Five Enemies of Your Marriage (Your Spouse is Not One of Them)
It’s no surprise that marriage is under assault. Younger marriages end when one or both feel unhappy or unfulfilled. Longer-term…
Overcoming Hardship
Jesus, Please Help Me Understand What’s Going On Here
When things are difficult one of the most helpful questions I’ve learned to ask is, “Jesus, what’s going on here?”…
How to Become the Spouse God Needs You to Be in 2022
How would you grade your marriage today? There are few things that make a bigger impact on your sense of…
Praying Hope Over Your Marriage This Christmas
The holiday season is a time of conflicting emotions for many. When it comes to your marriage, if things are…
2021: A Different Year, A Different Gratitude List
Today is Thanksgiving Day in the United States. I love that it’s the least commercialized of the major holidays. If…
How to Win When Your Spouse Triggers You
Something inside you goes off. Your spouse says something (or doesn’t), gives you a look, or acts a certain way,…
What Life do You Want Five Years from Now?
We’ve all heard stories of people lost at sea, left to the mercy of the currents. While there’s a remote…
Why “Too Old, Too Young or Too Hard” are Bad Excuses
Excuses, excuses. They sure sound good! How could I ever do that? I don’t have the training or money or…
Ways to Find Hope from Impossible Marriages that Survived
Marriage is both beautiful and hard. Sometimes it seems impossible. In today’s world we constantly see marriages ending. That may…
What Beautiful Thing Do You Want to Create in Your Marriage?
You are creative. You cannot be otherwise! You were made in the image of God, who by nature is the…
HELP! My Spouse Doesn’t Love Me Anymore!
You want to be loved. You need to be loved. You thrive when you’re loved and you wither when you’re…
Three Things To Do Between Mountaintop Experiences
Yesterday God showed up. Perhaps you experienced the power of God like Elijah did, calling down fire from heaven. Perhaps…
HELP! I Don’t Love My Spouse Anymore
In today’s Western culture being married usually means you started out “in love.” In that condition it seems your brain…
Is It Gossip, Loyalty, Cover-up, or Getting Help?
Should you tell? Does keeping it hidden mean you’re being loyal – to the family? To the church? Does telling…
How to Deal with Doubt and Make the Choice to Believe
Is God real? Can He be trusted? Is He good? Is He for me? Where is God when it hurts?…
Are You Taking the Next Steps Toward Transformation?
You know things aren’t yet the way they should be. Perhaps you’re frustrated and discouraged. You’ve prayed, and things don’t…
How to Celebrate Your Transformation Before You’re Done
How is your life different because of Jesus? You don’t have to be “done” to celebrate your transformation! You didn’t…
Uncovering the Heart of a Christian Man
It may be somewhat dangerous to write specifically to men. I’m not a man, and I speak carefully. Some things…
What it Means to Trust God With Your Marriage
Your marriage is struggling. You pray (and you should!). But when you pray it’s easy to fall into one of…
How to “Forget the Past” When it Haunts You
You’ve messed up. Perhaps you’ve messed up a lot over a long period of time. You’d like things to be…
Rebuilding Your Marriage After Traumatizing Sex
God intended married sex to be life-giving – mutual, satisfying, exciting, comforting, bonding, nourishing, joyful. Evil has so hijacked sex,…
What it Means for God to Make Everything Right
What’s wrong in your life right now? Oh, like me you may be very grateful for many things. I hope…
To the Wife Traumatized by Married Sex
Just because sex happens within marriage doesn’t always mean it’s good. God designed sex to be a beautiful life-giving nurturing…
What Makes God Angry: It’s Not What You Think
I’ve sensed God’s anger. And it’s one of the most empowering, refreshing, encouraging parts of my recent walk with God.…
Recovering from Spiritual Abuse
When you’ve been harmed in the name of God, the path to wholeness is long and slow. Last time we…
When You’ve Been Harmed in the Name of God
It’s not just a salacious news article or one more statistic when it’s happened to you. When “God” is used…
What “Winter” Exposes in Your Life
Ice is extraordinarily destructive. A few weeks ago Texas spent seven days choked by a deep freeze. Ice, then snow,…
Sex Before Marriage: What I Did Right – And Wrong
I did it right. I made it. I didn’t have sex before marriage. And it was a long wait, too.…
Don’t Let Your Pain Go to Waste
Do you sometimes feel that much of your life is a waste? Things that have happened to you, decisions you’ve…
Three Questions that will Get You What You Want in 2021
Some people make New Year’s Resolutions. Some people never do, because you have an 80% chance of not keeping them…
Three Powerful Keys to a Better Marriage in 2021
Last year was so – 2020. A year many people want never to repeat. Most are hoping and praying for…
How to Access God’s Plan for you to Become Whole and Stay Whole
You get really sick. What do you need to become whole and stay whole? You may need to visit the…
How to Stay Resilient During a Blue Holiday Season
Holidays are supposed to be “happy and bright,” right? But every year I hear from people for whom the holiday…
How to Choose to Be Thankful Anyway
Today is Thanksgiving Day in the United States. I love this day. Without the commercialization of most other holidays, we…
Are You Hoping or Doing for Your Breakthrough?
When you feel stuck and little seems to change, humans tend to fall into one of two ditches. Some people…
Want a Better Marriage? Start Breakthrough Prayers
A healthy marriage doesn’t just “happen.” You’ve learned that by now. And you’ve prayed and prayed, but nothing seems to…
How to Experience Breakthrough That Actually Lasts
Problem solved! Your prayers are answered! That thing you needed God to address; He’s done it. God showed up. Hallelujah!…
When Your Marriage Needs a Breakthrough
Marriage is a good thing, as God designed it. But as with every good thing from God, your marriage is…
You CAN Experience Breakthrough
Why does it often seem so hard? The stuff you want to be different in your life – why doesn’t…
Can Any Good Come from Your Marriage Problems?
Your marriage is the union of two sinners. What a setup for problems! There are the “usual suspects” – money,…
The Power of Going First in Your Marriage
If your marriage relationship is great, you already understand what I’m going to talk about here. But if your marriage…
Living Well through Long-term Trauma
Things are not as we want them to be. They are not as God wants them to be. For the…
The Resurrection that Follows Death
Death is not the end. That’s the message of the gospel, the good news. The paradigm of death followed by…
Solid Ground in Times of Change
A wise professor told me once, “You can never step in the same river twice.” Each time you step in,…
Is It Healing? Or Is It Deliverance?
Give a boy a hammer and the whole world looks like a nail. And Christians can fall into the same…
Three Steps to Overcoming Your Insecurity
Feeling insecure lately? Welcome to the club. Your brain may be saying, “Nobody would want me if they really knew.”…
Fighting the Spiritual Battle on 21st Century Battlefields
Pandemic. Racism. Riots. Economic uncertainty. And that’s just those things that are recently top-of-mind for most people. There’s an uncovering…
What Does Breakthrough Look Like?
Something is going on, and you want a breakthrough. You need God to come through for you in your finances,…
Learning to Pray for a Breakthrough
Have you felt stuck in your prayer life? Does it seem your prayers don’t get anywhere? Things are really bad,…
The View from the Top
Perspective matters. You know that. A good leader regularly reminds herself and those she leads of the bigger picture, especially…
