Three Questions that will Get You What You Want in 2021
Some people make New Year’s Resolutions. Some people never do, because you have an 80% chance of not keeping them…
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How to Strengthen Your Marriage Through the Holidays
The holiday season is always stressful. In spite of the joy, for many people the holiday blues are very real.…
Do This, Not That: 5 Attitudes for a Better Marriage
Attitudes color everything. Attitudes develop usually without you realizing it. Some attitudes you brought to your marriage and some you…
How Divine Discontent Drives You to Your Purpose
God does not want you comfortable. He doesn’t enjoy your pain, but becoming satisfied with the way things are is…
The Power of Going First in Your Marriage
If your marriage relationship is great, you already understand what I’m going to talk about here. But if your marriage…
Why an Invitation is the Better Door to Intimacy
If you’re married and reading this, it’s likely you want greater intimacy with your spouse. And for many people that…
Making Deposits in your Relationship Trust Account
A marriage without trust is not much of a marriage. It’s relatively easy to break trust with your spouse, and…
Solid Ground in Times of Change
A wise professor told me once, “You can never step in the same river twice.” Each time you step in,…
8 Ways You May Have Broken Trust With Your Spouse
You can’t have a healthy marriage without trust. It’s comparatively easy to trust each other when the emotions are running…
What Should I be Outraged About?
Outrage seems the order of the day. And if you’re not sufficiently outraged at the current politically correct evil in…
When You Care More Than Your Spouse
Feeling as though someone else doesn’t care as much as you do hurts a lot. You want things to work…
How to Repair Your Relationship After “I’m Sorry”
A good marriage is the union of two good forgivers. But when you’ve hurt your spouse it may take a…
The Difference Between Codependency and Love
Unhealthy people draw other people into their dysfunction. Anyone trying to be married to, or parent, or care for, or…
Three Relationship Goals for Your Marriage
Whether you’re a New Year’s Resolutions person or not, the science is clear that defining clear goals makes it more…
Choosing Your Focus for 2020
Happy 2020! Welcome to a new year, and a new decade! And if you want this year to be better…
How to Confront Your Spouse’s Bad Behavior
Micromanaging, criticizing, and fault-finding are toxic to a relationship. But problems don’t go away by ignoring them. What do you…
How Your Mood Affects Your Spouse
The honeymoon is over. You’ve settled into the routine of life. Small irritations and disappointments seem all too common. Life,…
How Family and Friends Impact Your Marriage
Most weddings are a celebration. Love is in the air. Family and friends show up for the party bringing bitter-sweet…
Don’t Settle for a Miserable Marriage
Marriage affects your wellbeing. If your relationship is healthy you are happier, healthier, and generally live a longer more productive…
Five Ways to Help Someone who is Depressed or Anxious
If the statistic is even somewhat true that one in four of us struggles with a mental health challenge, you…
Characteristics of a Sound Mind
One of the Scriptures many Christians know well is 2 Timothy 1:7. In the KJV it reads: “For God hath…
Closing the Gap Between You and Your Spouse
Intimacy doesn’t just happen. If you and your spouse ever are going to come closer together, one of you will…
When Your Spouse is Negative
Keeping a positive outlook on life brings many benefits – both to your own experience and to your marriage. But…
Is your Digital Diet Causing Anxiety?
Feeling overwhelmed with life. Distracted without a sense of purpose. Overstressed and overanxious. Lonely, without close relationships. Unable to focus,…
How to Reconnect with Your Spouse
You are feeling seriously disconnected from your spouse, and it’s just plain awful. You’ve determined you will no longer ignore,…
Getting Unstuck.. Past, Present, and Future
Some people get stuck in the past. They respond as though the trauma or other challenge they experienced decades ago…
Understanding Your Spouse’s Heart
You fell in love. You said “I do.” You thought you knew the person you were planning to make a…
The Secret Ingredient that Makes Marriage Work
The trash didn’t get taken out – again. His underwear is there on the floor – again. She was late…
Connecting with Others when you’re Single
Feeling isolated, alone, or lonely is a common struggle for singles. And you may imagine that finding a boyfriend/girlfriend and…
Creating a New Marriage
Every marriage experiences mess-ups. It’s easy to get caught up in shame, blame, and misery. But taking the necessary steps…
How to Escape Unnecessary Suffering
No human being escapes all suffering. While perhaps unkind, it would have been true for me to say over the…
5 Steps to Take if you Messed Up in your Marriage
Marriage is the union of two sinners. You can be sure your spouse will mess up; that’s what sinners do.…
When you should NOT be Kind to Your Spouse
Truthfully you should always be kind to your spouse. The problem comes when you confuse kind with nice. And accepting…
3 Steps to Fulfilling what God Created You to Do
Why are you here? What is the reason God placed you on this earth? Many people struggle with that question.…
It All Belongs to God Anyway
God’s in charge, right? Then why do bad things happen? We can’t fix things ourselves! But God has given humankind…
What Does Taking the Next Step Look Like?
The right first step in every situation is to pray, “God, help me! Jesus, come!” Inviting Him to be With…
The Two-Part Prayer for Almost Any Problem
You face a problem. How do you bring your faith into play when that happens? The way in which you…
What’s It Like To Be Married To Me?
The fact that any two sinful human beings ever make it through decades living together can seem like a miracle.…
Sometimes I Feel Like Cheating
You haven’t done it – not yet. But you’ve felt like it. Part of you knows you shouldn’t. But things…
You’re Not Meant to Grow Alone
It’s a very old song: “No man is an island. No man stands alone.” In the body of Christ that’s…
3 Questions to Ask When You Feel Like Giving Up on Your Marriage
Marriage is not easy. You know that. When things become so painful it may seem leaving the marriage would be…
To the Woman Feeling Rejected By Her Husband
You’re a woman feeling rejected. Part of you believes it shouldn’t bother you so much, but it does. You thought…
What To Do When Your Wife Doesn’t Want To Have Sex With You
I’ve heard from husbands of my patients, blog readers, radio listeners, and others about how frustrated and even angry a man can become when repeatedly rejected sexually.
Rather than feeling sorry for yourself, or looking outside your marriage for satisfaction, here are five questions to consider, and some practical things you may do, that have a good chance of improving the sexual connection in your marriage.
20 Things You Should Know About Your Spouse
No human being has the potential to make a greater impact on the quality of your life than your husband…
Setting Boundaries in your Marriage
Forgiveness is absolutely necessary in a healthy marriage, but by itself it’s not enough. Communication is vital, but it doesn’t…
5 Questions to Get Your Transformation Back on Track
You believe that Jesus has something better for you. Your heart has felt the Holy Spirit put His finger on…
5 Lies When Marriage and Ministry Collide
Modern culture puts intense pressure on marriages. The only way any marriage can thrive is through God’s grace as the…
When your Husband Is Behaving Badly
Neither gender has a corner on bad behavior. Last week we talked about wives behaving badly, but today is for…
How to Take Charge of Your Marriage
There are two opposite and equally destructive strategies many husbands and wives fall into when it comes to seeking marital…
How to Break the Crazy Communication Cycle
Do your attempts to communicate with your spouse end up leaving you more frustrated and upset? The Crazy Communication Cycle…
