Where to Invest in Your Marriage for Long-Term Success
Nothing of real value just happens. You don’t drift toward a finely tuned athletic body, a million-dollar retirement fund, or…
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It’s Time to Let Your Husband Off the Hook
This is not what you signed up for. When you said Yes you thought you were getting friendship, intimacy, even…
To the Husband Blindsided by Your Wife
You’d have given your marriage a 7 or 8 on a scale of 1 to 10. You might prefer more…
Your Brain CAN Change
When I went through medical school back in the “dark ages” we were told that 50% of what we learned…
How to Build a Life of Resilience Against Stress
Resilience allows a tree to bend in the wind instead of breaking. It’s what an athlete cultivates in order to…
Where Did You Learn About Marriage?
You may have thought you entered marriage with a clean slate. You and your beloved were going to live happily…
Confronting the REAL Reason You Go to Church or Not
Feelings around church can be complicated. And the Covid-19 pandemic has made it even more complicated. You might be one…
How to Become the Spouse God Needs You to Be in 2022
How would you grade your marriage today? There are few things that make a bigger impact on your sense of…
What’s Your One Thing for 2022?
Resolutions can sometimes help, though just making a New Year’s resolution is likely to last about as long as your…
From Surviving to Thriving, and Passing It On
Life had not been easy for Pauline. Emotional struggles, financial struggles, marriage struggles–she felt worn out. Through it all she…
When You Need an Attitude Adjustment
A couple days ago I could feel the tension rising in my body. My mind was ruminating on all the…
Does Your Life Smell Like Jesus Yet?
Fragrance is a delicate thing that’s hard to put words to but impossible to ignore. Freshly brewed coffee. Freshly baked…
How to Help Your Wife Navigate Menopause and Midlife
As a husband, if your wife is approaching or experiencing menopause you may feel frustrated and powerless. You may feel…
How to Strengthen Your Marriage While Navigating Midlife
Midlife is a season of change. As a woman, you’re approaching or going through menopause and everything seems disrupted –…
What Life do You Want Five Years from Now?
We’ve all heard stories of people lost at sea, left to the mercy of the currents. While there’s a remote…
You Don’t Need This if You’re Comfortable with Change
You can ignore the rest of this post if: Changes internally or externally don’t bother or disturb you at all…
Three Difficult Dynamics that Make Your Midlife Marriage Messy
If marriage is a marathon, not a sprint, perhaps you’re at mile 10, or 15, or 20. The initial fireworks…
What is the Measure of Success for a Christian?
You’re committed to following Jesus. How’s it going? If your life continued on the trajectory it’s on now, would you…
Ways to Find Hope from Impossible Marriages that Survived
Marriage is both beautiful and hard. Sometimes it seems impossible. In today’s world we constantly see marriages ending. That may…
The Dangers of Rule-Based Christianity
Rule-based Christianity is dangerous. Doubt that? Surely at some point you’ve had a parent or teacher or boss or leader…
Four Questions to Help Diagnose Your Painful Marriage
Where on the spectrum of happy-to-unhappy is your marriage? What’s really the problem, and how serious is it? How can…
9 Questions Jesus is Asking You
Have you ever noticed how often God asks questions? We often think of ourselves as asking questions of Him. But…
Why Your Mental Image of God Matters So Much
What is it you love about your best friend? Why did you pick your spouse? That may be complicated, but…
HELP! My Spouse Doesn’t Love Me Anymore!
You want to be loved. You need to be loved. You thrive when you’re loved and you wither when you’re…
Is It Gossip, Loyalty, Cover-up, or Getting Help?
Should you tell? Does keeping it hidden mean you’re being loyal – to the family? To the church? Does telling…
How Authentic Christianity Moves From Religious Activity to Following Jesus
Imagine you’re a marketer for Christianity. What does being a Christian involve? OK, here we go. You get up early…
What God Designed Intimacy in Marriage to Be Like
We’ve been talking these last few weeks about the journey to what God designed intimacy in marriage to be like.…
Are You Taking the Next Steps Toward Transformation?
You know things aren’t yet the way they should be. Perhaps you’re frustrated and discouraged. You’ve prayed, and things don’t…
Five Ways Helping Others Helps You
Aren’t you grateful for what Jesus has done in you? You may have a lot more to grow to get…
How to Build Safety in Your Marriage
You want intimacy. That’s why you got married! But intimacy doesn’t just happen; there are several necessary ingredients that must…
Want Intimacy? You Need Honesty as a Foundation
God created you with the need, desire, and capacity for intimacy. That’s a core part of what you were looking…
Uncovering the Heart of a Christian Man
It may be somewhat dangerous to write specifically to men. I’m not a man, and I speak carefully. Some things…
When Praying to Restore Your Marriage Isn’t Working
It’s dangerous to even imply that prayer isn’t enough. That seems to go against what any “good” Christian believes. And…
10 Proven Ways to Connect With Your Spouse
You want to feel connected. That’s what you expected in marriage. The hormones and pheromones and all the other “mones”…
Caring for Your Heart When Your Spouse Won’t Connect
You were created for intimacy. You probably got married expecting that doing so would fulfill your needs for connection, love,…
How to Ditch what is Holding You Back from Your Purpose
You’ve heard, “God has a purpose for you.” But many people are frustrated, wondering why they’re not finding or experiencing…
Your Biggest Calling May Not Be in Church
There’s little that is more fulfilling than to serve God. Humans thrive when they are part of something significant that’s…
Finding God’s Purpose for Your Marriage
Swimmingly smooth or terribly turbulent, newlyweds or lifelong lovers, there is a purpose behind your marriage. You may have slid…
Don’t Let Your Pain Go to Waste
Do you sometimes feel that much of your life is a waste? Things that have happened to you, decisions you’ve…
Why Marrying a “Christian” Won’t Guarantee a Happy Relationship
There’s a myth many people believe, that if the person they want to marry is a Christian, they will have…
How to Access God’s Plan for you to Become Whole and Stay Whole
You get really sick. What do you need to become whole and stay whole? You may need to visit the…
How Detachment from your Spouse Makes Your Marriage Better
As with everything good that God created, the enemy has marred and distorted God’s statement, “they shall become one flesh.”…
How to Choose to Be Thankful Anyway
Today is Thanksgiving Day in the United States. I love this day. Without the commercialization of most other holidays, we…
How to Fight FOR Your Marriage Not AGAINST Your Spouse
Your marriage is important. It means everything to you. Anything that important requires investment of time and energy. But the…
Do This, Not That: 5 Attitudes for a Better Marriage
Attitudes color everything. Attitudes develop usually without you realizing it. Some attitudes you brought to your marriage and some you…
Dealing with Triggers in your Marriage
The only people who don’t get triggered are those who are perfectly healed and completely mature. And neither you nor…
Want a Better Marriage? Start Breakthrough Prayers
A healthy marriage doesn’t just “happen.” You’ve learned that by now. And you’ve prayed and prayed, but nothing seems to…
How to Experience Breakthrough That Actually Lasts
Problem solved! Your prayers are answered! That thing you needed God to address; He’s done it. God showed up. Hallelujah!…
How to Keep Intimacy Alive After Fifty
The stereotype of an exciting sex life during the early years of marriage that simply disappears as you age is…
Can Any Good Come from Your Marriage Problems?
Your marriage is the union of two sinners. What a setup for problems! There are the “usual suspects” – money,…
