How to Build Safety in Your Marriage
You want intimacy. That’s why you got married! But intimacy doesn’t just happen; there are several necessary ingredients that must…
Intimacy
What it Means to Trust God With Your Marriage
Your marriage is struggling. You pray (and you should!). But when you pray it’s easy to fall into one of…
Rebuilding Your Marriage After Traumatizing Sex
God intended married sex to be life-giving – mutual, satisfying, exciting, comforting, bonding, nourishing, joyful. Evil has so hijacked sex,…
To the Wife Traumatized by Married Sex
Just because sex happens within marriage doesn’t always mean it’s good. God designed sex to be a beautiful life-giving nurturing…
10 Proven Ways to Connect With Your Spouse
You want to feel connected. That’s what you expected in marriage. The hormones and pheromones and all the other “mones”…
Caring for Your Heart When Your Spouse Won’t Connect
You were created for intimacy. You probably got married expecting that doing so would fulfill your needs for connection, love,…
Overcoming the Fear of Dealing with Your Sexual Stuff
There are good reasons for you to hold back. Fear is a big part of why you keep hiding. Getting…
When Your Spouse Has Sexual Baggage
It’s a rare person, if anyone, who comes to marriage without sexual “stuff.” You did. And so did your spouse.…
Hiding and Intimacy: They Cannot Coexist
Are you aware of how you are hiding? You are hiding, you know, whether you think you are or not.…
How to Stop Hiding From Your Spouse
You’ve got sexual baggage, and your sexual baggage is impacting your marriage. Your spouse has baggage too, but today we’re…
Sex Before Marriage: What I Did Right – And Wrong
I did it right. I made it. I didn’t have sex before marriage. And it was a long wait, too.…
Nine Possible Reasons Your Spouse Doesn’t Want to Sleep With You
Sex and intimacy (they are related, but not the same!) is a top area of conflict in many marriages. Trying…
Single Christian, Are You Struggling with Sex and Intimacy?
If you’re a Christian and you’ve been in church, you’ve probably heard the message “sex is for marriage.” But you’re…
How Your Sexual Story Impacts Your Marriage
If you’ve been raised in church you’ve probably heard this is how it’s “supposed” to be: boy meets girl, they…
Ignore This if Your Love Life is Perfect
Your love life is perfect? Great! You can ignore the rest of this message if: You’re experiencing beautiful regular intimacy,…
Eight Scriptures to Enhance Your Sex Life
Sex was God’s idea! And Oh how far humankind has fallen from His lofty ideal. But if you think the…
How to Keep Intimacy Alive After Fifty
The stereotype of an exciting sex life during the early years of marriage that simply disappears as you age is…
When You’re Not “Feeling It” With Your Spouse
In our modern culture most people would not get married without “feeling it” with your spouse. The emotional sense of…
Why an Invitation is the Better Door to Intimacy
If you’re married and reading this, it’s likely you want greater intimacy with your spouse. And for many people that…
5 Things a Wife Can Do for a Better Sex Life
What happens in your soul when you hear “better sex life”? For some women you’d like to shout, “better would…
5 Things a Husband Can Do for a Better Sex Life
Most men want sex. And for the many men who would like a better sex life with their wives, it…
How to Make Christ the Foundation of Your Marriage
It sounds good. You know you “should” do it. “Make Christ the foundation of your marriage.” But what does that…
What Sex Does for Your Wife
You want to be a good husband, the kind of husband God wants you to be. You love your wife…
What Sex Does for Your Husband
You want to be a “good” wife, the kind of wife God wants you to be. You love your husband…
Why You Are NOT Entitled to Sex
You expected to be having sex with your spouse when you got married. And you may have also imagined that…
Ten Questions to Understand Your Spouse Better
How well do you know your husband or wife? You may have thought you knew them quite well when you…
What does Wholeness Look Like?
Jesus had a wonderful way of asking questions. You may know the story well. Jesus sees a man lying on…
Three Relationship Goals for Your Marriage
Whether you’re a New Year’s Resolutions person or not, the science is clear that defining clear goals makes it more…
Give Your Marriage the Gift of Communication
When we surveyed hundreds of couples young and old about what they wanted in their relationship, by far the most…
The Key to Better Intimacy With Your Spouse
How’s your sex life with your spouse? If this topic leaves you frustrated, angry, lonely, or feeling rejected, you’re in…
How to Re-Learn about Sex and Intimacy
Where did you first learn about it? Was it in a class in school? From classmates, or older kids in…
Dealing with the Roots of Sexual “Stuff”
If you’ve been mowing the weeds of troubling, unwanted, or ungodly sexual thoughts or behaviors and they keep growing back,…
Three Things to Do if you’re Struggling with Sexual Stuff
It’s a problem. And maybe it’s a problem for you. Struggling with sexual stuff is hard. This topic cuts so…
How to Experience Intimacy with God
Some people are hyper-religious and super-spiritual – and obnoxious. If that’s what “intimacy with God” produces, who wants it? Others…
Why God Invented Sex
How is intimacy going for you? It is good, healthy, nourishing? Or have your attempts at intimacy resulted in only…
What Intimacy with God Means
You’ve heard people talk about it. Perhaps it sounds a little weird, and at the same time something in your…
“I Hate Sex!”
If your heart whispers – or screams – “I hate sex”, you’re not alone. That might sound as strange as…
Marriage in the Real World
The marriages you saw and experienced growing up were a mixture of good and bad. If your parents were happily…
The “Good News” About Sex
Why talk about sex? Because God talks a lot about it, because the devil works overtime to distort and use…
How to Move Closer to your Spouse
Knowing about God’s design for intimacy in marriage is great. But that goal can seem so impossible to approach. What…
God’s Design for Intimacy in Marriage
The very first institution God gave to humankind in the Garden of Eden was marriage. Surely He knew that marriage,…
What’s It Like To Be Married To Me?
The fact that any two sinful human beings ever make it through decades living together can seem like a miracle.…
Intimacy in a Fallen World
How you do relationships is both a reflection of and the determining factor in the quality of your life. If…
How to Grow a One Flesh Marriage
Imagine that Friday in the Garden of Eden. Adam wakes from his God-induced sleep missing a rib, and before him…
When You Don’t Feel Like Loving Your Spouse
Loving is easy when it feels good. That’s why they call it “falling in love.” In our 21st century western…
Having the Sex Talk with Your Spouse
There’s not a couple who comes to marriage where both partners have the same desires, expectations, or internal “map” around…
How to Deal with Masturbation and Pornography as a Christian
How do you handle the solo sexual stuff? How do you deal with masturbation and pornography as a Christian? I’m…
What To Do When Your Wife Doesn’t Want To Have Sex With You
I’ve heard from husbands of my patients, blog readers, radio listeners, and others about how frustrated and even angry a man can become when repeatedly rejected sexually.
Rather than feeling sorry for yourself, or looking outside your marriage for satisfaction, here are five questions to consider, and some practical things you may do, that have a good chance of improving the sexual connection in your marriage.
Is Sex a Need?
Oh my, we’re getting touchy! Perhaps even asking that question feels like sandpaper in the most sensitive parts of you.…
What to Do when your Spouse Won’t be Intimate
Husbands and wives both deal with this. “I’m not getting enough L.U.S.T. – love, understanding, sex, and trust.” “Trying to…
