When You and Your Spouse are on Opposite Sides in the Bedroom
You may have expected sex to just “work” when you got married. Or that married sex would fix your porn…
Intimacy
When God-Talk has Brought Pain to Your Sexuality
Love it or hate it, sex is a big deal. God cares about your sexuality, and the Bible has a…
4 Reasons Everyone Should Have Close Friends, Married or Single
Every human being is made by God with the need, desire, and capacity for intimacy. And that need is real…
Powerful Keys to Stewarding Your Sexuality Well
You have gifts, good things you’ve been given that are valuable. How are you caring for – stewarding – those…
5 Out-of-the-Bedroom Keys to Better Married Sex
The need for intimacy is a part of every human heart, regardless of relationship status. For those who are married…
Does Sexual Sin Make You Disqualified? What’s Next?
The thief is always out to “steal, kill, and destroy,” (John 10:10), and sin is destructive. But sexual sin seems…
The Loneliness Epidemic Got You? How to Find Peace and Connection
You can feel lonely in a crowd or a friendship or a marriage, and you can feel perfectly happy and…
Dealing with Lust and Redeeming Eros
Desire is a good thing. As Christian psychiatrist Dr. Curt Thompson says, humans are people of desire. Jesus often asked,…
How’s Your Soul Doing, Really?
At breakfast with a friend recently I asked her, “How’s your soul doing?” That led to conversation about some really…
Tearing Down Inner Walls so you can Experience Intimacy
The idea of intimacy sounds nice, even important. But most people don’t think of it as absolutely necessary for life.…
Why It’s Not Really a Sex Problem
Behaviors matter. Behaviors have consequences. And sexual behaviors especially have consequences. But for those who are struggling here, putting your…
Being the Family of God Whether or Not You Have Earthly Family
Family. Love it, hate it. Want it, can’t stand it. Family is messy because family is made up of, well,…
How Your Relationship Status is Always Complicated
Perhaps the only good thing Facebook has ever done was to allow the relationship status “It’s Complicated.” And is there…
Why Healing from Intimacy Gone Wrong Requires Forgiveness
Forgiveness is a big deal. Your head knows Jesus forgives you, but your heart still wonders, especially when you keep…
How Sex Has Lost its Glory: Intimacy Gone Wrong
God created you for something good, a level of goodness we can only begin to imagine now. He built into…
When You’re Not Sure You Want to be (Sexually) Whole
Jesus asked a question we may sometimes think strange. He asked the man who had been lame for 38 years,…
Three Things to Do With Your Messy Sexual Story
Every single day, no exceptions, I hear from people struggling. Men and women, married and unmarried, young and old, from…
Unpacking What You Learned About Relationships and Intimacy
Your brain is a sponge, not a source. You may believe you’ve come up with an original thought, but that’s…
Looking at Your Story Around Sex and Intimacy with Honesty and Compassion
Whenever I begin a relationship with a new coaching client I ask, “How did we get here? What’s your story?”…
Disentangling the Connection Between Sex and Intimacy
We use euphemisms all the time, especially around sex. I’ll spare you a list. But did you know the Bible…
When Nothing You’re Doing Makes You Satisfied
I would add something to one of the lists in Proverbs: “Three things are never satisfied; four never say, “Enough”:…
The Lifeline You Need to Grow and Thrive
You are not the source. You can’t be; you’re a creature, a created being. You cannot generate life from within…
Practical Ways to Pursue Intimacy with God
God wants to be wanted. Isn’t that like you? Don’t you want to be wanted? What if your desire for…
The One Most Important Goal to Pursue This Year
Goals, resolutions, commitments, decisions, turning over a new leaf, a blank page – you may have a love-hate relationship with…
How to Give a Great Christmas Gift to Your Marriage
Getting a toaster? A cordless drill? A bathrobe? A Weathertech cup holder? Ummm, not likely to create that warm fuzzy…
When One Spouse Has A High Sexual Appetite
What’s a normal frequency of sex in marriage? That’s usually asked by the spouse with a higher libido looking for…
Sexual Anorexia, Asexuality – Is It a Thing?
I don’t like labels. Sometimes descriptive phrases can be meaningful, but when they become labels they’re more often harmful than…
How Past Intimacy Gone Wrong may Harm Your Marriage Now
Your marriage didn’t start with a blank slate when it comes to intimacy. You may think your spouse is the…
What Your Need for Intimacy Tells You About God’s Plan
Personal relationships. Intimacy. Sex and sexuality. What first comes to mind when you hear those phrases? It might be privacy…
The One Thing that will Transform Your Relationship Starting TODAY
What grade would you give your marriage today? A+? Hallelujah! But perhaps it’s more like a D. There isn’t one…
Your Life Through the Lens of the Need for Intimacy
God created you with the need, desire, and capacity for intimacy. What have you done with that need for intimacy?…
Why God Created You for Intimacy
There’s something in the human heart that craves connection. We sense, perhaps unconsciously, that we are created for intimacy. That…
From Genesis to Revelation: The Greatest Love Story Ever
Don’t you love a great love story? There’s always a hero, a heroine, and a villain. The questions keep us…
To Know Your Spouse and Be Known by Them
The intimacy God experiences within Himself–Father, Son, and Spirit–is what He designed husband and wife to experience in marriage. The…
How Being Faithful to Your Spouse is More than Sex
You rightfully expect your spouse to be faithful to your marriage vows and you probably hold yourself to the same…
What’s Keeping You From Intimacy With Your Spouse?
You thought you wanted intimacy when you got married. But did you realize what kind of work it would take?…
5 Things You May Really Want When You Want Sex
You are more than a biological creature. You are an integrated whole–physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual. That’s why for human…
The Rhythms of Communication that Keep Marriage Alive
You know communication is necessary for a healthy relationship. But like any other good thing, it doesn’t happen if you…
To the Husband Blindsided by Your Wife
You’d have given your marriage a 7 or 8 on a scale of 1 to 10. You might prefer more…
The Gift Your Spouse Really Wants (But Won’t Ask For)
Whether you’ve been married six months or sixty years, coming up with a Christmas present for your spouse can present…
How to Criticize Your Spouse in the Way that Actually Works
Snide remarks. Eyerolls. Angry outbursts. Constant correction. Your spouse deserves that, right? After all, they’re messing up over and over…
What Kind of Marriage Do You Want in the Future?
Drifting, wishing, or hoping doesn’t get you to where you want to go. That’s true in every area of life,…
Seven Discussion Questions that will Improve Your Intimacy
Communication between you and your spouse can get stale if you don’t have a plan. You coordinate schedules, talk about…
How Christ and the Church Form the Model for Marriage and Sex
Intimacy in marriage. The one-flesh experience most Jesus-followers are looking for when they say “I do.” OK, you have physical…
When Sex Gets in the Way of Pursuing Intimacy
God created you with the need, desire, and capacity for intimacy. When you said “I do” you expected intimacy, including…
Five Steps to Building Better Intimacy in Marriage
God built into you the need, desire, and capacity for intimacy. It’s part of how you are created in His…
Where to Start if Your Marriage Lacks Intimacy
You want intimacy with your spouse and it’s not happening. You’re living as roommates, as if passing as ships in…
What God Designed Intimacy in Marriage to Be Like
We’ve been talking these last few weeks about the journey to what God designed intimacy in marriage to be like.…
How to Build Connection Needed for Healthy Intimacy
God created you with the need, desire, and capacity for intimacy. But intimacy doesn’t just “happen” even if you and…
The Trust Required for Intimacy, and How to Build It
You expect to be able to trust your spouse. And that’s not an unreasonable expectation. But if your marriage is…
