How Messy is Always Part of the Process
Jesus accepts you just as you are. Unconditionally! And if you let Him, He has promised to take you to…
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How I Decided to Marry a Divorced Man
Remarriage after divorce is one of those topics that can make otherwise “good” Christians become prickly, self-righteous, or downright vindictive.…
Life After Dealing with your Stuff
Doing something hard becomes a lot easier when you know the awesome result that’s coming. Looking under the surface and…
Love is NOT All You Need
If you’re over a certain age perhaps you can hear it in your head even now: “All you need is…
How to Deal with What’s Under the Surface
What’s under the surface in your heart will continue to define you until and unless you deal with it. All…
A Cure, not a Band-Aid
The problem isn’t always the real problem. Taking Tylenol when you have a fever doesn’t cure the infection. Mowing the…
God Does Not Work Alone
God can and does work any way He chooses. But God did not create you to need only Him. That…
Relationship Habits
Like locking the door behind you when you enter your home or brushing your teeth before going to bed, relationship…
The Difference Between Codependency and Love
Unhealthy people draw other people into their dysfunction. Anyone trying to be married to, or parent, or care for, or…
Three Relationship Goals for Your Marriage
Whether you’re a New Year’s Resolutions person or not, the science is clear that defining clear goals makes it more…
Choosing Your Focus for 2020
Happy 2020! Welcome to a new year, and a new decade! And if you want this year to be better…
Top Five Marriage Resources from 2019
If your marriage is less than you wish, this holiday season may feel especially challenging. Helping couples have the Healthy…
Take Two Minutes to Change Someone’s Life
Where would you be if it wasn’t for Jesus? What difference has He made in your life? Somebody helped you…
Merry Christmas from Dr Carol Ministries
Christmas is a time to choose to remember. To celebrate what is good. To be grateful for the Gift that…
Waiting for Christmas – and Eternity
If you have a child or grandchild, you’re watching them count the days until Christmas with great excitement and anticipation.…
Broken Creche, Broken Heart at Christmas
The little olivewood creche was special to me ever since I had purchased it at a little tourist shop in…
Can Spiritual Warfare Be Healthy?
Bring up the topic of spiritual warfare and some people shout Hallelujah and begin praising God. Other people respond to…
How the Holy Spirit Changes You
When did you first say Yes to Jesus? Last weekend in church? Years ago, when you were a child? When…
How to Help, and Not Help, a Struggling Marriage
The marriage of someone close to you is in serious trouble. You may be tempted to tell your friend, “Why…
How to Keep Your Faith When Things are Bad
Jesus promised His followers two things: trouble – and peace. “I have said these things to you, that in me…
How to Become Useful in God’s Kingdom
When you lay awake at night, do you ever wonder why you’re here? What’s the point of all this, anyway?…
How Darkness Might Help You See Farther
How long has it been since you walked outside at night in a dark place, and really looked up at…
Is My Marriage Toxic?
How bad is bad enough? When you are unhappily married that can be a difficult question. If you’re serious about…
Five Ways to Help Someone who is Depressed or Anxious
If the statistic is even somewhat true that one in four of us struggles with a mental health challenge, you…
A Response to Suicide Prevention Day
What does it look like to heal from being broken-hearted? Is it possible? Last week, September 10, the world honored…
Are Your Prayers Too Small?
If it seems as though God is not answering your prayers, it’s probably not because your prayers are too big.…
How to Re-Learn about Sex and Intimacy
Where did you first learn about it? Was it in a class in school? From classmates, or older kids in…
What Restoration Actually Looks Like
A marriage that’s damaged through infidelity. A public figure who betrays the trust of those they lead. A pastor caught…
Why Should You Care About Your Body as a Christian?
Almost every believer would say that God cares about your physical body. But why? Isn’t your body going to die?…
Dealing with the Roots of Sexual “Stuff”
If you’ve been mowing the weeds of troubling, unwanted, or ungodly sexual thoughts or behaviors and they keep growing back,…
When You Feel Distant from God
God created you and me for intimacy with Himself. Intimacy with God is possible! But that feeling of being close…
Three Things to Do if you’re Struggling with Sexual Stuff
It’s a problem. And maybe it’s a problem for you. Struggling with sexual stuff is hard. This topic cuts so…
How to Experience Intimacy with God
Some people are hyper-religious and super-spiritual – and obnoxious. If that’s what “intimacy with God” produces, who wants it? Others…
Why God Invented Sex
How is intimacy going for you? It is good, healthy, nourishing? Or have your attempts at intimacy resulted in only…
What Intimacy with God Means
You’ve heard people talk about it. Perhaps it sounds a little weird, and at the same time something in your…
How to Come Out of Hiding
How we love to hide! It’s been that way ever since the Garden of Eden. (Genesis 3:8-10) Wounds create shame.…
How to Handle Suffering You Cannot Avoid
Some suffering is unnecessary. Suffering that we bring on ourselves through our sin and brokenness means that if our actions…
Connecting with Others when you’re Single
Feeling isolated, alone, or lonely is a common struggle for singles. And you may imagine that finding a boyfriend/girlfriend and…
Creating a New Marriage
Every marriage experiences mess-ups. It’s easy to get caught up in shame, blame, and misery. But taking the necessary steps…
How to Escape Unnecessary Suffering
No human being escapes all suffering. While perhaps unkind, it would have been true for me to say over the…
5 Steps to Take if you Messed Up in your Marriage
Marriage is the union of two sinners. You can be sure your spouse will mess up; that’s what sinners do.…
What Would It Mean to be Like Jesus?
What would it mean to be like Jesus? That is what He promised, after all. That’s the point. The whole…
Is It OK to Ask WHY?
For as long as human beings have tried to survive in a sinful world they have asked WHY. The problem…
5 Questions Every Married Person Should Ask
Ask the wrong questions, and you’ll get answers that are misleading at best and possibly harmful. Ask better questions, and…
The Christian’s Journey Through Grief
** My new book The Christian’s Journey Through Grief is to be released next week, May 7, 2019, and it’s…
The Antidote to Self-Doubt
What does the self-talk in your head sound like? What do you tell yourself? Perhaps like so many people you…
Three Things to Focus On When Your Spouse is Not a Believer
You may have married before you became a Christian, and now feel the growing disconnect between your newer relationship with…
What Kind of God Do You Serve?
You are a theologian whether you realize it or not. Theology is nothing more than what you believe about God.…
Is Your Marriage an Idol?
God gave marriage to humankind as a good gift. But just like food, rest, pleasure, money, authority, or any other…
What to do When it’s NOT OK
What’s the worst thing that’s ever happened to you? Or is it happening to you right now? Or perhaps the…
