What Forgiveness Does NOT Do for your Marriage
Your spouse is messing up BAD. He/she is having an affair, getting drunk, hiding out-of-control spending, using pornography, or engaging…
Overcoming Hardship
What God Wants More than your Happiness
Have you said, “Doesn’t God want me to be happy?” In the forever sense, certainly He does. But what about…
Has Lockdown Hurt Your Marriage?
The different world we are living in today places more pressure on everyone, and on your marriage. Like a tube…
What Is God’s Desire For You in this Pandemic?
Last Sunday millions of Christians around the world celebrated Easter differently. Many worshiped using online streaming services. Others met in…
Your Marriage Under Lockdown
If things are wonderful between you and your spouse, lockdown due to the COVID-19 pandemic may seem great; you’ve got…
Three Ways to Pray During the COVID-19 Crisis
Praying is a good thing. Always! For the believer prayer should be the first thing we go to. And yet…
What Does “Crisis Mode” Look Like for Believers?
The COVID-19 pandemic has placed most families, businesses, and other organizations in crisis mode. Business as usual is not happening.…
Battling Fear Over the Coronavirus (COVID-19)
Within the past few days life for those of us living in the US has changed. In some other parts…
Why Can’t I Stop Sinning?
You’re still frequently angry and bitter. Curse words are still coming out of your mouth. You keep satisfying your sexual…
How Messy is Always Part of the Process
Jesus accepts you just as you are. Unconditionally! And if you let Him, He has promised to take you to…
How I Learned to Love Well
While learning to love well is a life-long process, loving well was something I was privileged to deeply experience with…
Life After Dealing with your Stuff
Doing something hard becomes a lot easier when you know the awesome result that’s coming. Looking under the surface and…
How to Deal with What’s Under the Surface
What’s under the surface in your heart will continue to define you until and unless you deal with it. All…
Brain Science, Porn and Human Trafficking
Why is porn so addictive? What’s the connection between porn and human trafficking? I’m thrilled to present this guest post…
A Cure, not a Band-Aid
The problem isn’t always the real problem. Taking Tylenol when you have a fever doesn’t cure the infection. Mowing the…
What You Don’t Know About Marriage CAN Hurt You
Marriage as God intended it to be is about learning to love well. We don’t learn that automatically. What you…
Waiting for Christmas – and Eternity
If you have a child or grandchild, you’re watching them count the days until Christmas with great excitement and anticipation.…
Broken Creche, Broken Heart at Christmas
The little olivewood creche was special to me ever since I had purchased it at a little tourist shop in…
Can Spiritual Warfare Be Healthy?
Bring up the topic of spiritual warfare and some people shout Hallelujah and begin praising God. Other people respond to…
How to Keep Your Faith When Things are Bad
Jesus promised His followers two things: trouble – and peace. “I have said these things to you, that in me…
How to Become Useful in God’s Kingdom
When you lay awake at night, do you ever wonder why you’re here? What’s the point of all this, anyway?…
How Darkness Might Help You See Farther
How long has it been since you walked outside at night in a dark place, and really looked up at…
The Key to Better Intimacy With Your Spouse
How’s your sex life with your spouse? If this topic leaves you frustrated, angry, lonely, or feeling rejected, you’re in…
Are You Spiritually Healthy?
I hope you are. I really do! Hopefully your spiritual practices bring you joy and growth, you feel connected to…
The Key to Healthier Thoughts and Feelings
GI-GO. Any old-time computer person will recognize that acronym; Garbage In, Garbage Out. If you want better output, change the…
Don’t Settle for a Miserable Marriage
Marriage affects your wellbeing. If your relationship is healthy you are happier, healthier, and generally live a longer more productive…
Five Ways to Help Someone who is Depressed or Anxious
If the statistic is even somewhat true that one in four of us struggles with a mental health challenge, you…
When Your Spouse Hurts You
You will be wounded in your marriage. It’s not a question of if, but when your spouse hurts you. But…
A Response to Suicide Prevention Day
What does it look like to heal from being broken-hearted? Is it possible? Last week, September 10, the world honored…
Are Your Prayers Too Small?
If it seems as though God is not answering your prayers, it’s probably not because your prayers are too big.…
What Restoration Actually Looks Like
A marriage that’s damaged through infidelity. A public figure who betrays the trust of those they lead. A pastor caught…
When You Become Your Spouse’s Caregiver
If your marriage has had a reasonable degree of closeness and love, when one spouse becomes ill it affects the…
When You Feel Distant from God
God created you and me for intimacy with Himself. Intimacy with God is possible! But that feeling of being close…
Three Things to Do if you’re Struggling with Sexual Stuff
It’s a problem. And maybe it’s a problem for you. Struggling with sexual stuff is hard. This topic cuts so…
Characteristics of a Sound Mind
One of the Scriptures many Christians know well is 2 Timothy 1:7. In the KJV it reads: “For God hath…
Closing the Gap Between You and Your Spouse
Intimacy doesn’t just happen. If you and your spouse ever are going to come closer together, one of you will…
When Your Spouse is Negative
Keeping a positive outlook on life brings many benefits – both to your own experience and to your marriage. But…
25 Good Things to Think About
Thoughts control actions. Thoughts come before emotions. Thoughts impact how other people see you, and how you react to every situation you come across. Choosing what thoughts to think can go a long way toward making you well or sick, happy or sad, lonely or connected, desperate or satisfied.
If you feel challenged to know what to think about, here’s a list to get you started. When you find yourself rolling negative things around in your mind, choose one of these items instead. You can think about:
“I Hate Sex!”
If your heart whispers – or screams – “I hate sex”, you’re not alone. That might sound as strange as…
Is your Digital Diet Causing Anxiety?
Feeling overwhelmed with life. Distracted without a sense of purpose. Overstressed and overanxious. Lonely, without close relationships. Unable to focus,…
How to Reconnect with Your Spouse
You are feeling seriously disconnected from your spouse, and it’s just plain awful. You’ve determined you will no longer ignore,…
Getting Unstuck.. Past, Present, and Future
Some people get stuck in the past. They respond as though the trauma or other challenge they experienced decades ago…
3 Things NOT to do When You Feel Disconnected From Your Spouse
Getting married, you were hoping the fireworks between you would continue. The bond was real, and it felt good. But…
How to Come Out of Hiding
How we love to hide! It’s been that way ever since the Garden of Eden. (Genesis 3:8-10) Wounds create shame.…
Understanding Your Spouse’s Heart
You fell in love. You said “I do.” You thought you knew the person you were planning to make a…
When People Disappoint You
Did you know that happiness research is a “thing?” For the past few decades researchers have looked at what determines…
How to Handle Suffering You Cannot Avoid
Some suffering is unnecessary. Suffering that we bring on ourselves through our sin and brokenness means that if our actions…
Connecting with Others when you’re Single
Feeling isolated, alone, or lonely is a common struggle for singles. And you may imagine that finding a boyfriend/girlfriend and…
Creating a New Marriage
Every marriage experiences mess-ups. It’s easy to get caught up in shame, blame, and misery. But taking the necessary steps…
How to Escape Unnecessary Suffering
No human being escapes all suffering. While perhaps unkind, it would have been true for me to say over the…
