What to Do When Your Spouse Won’t Change
It’s frustrating with your spouse won’t change. Your husband left his dirty socks strewn on the bedroom floor. Again. Your…
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What to Do If You Feel Guilty After Watching 50 Shades of Grey
Three years ago the 50 Shades of Grey trilogy became a publishing phenomenon. And 10 days ago the movie version…
5 Keys to Having the Husband You Want
You want your husband to understand you, love you, and be there for you when you need him. You want…
What I Want for Valentine’s Day
My husband gets these posts in his email inbox. I’m sure when he sees the title of this one he’ll…
Six Things I’d Say To My Younger Self
I just had a birthday. At my age that’s both good news and bad news. I’m glad I’m still here.…
7 Things to Do If You’re Sad
Have you ever cried so hard and so long you thought it would never end? Or have you become so…
Sex Without Pain
Is sex without pain possible? Sex shouldn’t hurt! But too often it does. As a gynecologist I have talked with…
How to Fill an Empty Marriage
One more night of feeling lonely while lying next to someone who you had hoped would be your soulmate forever.…
How to Prevent Weight Gain After Forty
Love handles around the middle? Afraid to step on the scales? Putting on extra pounds is not just unpleasant; it’s…
Enjoying Sex After Menopause
Some men complain their wives lose interest in intimacy around the time of menopause. Some women complain they can’t enjoy…
How to Enjoy Sex With Your Husband
Bedroom conflict is at it again. Husband wants sex with wife and she doesn’t want to give it. Wife wants…
How to Not Hurt Your Husband when You Earn More Money
It’s not the fifties any longer. Only a small minority of families fit the classic pattern where dad goes off…
7 Ways Your Husband Needs You
Both husbands and wives need each other. This is a message to wives. Many men like to pretend they are…
What the Best and Worst of Sexuality Tells Us About God
Sexuality tells us about God. For some, putting “God” and “sex” in the same sentence might seem sacrilegious. The only…
5 Ways To Help Your Husband Desire You
Deep inside a woman’s soul is the desire to be wanted. God put it there. And all the feminism, the…
Why Do Religious Teens Have Unprotected Sex?
Why do religious teens have unprotected sex? Parents, teachers, pastors, and more would love to know. Ask the average teenager…
Knowing God as Your Husband
If you’re a single woman, the idea of God as your husband may be a wonderful comfort. Or it may…
Don’t Let Premenstrual Syndrome Drive You Crazy
For some women, the 35 years between age 15 and 50 are a monthly nightmare. And anyone who cares about…
What The Bible Says To Those Struggling With Infertility
There is probably no place in modern medicine where ethics, morality, and science collide with a more resounding crash than…
Christian Doctor Addresses Sex, Contraception, and STDs
As an OB-Gyn physician I am privileged to talk with women about some of the most intimate issues of their lives.…
To the Lonely, Disappointed Wife
When you first got married you imagined every day would be wonderful. Someone would be there to do much of…
5 Ways To Connect With Your Husband
You wake up one day and realize you don’t feel like a wife at all. You feel more like a…
Does Your Husband Have To Earn Your Respect?
You’ve heard that men live on respect. But when do you give respect? Do you wait until he does something…
7 Things Men Wish Women Knew About Being Sexual
As a woman, you probably know (or at least think you know) that most men want sex. A lot of…
What The Bible Says To A Woman Who Feels Unloved By Her Husband
Sometimes I feel like I just want to run away. He keeps me around for convenience, appearance, and sex, and…
In The War On Women, Are You A Victim, A Survivor, Or A Warrior?
There’s been a lot of talk about a war against women recently. I agree! There HAS been a war against women, but it’s not the war that’s being talked about in much of the progressive media. It’s a war that’s much older, much more sinister, and much more dangerous, than anything related to healthcare or so-called reproductive rights.
7 Things To Do If You Want Your Husband To Be The Spiritual Head Of The House
Many Christian women complain that their husbands are not fulfilling their godly duty by being the spiritual head of the house. They envy women whose husbands who seem to be more spiritual. Their disappointment can become a source of conflict, anger, and emotional separation in the marriage.
5 Ways To Keep Your Husband Stuck To You Like Glue
“Nothing you can say, Can tear me away, From my guy. Nothing you could do, ‘Cause I’m stuck like glue, To my guy.”
Thank you, Smokey Robinson! Even though it’s been 50 years, you expressed what many women would love to be able to say today.
It’s one thing to be stuck to him. But it’s another thing entirely when he’s stuck to you more like a Post-it note instead of glue. Something, or more likely someone, comes along that feels a little stickier, and he sticks there instead.
How To Talk To Your Spouse About Sex
Sex can become one of the most contentious and painful aspects of a marriage. Or it can be one of the most affirming and bonding parts of your relationship. One of the best way to move sex from something you avoid to something you anticipate is through talking about it.
What To Do When Your Husband Wants Sex and You Don’t
I’m going to assume for a moment that you have a genuinely good man for a husband, not perfect, but one who truly wants to be good to you. You recognize that sex together as husband and wife is important to him, and you’d like to handle it better. Here are some things you can do.
How God Can Heal Your Lonely Heart
You’re single, with no good prospects in sight. You’re lonely, and you want to do things God’s way. You long for someone to love, and to love you. So why isn’t God coming through with a spouse for you?
You’ve heard people talk about God meeting your heart’s needs, and intellectually you believe He can. But you’re lonely. Right now you want a God with “skin on.”
2 Questions to Help You Decide If Your Marriage Is Too Destructive To Save
If you’re wrestling with a painful or destructive marriage, you know all too well the frustration, tears, and loneliness involved. You know the feelings of powerlessness, shame, sadness, disappointment, or guilt. You may have prayed, cried, and done all you know, and are only left with weariness and hopelessness.
There are two things I know for sure:
5 Ways To Be A Woman Nobody Can Live With
I know two women quite well who nobody can live with – at least and stay sane. You probably know one or more also. I just hope you aren’t trying to live with one!
If you want to be someone nobody can live with, here’s how:
For the Christian Woman Struggling with Hormones
Every part of your being impacts every other area. There are times you may not immediately understand what the root cause of your distress is. But menopause is one time when physical changes may lead to very real emotional and spiritual problems.
It’s no wonder that the physical, emotional, and spiritual pressures become heavy for many women to carry.
Here are some specific things you can do that become especially important at this time of life:
5 Ways Being Single Helped Me Be Happily Married
I had given up on marriage. It just wasn’t for me. It’s not that I didn’t want to be married: I had hoped and prayed for years. By the time I was in my early forties I had come to terms with the fact that I would always be single.
Then God brought a wonderful man into my life. During my single years I learned a lot. It was that kind of growing up that has allowed me to be so happily married now.
When Arms Are Empty: Infertility
There’s something intimate and beautiful about new parents holding their newborn baby in their arms. But sadly, many couples do not have an opportunity to experience that joy, and do not have a baby to hold in their arms.
As a Reproductive Endocrinologist I’ve seen couples struggle with these issues, and have seen the stress it puts on their relationship. Helping couples experience that miracle is a privilege I enjoy. And my hope and prayer is that you can experience that miracle when you so desire.
5 Actions to Take With Almost Any Problem
If it wasn’t one thing it was another. The very professional woman broke down in tears, hoping for some help from me as her doctor.
I explained to Linda how inter-connected a women is in her body, mind, and soul. And we talked through these action steps that I’ll share with you. When faced with almost any problem, here’s what to do.
10 Things A Woman Wants and Needs
If you’re a guy, you probably would do just about anything to impress your lady love, or win her heart.
But do you know what she really wants?
And if you’re a woman, do you recognize what your heart really wants – and needs?
In the deep parts of a woman’s soul most of us share these common needs.
Should I Use Birth Control? A Christian Doctor’s Answer
When I think of contraception, a number of images come to mind. Talking about contraception is often an emotionally charged issue. The debate really has nothing to do with birth control. The debate has to do with sex.
If you’ve read this far, you want to know how I deal with these issues, and what I tell patients. As a Christian, as a gynecologist, as a minister, what’s the RIGHT thing to do?
Women and Hormones: No Excuse!
A woman is beautiful, complicated, fascinating, strong, and loving. Much of a woman’s fascinating, complicated nature comes down to a woman and her hormones.
As a gynecologist, I see women at some of the most intimate and challenging times of their lives. And I’m honored to help. I’ve also seen some women use their hormones as an excuse for bad behavior.
Here are a few suggestions I make to women struggling with their hormones, and the men who love them:
7 Sure Ways to Stay Young(er)
Yes, you are only as old as you feel! But none of us enjoys having to face grey hair, skin wrinkles, loss of strength, or “senior moments.” People have been searching for the fountain of youth for centuries.
There are many things you can do that either speed up or slow down the aging process. No, none of them will make you live forever. But they will make a big difference in how your body, mind, and soul look and feel. Here are seven ways:
25 Messages Women Hear
Think of the messages you hear during an average evening. Some of them come in pictures, some in words, some in feelings. Here’s what they sound like:
1.You’re not young enough anymore.
2.You’re not pretty enough anymore..
“Are We Playing God?”
It was a relatively common, simple medical procedure designed to help her get pregnant. Although it was somewhat uncomfortable for her,…
Do’s and Don’ts for Wives on Making God First
A young wife asked me, “How can I respect and love my husband while making God first? Isn’t my husband supposed to be Number 1 to me? But then does that mean I’m not honoring God? I’m confused.”
God never intended this to be confusing. He intended the Christian life to bring husband and wife closer together, not drive them apart. A few do’s and don’ts that may help:
Help Her Feel Like a Woman
Do you wish your lady was more like the one you only dream about? Here are some magical keys that…
3 Benefits of Being Single
No little girl or little boy dreams of always being single. I was single for 48 years.
Living alone for all those years, I did learn some very important things about the single life. Whether you’re still single, newly single, or temporarily single, there are some real benefits to take advantage of.
Married – and Lonely
My heart has been breaking. I’m sure it’s nothing new, but I’m hearing it a lot lately. Middle-aged and older women who are married – and desperately lonely.
As a gynecologist I’ve heard these sad comments from women I’ve seen just in the past couple weeks.
Don’t let that happen to you! Here are a few suggestions:
Hot Flashes, Power Surges, Grey Hair – and Wisdom
I’m getting old!
That’s a very subjective statement. I don’t feel old. And I do subscribe to the adage “You’re only as old as you feel.” Do I guess I’m not old.
As a gynecologist I speak with many middle-aged women about very personal things. Passing through the menopause transition is sometimes very emotionally challenging. Although freedom from the risks of pregnancy is usually a welcome change, issues of body image, desirability, mental and physical health, and multiple life pressures are difficult for many of them to manage.
When Only Tears Will Do
Last weekend I was around plenty of tears. This time they were not mine, but those of other women sharing their stories.
I had been invited to be part of a conference on domestic violence, addressing the emotional, physical, legal, and spiritual aspects of this terrible reality. During the final session the participants were invited to say whatever they wished, and they started sharing their stories.
And they cried!
Faster, Higher, Stronger: Your Gold-Medal Run
The 2012 Olympic Games in London have just come to an end. For these two weeks every two years I spend more time watching sports on TV than probably the entire two years between them.
Names like Michael Phelps, Usian Bolt, Gabby Douglas, Missy Franklin, Oscar Pistorius, and others are now household words around the world. There’s something about the Olympic Games that draws us in.
