Why “Too Old, Too Young or Too Hard” are Bad Excuses
Excuses, excuses. They sure sound good! How could I ever do that? I don’t have the training or money or…
Christianity
What is the Measure of Success for a Christian?
You’re committed to following Jesus. How’s it going? If your life continued on the trajectory it’s on now, would you…
Ways to Find Hope from Impossible Marriages that Survived
Marriage is both beautiful and hard. Sometimes it seems impossible. In today’s world we constantly see marriages ending. That may…
The Dangers of Rule-Based Christianity
Rule-based Christianity is dangerous. Doubt that? Surely at some point you’ve had a parent or teacher or boss or leader…
Four Questions to Help Diagnose Your Painful Marriage
Where on the spectrum of happy-to-unhappy is your marriage? What’s really the problem, and how serious is it? How can…
Join Me in Becoming A Woman Fully Alive
Life can be hard on a woman. Growing up is hard enough. Then comes choosing a career, perhaps marriage and…
9 Questions Jesus is Asking You
Have you ever noticed how often God asks questions? We often think of ourselves as asking questions of Him. But…
What Beautiful Thing Do You Want to Create in Your Marriage?
You are creative. You cannot be otherwise! You were made in the image of God, who by nature is the…
What to do When Frustrated that Your Prayer Isn’t Working
As a Christian your head believes prayer works, and you might even try to “defend” God if someone tries to…
Why Your Mental Image of God Matters So Much
What is it you love about your best friend? Why did you pick your spouse? That may be complicated, but…
Three Things To Do Between Mountaintop Experiences
Yesterday God showed up. Perhaps you experienced the power of God like Elijah did, calling down fire from heaven. Perhaps…
HELP! I Don’t Love My Spouse Anymore
In today’s Western culture being married usually means you started out “in love.” In that condition it seems your brain…
How to Have an Encounter with God
A few years ago I was privileged to travel to Bangalore, India. Hundreds of thousands of Christians from all over…
How Christ and the Church Form the Model for Marriage and Sex
Intimacy in marriage. The one-flesh experience most Jesus-followers are looking for when they say “I do.” OK, you have physical…
How Identity Leads To Behavior: Who You Are to What You Do
Why do you do what you do? Why do you work out, or keep a clean house, or go on…
Is It Gossip, Loyalty, Cover-up, or Getting Help?
Should you tell? Does keeping it hidden mean you’re being loyal – to the family? To the church? Does telling…
How to Deal with Doubt and Make the Choice to Believe
Is God real? Can He be trusted? Is He good? Is He for me? Where is God when it hurts?…
How Authentic Christianity Moves From Religious Activity to Following Jesus
Imagine you’re a marketer for Christianity. What does being a Christian involve? OK, here we go. You get up early…
What God Designed Intimacy in Marriage to Be Like
We’ve been talking these last few weeks about the journey to what God designed intimacy in marriage to be like.…
Are You Taking the Next Steps Toward Transformation?
You know things aren’t yet the way they should be. Perhaps you’re frustrated and discouraged. You’ve prayed, and things don’t…
Five Ways Helping Others Helps You
Aren’t you grateful for what Jesus has done in you? You may have a lot more to grow to get…
How to Celebrate Your Transformation Before You’re Done
How is your life different because of Jesus? You don’t have to be “done” to celebrate your transformation! You didn’t…
Submission in Christian Marriage
Hear the word “submission” and “marriage” in the same sentence and you may be gripped by the sudden urge to…
Uncovering the Heart of a Christian Man
It may be somewhat dangerous to write specifically to men. I’m not a man, and I speak carefully. Some things…
What it Means to Trust God With Your Marriage
Your marriage is struggling. You pray (and you should!). But when you pray it’s easy to fall into one of…
How to “Forget the Past” When it Haunts You
You’ve messed up. Perhaps you’ve messed up a lot over a long period of time. You’d like things to be…
What Makes God Angry: It’s Not What You Think
I’ve sensed God’s anger. And it’s one of the most empowering, refreshing, encouraging parts of my recent walk with God.…
9 Characteristics of a Healthy Sexual Relationship for a Christian
Sex is complicated. When experienced as God intended it’s beautiful, bonding, nourishing. But when sex is marred and distorted by…
Recovering from Spiritual Abuse
When you’ve been harmed in the name of God, the path to wholeness is long and slow. Last time we…
When You’ve Been Harmed in the Name of God
It’s not just a salacious news article or one more statistic when it’s happened to you. When “God” is used…
Two Reasons to Rejoice on Good Friday
This is Holy Week, the time each year when Christians around the world remember the death and resurrection of Jesus.…
10 Proven Ways to Connect With Your Spouse
You want to feel connected. That’s what you expected in marriage. The hormones and pheromones and all the other “mones”…
What “Winter” Exposes in Your Life
Ice is extraordinarily destructive. A few weeks ago Texas spent seven days choked by a deep freeze. Ice, then snow,…
Caring for Your Heart When Your Spouse Won’t Connect
You were created for intimacy. You probably got married expecting that doing so would fulfill your needs for connection, love,…
Overcoming the Fear of Dealing with Your Sexual Stuff
There are good reasons for you to hold back. Fear is a big part of why you keep hiding. Getting…
Hiding and Intimacy: They Cannot Coexist
Are you aware of how you are hiding? You are hiding, you know, whether you think you are or not.…
How to Stop Hiding From Your Spouse
You’ve got sexual baggage, and your sexual baggage is impacting your marriage. Your spouse has baggage too, but today we’re…
Sex Before Marriage: What I Did Right – And Wrong
I did it right. I made it. I didn’t have sex before marriage. And it was a long wait, too.…
Why do I Keep Sinning the Same Way?
There’s something you keep doing that you know you shouldn’t be doing. Or perhaps you’re not doing something you know…
Single Christian, Are You Struggling with Sex and Intimacy?
If you’re a Christian and you’ve been in church, you’ve probably heard the message “sex is for marriage.” But you’re…
How Your Sexual Story Impacts Your Marriage
If you’ve been raised in church you’ve probably heard this is how it’s “supposed” to be: boy meets girl, they…
Ignore This if Your Love Life is Perfect
Your love life is perfect? Great! You can ignore the rest of this message if: You’re experiencing beautiful regular intimacy,…
Eight Scriptures to Enhance Your Sex Life
Sex was God’s idea! And Oh how far humankind has fallen from His lofty ideal. But if you think the…
How to Ditch what is Holding You Back from Your Purpose
You’ve heard, “God has a purpose for you.” But many people are frustrated, wondering why they’re not finding or experiencing…
36 Ways To Tell Your Spouse “I Love You”
Whether you’ve been married 25 days or 50 years, your spouse needs to hear you say “I love you!” It’s…
God’s Purpose for Your Life is Unique to YOU
Just because it hasn’t been done before doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. The fact that there is no specific…
Your Biggest Calling May Not Be in Church
There’s little that is more fulfilling than to serve God. Humans thrive when they are part of something significant that’s…
Finding God’s Purpose for Your Marriage
Swimmingly smooth or terribly turbulent, newlyweds or lifelong lovers, there is a purpose behind your marriage. You may have slid…
Don’t Let Your Pain Go to Waste
Do you sometimes feel that much of your life is a waste? Things that have happened to you, decisions you’ve…
Why Marrying a “Christian” Won’t Guarantee a Happy Relationship
There’s a myth many people believe, that if the person they want to marry is a Christian, they will have…
