Connecting with Others when you’re Single
Feeling isolated, alone, or lonely is a common struggle for singles. And you may imagine that finding a boyfriend/girlfriend and…
relationships
Creating a New Marriage
Every marriage experiences mess-ups. It’s easy to get caught up in shame, blame, and misery. But taking the necessary steps…
5 Steps to Take if you Messed Up in your Marriage
Marriage is the union of two sinners. You can be sure your spouse will mess up; that’s what sinners do.…
5 Questions Every Married Person Should Ask
Ask the wrong questions, and you’ll get answers that are misleading at best and possibly harmful. Ask better questions, and…
Finishing Your Marriage Without Regrets
Marriage is for our benefit here on earth. Marriage can sometimes seem endless and tedious, but it is temporary. And…
The SCENE in your Marriage
Today’s Western culture is often less than helpful or friendly to long-term Christian marriage. Few believers would dispute that, and…
Three Things to Focus On When Your Spouse is Not a Believer
You may have married before you became a Christian, and now feel the growing disconnect between your newer relationship with…
When you should NOT be Kind to Your Spouse
Truthfully you should always be kind to your spouse. The problem comes when you confuse kind with nice. And accepting…
What to Do When You Feel Lonely
Pain is perhaps the loneliest thing in the world. That goes for emotional pain, physical pain, spiritual pain. It becomes…
Is Your Marriage an Idol?
God gave marriage to humankind as a good gift. But just like food, rest, pleasure, money, authority, or any other…
How to Know if This Is “The One”
So you’re looking for and praying for Mr. or Mrs. Right, your soulmate, the person God has uniquely created who…
Taking Your Marriage from Good to Great
If your marriage is good, be grateful! Those struggling in a bad marriage can learn a lot from you. But…
The “Good News” About Sex
Why talk about sex? Because God talks a lot about it, because the devil works overtime to distort and use…
3 Things You CAN Do in a Bad Marriage
Some marriages are just plain bad. Words like sharp knives pierce tender hearts. Affection and sex are demanded, withheld, or…
How to Move Closer to your Spouse
Knowing about God’s design for intimacy in marriage is great. But that goal can seem so impossible to approach. What…
God’s Design for Intimacy in Marriage
The very first institution God gave to humankind in the Garden of Eden was marriage. Surely He knew that marriage,…
What I’ve Learned from Being Single – Again
Being single again often seems harder. As difficult as navigating singleness as a never-married young (or not-so-young) person can be,…
When God Calls You to Stay in a Bad Marriage
Every marriage will have periods of challenge, times when “till death do us part” seems beyond your ability to handle.…
How to Know if you are Released from your Marriage
Jesus said that even though it was not God’s original design for marriage, divorce is “allowed” in some circumstances “because…
How to Get on the Same Page with your Spouse
Two people sliding into marriage don’t naturally “fall into” being aligned. Their expectations are different, their goals are different, their…
What it Means to Be On the Same Page With Your Spouse
One of the most frequent desires I hear from married people is, “I wish my spouse and I could get…
How to Find a Good Spouse
If you’re single and want to be married, you desire a good thing. Proverbs says, “He who finds a wife…
Three Keys to Lasting Love
Valentine’s Day is coming up next week. If you’re a wife, you may be thinking, “I hope he remembers!” If…
What’s Your Mission in Marriage?
Why did you get married? Are those reasons still applicable today? Do you and your spouse agree on the WHY…
She Needs You to Lead
This one is for husbands. (I know; you’ll probably keep reading even if you’re not a husband.) Let me share…
He Needs You to Need Him
This one is for wives only. (I know; you may read this even if you’re not a wife.) But here’s…
What’s It Like To Be Married To Me?
The fact that any two sinful human beings ever make it through decades living together can seem like a miracle.…
Merry Married Christmas to You
The holiday season can add a lot of stress to your marriage. Time and money pressures build up. Some relatives…
Sometimes I Feel Like Cheating
You haven’t done it – not yet. But you’ve felt like it. Part of you knows you shouldn’t. But things…
Help! My Spouse is Cheating!
Among the possible sources of pain a spouse’s betrayal ranks as one of the worst. The person you expected to…
Community by Design: How God Uses People to Transform You
Few people experience lasting spiritual growth in isolation. God never intended us to grow alone. He created us with the…
5 Things to do After a Fight with your Spouse
Chances are good you and your spouse have had a fight. Perhaps you even had a fight during the just-ended…
Three Things I Learned As a Single
I wanted to get married, but nothing was happening. I spent many years wondering what was so wrong with me…
Blended and Blessed: Finding Peace in a Step-Family
Over 50% of families in the United States are “re-coupled”, with one or both partners having been married before. Over…
What Your Spouse CAN and CANNOT Do For You
In a healthy marriage your spouse meets some of your needs, but not all of them. It’s so easy to…
Did I Marry the Wrong Person?
It’s important to choose your spouse wisely. But you’re already married! When your relationship goes sideways it’s easy to feel…
What’s More Important than Your Marriage?
When you get married most people appropriately assume they will be Number One to their spouse. There’s nothing like the…
Sexuality as a Single Christian
Perhaps you look at married couples with envy. It seems they get to express themselves sexually any time they want,…
3 Guaranteed Ways to Change Your Spouse
Oh, if it were only that easy! I hear every day from a husband or wife who says, “I can’t…
Intimacy in a Fallen World
How you do relationships is both a reflection of and the determining factor in the quality of your life. If…
Use the Conflict in your Marriage to bring you Closer
Fights where you or your spouse use words or fists (or anything else) to hurt or manipulate the other is…
How to Grow a One Flesh Marriage
Imagine that Friday in the Garden of Eden. Adam wakes from his God-induced sleep missing a rib, and before him…
3 Questions to Ask When You Feel Like Giving Up on Your Marriage
Marriage is not easy. You know that. When things become so painful it may seem leaving the marriage would be…
Are You Wounding or Healing Your Spouse?
You’re probably doing both. Two sinners getting married is a setup for pain – and for transformation. It’s likely you’re…
4 Ways to Change the Dance in Your Marriage
A relationship is like a dance. You and your spouse have fallen into some ways of relating that seem “normal.”…
When You Don’t Feel Like Loving Your Spouse
Loving is easy when it feels good. That’s why they call it “falling in love.” In our 21st century western…
Having the Sex Talk with Your Spouse
There’s not a couple who comes to marriage where both partners have the same desires, expectations, or internal “map” around…
How to Deal with Masturbation and Pornography as a Christian
How do you handle the solo sexual stuff? How do you deal with masturbation and pornography as a Christian? I’m…
To the Woman Feeling Rejected By Her Husband
You’re a woman feeling rejected. Part of you believes it shouldn’t bother you so much, but it does. You thought…
What To Do When Your Husband Doesn’t Want To Have Sex With You
The stereotype of a man pressuring his wife for sex does not apply to every relationship: there are many women who experience just the opposite. Even when a woman is not the sexual aggressor, it wounds a woman’s heart when her husband does not demonstrate sexual attraction to her.
Rather than wallowing in self-pity, or looking outside the marriage for satisfaction, here are five questions to consider if your husband appears to shrink from having sex with you.
