended it’s beautiful, bonding, nourishing. But when sex is marred and distorted by…
Recovering from Spiritual Abuse
When you’ve been harmed in the name of God, the path to wholeness is long and slow. Last time we…
When You’ve Been Harmed in the Name of God
It’s not just a salacious news article or one more statistic when it’s happened to you. When “God” is used…
Two Reasons to Rejoice on Good Friday
This is Holy Week, the time each year when Christians around the world remember the death and resurrection of Jesus.…
What “Winter” Exposes in Your Life
Ice is extraordinarily destructive. A few weeks ago Texas spent seven days choked by a deep freeze. Ice, then snow,…
Overcoming the Fear of Dealing with Your Sexual Stuff
There are good reasons for you to hold back. Fear is a big part of why you keep hiding. Getting…
When Your Spouse Has Sexual Baggage
It’s a rare person, if anyone, who comes to marriage without sexual “stuff.” You did. And so did your spouse.…
Hiding and Intimacy: They Cannot Coexist
Are you aware of how you are hiding? You are hiding, you know, whether you think you are or not.…
How to Stop Hiding From Your Spouse
You’ve got sexual baggage, and your sexual baggage is impacting your marriage. Your spouse has baggage too, but today we’re…
Sex Before Marriage: What I Did Right – And Wrong
I did it right. I made it. I didn’t have sex before marriage. And it was a long wait, too.…
Why do I Keep Sinning the Same Way?
There’s something you keep doing that you know you shouldn’t be doing. Or perhaps you’re not doing something you know…
Single Christian, Are You Struggling with Sex and Intimacy?
If you’re a Christian and you’ve been in church, you’ve probably heard the message “sex is for marriage.” But you’re…
How Your Sexual Story Impacts Your Marriage
If you’ve been raised in church you’ve probably heard this is how it’s “supposed” to be: boy meets girl, they…
Ignore This if Your Love Life is Perfect
Your love life is perfect? Great! You can ignore the rest of this message if: You’re experiencing beautiful regular intimacy,…
Eight Scriptures to Enhance Your Sex Life
Sex was God’s idea! And Oh how far humankind has fallen from His lofty ideal. But if you think the…
Your Biggest Calling May Not Be in Church
There’s little that is more fulfilling than to serve God. Humans thrive when they are part of something significant that’s…
Finding God’s Purpose for Your Marriage
Swimmingly smooth or terribly turbulent, newlyweds or lifelong lovers, there is a purpose behind your marriage. You may have slid…
Don’t Let Your Pain Go to Waste
Do you sometimes feel that much of your life is a waste? Things that have happened to you, decisions you’ve…
10 Resolutions that will Revolutionize Your Relationship in 2021
The only helpful thing about New Year’s resolutions is that they get you to focus on what you can do.…
Three Questions that will Get You What You Want in 2021
Some people make New Year’s Resolutions. Some people never do, because you have an 80% chance of not keeping them…
My 2020 Favorite Books, Podcasts, and Organizations
Each December I love sharing with you some of my favorite resources that I’ve enjoyed reading, listening to, and being…
How to Access God’s Plan for you to Become Whole and Stay Whole
You get really sick. What do you need to become whole and stay whole? You may need to visit the…
How to Stay Resilient During a Blue Holiday Season
Holidays are supposed to be “happy and bright,” right? But every year I hear from people for whom the holiday…
How to Strengthen Your Marriage Through the Holidays
The holiday season is always stressful. In spite of the joy, for many people the holiday blues are very real.…
Are You Praying for a Miracle? Or for Magic?
You pray and pray and wonder why your prayers aren’t answered. If God loves me, why doesn’t He answer me?…
When You Need a Breakthrough For Your Child
If you’re a parent, there’s little you care about more than the wellbeing of your children and your relationship with…
Why Not Every Marriage Can be Saved
Yes, God does miracles! He can and does transform the most destructive and hurtful marriages into shining demonstrations of His…
Five Things You Can Do to Hear God’s Voice
Last time we talked about some important characteristics of God’s voice, that will help you distinguish when it’s Him who…
How to Know If It’s Truly God’s Voice
God speaks. That’s a central truth of Scripture, and for centuries those who have followed Him have born witness to…
Dealing with Triggers in your Marriage
The only people who don’t get triggered are those who are perfectly healed and completely mature. And neither you nor…
Are You Hoping or Doing for Your Breakthrough?
When you feel stuck and little seems to change, humans tend to fall into one of two ditches. Some people…
Want a Better Marriage? Start Breakthrough Prayers
A healthy marriage doesn’t just “happen.” You’ve learned that by now. And you’ve prayed and prayed, but nothing seems to…
How to Experience Breakthrough That Actually Lasts
Problem solved! Your prayers are answered! That thing you needed God to address; He’s done it. God showed up. Hallelujah!…
When Your Marriage Needs a Breakthrough
Marriage is a good thing, as God designed it. But as with every good thing from God, your marriage is…
You CAN Experience Breakthrough
Why does it often seem so hard? The stuff you want to be different in your life – why doesn’t…
How You Can Follow Jesus in a Time of Political Division
This is election season in the United States. The rhetoric and unrest show how our country is perhaps more divided…
Becoming a Recovering People-Pleaser
The trap of people-pleasing is an easy one to fall into. I’m sure personality has something to do with it.…
When You’re Not “Feeling It” With Your Spouse
In our modern culture most people would not get married without “feeling it” with your spouse. The emotional sense of…
Living Well through Long-term Trauma
Things are not as we want them to be. They are not as God wants them to be. For the…
