Seven Things I Do Every Day: Navigating My Midlife Lifestyle
For all you women out there trying to navigate your menopause and midlife season, I see you. I get you.…
Family and Personal
What “Winter” Exposes in Your Life
Ice is extraordinarily destructive. A few weeks ago Texas spent seven days choked by a deep freeze. Ice, then snow,…
Sex Before Marriage: What I Did Right – And Wrong
I did it right. I made it. I didn’t have sex before marriage. And it was a long wait, too.…
Uprooting Why You Feel Unhappy in Your Marriage
Every marriage has challenges. It wouldn’t make sense to expect the union of two different human beings to proceed without…
10 Resolutions that will Revolutionize Your Relationship in 2021
The only helpful thing about New Year’s resolutions is that they get you to focus on what you can do.…
Merry 2020 Christmas from Dr Carol
This year of 2020 has been a difficult one for most of us. So we all need Christmas more than…
How to Choose to Be Thankful Anyway
Today is Thanksgiving Day in the United States. I love this day. Without the commercialization of most other holidays, we…
How to Repair Your Relationship After “I’m Sorry”
A good marriage is the union of two good forgivers. But when you’ve hurt your spouse it may take a…
How I Decided to Marry a Divorced Man
Remarriage after divorce is one of those topics that can make otherwise “good” Christians become prickly, self-righteous, or downright vindictive.…
How I Learned to Love Well
While learning to love well is a life-long process, loving well was something I was privileged to deeply experience with…
Merry Christmas from Dr Carol Ministries
Christmas is a time to choose to remember. To celebrate what is good. To be grateful for the Gift that…
My Grateful List
Today is Thanksgiving in the United States. Scientific research, countless personal stories, and good old common sense demonstrate that being…
Holidays and Relationships: It’s Complicated
This week in the United States many families will gather together to celebrate Thanksgiving. And Christmas is just a few…
Four Things I Learned About a Healthy Blended Family
Remarriages have a discouraging track record. Blended families have more than the usual set of challenges. But that doesn’t mean…
How to Re-Learn about Sex and Intimacy
Where did you first learn about it? Was it in a class in school? From classmates, or older kids in…
When You Become Your Spouse’s Caregiver
If your marriage has had a reasonable degree of closeness and love, when one spouse becomes ill it affects the…
Finishing Your Marriage Without Regrets
Marriage is for our benefit here on earth. Marriage can sometimes seem endless and tedious, but it is temporary. And…
The Christian’s Journey Through Grief
** My new book The Christian’s Journey Through Grief is to be released next week, May 7, 2019, and it’s…
How to Get on the Same Page with your Spouse
Two people sliding into marriage don’t naturally “fall into” being aligned. Their expectations are different, their goals are different, their…
He Needs You to Need Him
This one is for wives only. (I know; you may read this even if you’re not a wife.) But here’s…
You Warmed My Heart!
Last week we sent out our 2019 Reader Survey. Hundreds and hundreds of you answered. THANK YOU for warming my…
How to Enter 2019 with Purpose
Traditionally a new year is a time for planning, making resolutions, and writing down goals for what you want to…
A Few of My Favorite Things
It’s Christmastime! No, Jesus was not born on December 25. But this remembrance of His birth is a worthy time…
How I Push Through the Holiday Blues
Holidays are supposed to be “happy and bright,” right? But every year I hear from people for whom the holiday…
Blended and Blessed: Finding Peace in a Step-Family
Over 50% of families in the United States are “re-coupled”, with one or both partners having been married before. Over…
How I Experienced Transformation
I’m not the same person I was before. Some feedback from friends recently has pushed me to reflect on my…
Transformation Brings Dead Things to Life
The change true transformation brings is as different as life is from death, white from black, light from darkness. We’re…
What Can Christmas Do for You?
Few of us, if any, come to Christmas unscathed. The busyness of family and church events, family drama, or wishing…
What to Do When You Don’t Feel Thankful on Thanksgiving
Today in the United States we celebrate Thanksgiving Day. Family and friends gather to enjoy each other and remember our…
When Your Past Complicates Intimacy
People who research such things say that somewhere around 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men have been…
If Opposites Attract, How Can We Get Along?
Do opposites really attract? In many marriages it seems so. No two people are exactly alike, but if opposites attract…
HOLD the Communication! Do These Things First
The usual ways you and your spouse communicate lead to predictable results; frustration, anger, withdrawing, or fighting. Is it even…
A Widow’s First Year Alone
In some sense “widow’s first year alone” is deeply false. I’m not really alone. I never have been, and I…
How to Hear from God: 5 Keys
God must often feel like shouting, “Can you hear me now?” People ask me quite often how to hear from…
If Your Spouse Suffers from Depression: 3 Things to Do
The quality of your home life and your marriage is certainly affected by your spouse’s mental health. When your spouse…
What to do with Pain as a Widow: 2 Critical Keys
There’s no way to make death and grief OK. Death is an aberration in God’s universe, and every time we…
Thank You for Telling Me About You
Recently you received an opportunity to answer a brief survey from Dr Carol Ministries. Many of you responded. Thank You…
The 3 Biggest False Beliefs About Marriage
Is your marriage turning out like you thought it would? Probably not. What you believed about marriage before saying “I…
God With Us: When “Truth” Doesn’t Matter
Someone has hurt you – badly. Or you face a really tough decision. Or something happens to rock you to…
How to Know God as your Husband
There’s that Scripture you know should mean more to you: “Your Maker is your husband.” (Isaiah 54:5) But you’re just…
Does God Care if You Smoke?
If you smoke, does God love you less? Is smoking a sin? Can you still go to heaven if you…
Can You Be a Little Bit Saved?
When my husband Al met his Maker some weeks ago his eternal destiny was already settled. The decisions about where…
Developing Spiritual Resilience for Troubles That WILL Come
There is no way to get away from trouble in this world. Sometimes things happen that we cannot prevent. Sometimes…
Declaring the Death of Death
This weekend we laid my wonderful husband Al Tanksley to rest. Although my heart is broken, my spirit is determined…
Can You Serve God Better Single or Married?
She wanted to serve God with all her heart. She also loved her husband, and wanted to do what it…
Doing the Next Right Thing
You’ve probably heard the adage, “Just do the next right thing.” In the midst of confusion or overwhelm, it’s a…
A Big THANK YOU!
Those of us in the United States have just celebrated Thanksgiving. For many, it was a day for food, family,…
Why I Hate Unnecessary Suffering
There were, and still are, many reasons I’m glad I became an OB-Gyn doctor. I love serving women in some…
Preparing for Marriage when you Carry Bad Baggage
None of us goes through life baggage-free. But some of us seem to accumulate more than our fair share of…
7 Ways to Help Your Marriage Thrive When One Spouse is Sick
Remember your vows? “In sickness and in health, ‘till death do us part.” Your marriage vows probably said something similar.…
