5 Out-of-the-Bedroom Keys to Better Married Sex
The need for intimacy is a part of every human heart, regardless of relationship status. For those who are married…
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Does Sexual Sin Make You Disqualified? What’s Next?
The thief is always out to “steal, kill, and destroy,” (John 10:10), and sin is destructive. But sexual sin seems…
The Loneliness Epidemic Got You? How to Find Peace and Connection
You can feel lonely in a crowd or a friendship or a marriage, and you can feel perfectly happy and…
5 Wrong Assumptions About the Body, God, and Sexuality
Our assumptions color everything that comes after that. If your starting point is wrong, you’re going to be frustrated or…
Tearing Down Inner Walls so you can Experience Intimacy
The idea of intimacy sounds nice, even important. But most people don’t think of it as absolutely necessary for life.…
Why It’s Not Really a Sex Problem
Behaviors matter. Behaviors have consequences. And sexual behaviors especially have consequences. But for those who are struggling here, putting your…
How Your Relationship Status is Always Complicated
Perhaps the only good thing Facebook has ever done was to allow the relationship status “It’s Complicated.” And is there…
Why Healing from Intimacy Gone Wrong Requires Forgiveness
Forgiveness is a big deal. Your head knows Jesus forgives you, but your heart still wonders, especially when you keep…
How Sex Has Lost its Glory: Intimacy Gone Wrong
God created you for something good, a level of goodness we can only begin to imagine now. He built into…
Three Things to Do With Your Messy Sexual Story
Every single day, no exceptions, I hear from people struggling. Men and women, married and unmarried, young and old, from…
What Were You Even Created For?
If you woke up this morning feeling that everything in your world is better-than-good and you’re fully satisfied, this article…
Unpacking What You Learned About Relationships and Intimacy
Your brain is a sponge, not a source. You may believe you’ve come up with an original thought, but that’s…
Looking at Your Story Around Sex and Intimacy with Honesty and Compassion
Whenever I begin a relationship with a new coaching client I ask, “How did we get here? What’s your story?”…
Disentangling the Connection Between Sex and Intimacy
We use euphemisms all the time, especially around sex. I’ll spare you a list. But did you know the Bible…
When Nothing You’re Doing Makes You Satisfied
I would add something to one of the lists in Proverbs: “Three things are never satisfied; four never say, “Enough”:…
The Lifeline You Need to Grow and Thrive
You are not the source. You can’t be; you’re a creature, a created being. You cannot generate life from within…
Practical Ways to Pursue Intimacy with God
God wants to be wanted. Isn’t that like you? Don’t you want to be wanted? What if your desire for…
The One Most Important Goal to Pursue This Year
Goals, resolutions, commitments, decisions, turning over a new leaf, a blank page – you may have a love-hate relationship with…
When One Spouse Has A High Sexual Appetite
What’s a normal frequency of sex in marriage? That’s usually asked by the spouse with a higher libido looking for…
Sexual Anorexia, Asexuality – Is It a Thing?
I don’t like labels. Sometimes descriptive phrases can be meaningful, but when they become labels they’re more often harmful than…
How Past Intimacy Gone Wrong may Harm Your Marriage Now
Your marriage didn’t start with a blank slate when it comes to intimacy. You may think your spouse is the…
What Your Need for Intimacy Tells You About God’s Plan
Personal relationships. Intimacy. Sex and sexuality. What first comes to mind when you hear those phrases? It might be privacy…
Your Life Through the Lens of the Need for Intimacy
God created you with the need, desire, and capacity for intimacy. What have you done with that need for intimacy?…
Why God Created You for Intimacy
There’s something in the human heart that craves connection. We sense, perhaps unconsciously, that we are created for intimacy. That…
To Know Your Spouse and Be Known by Them
The intimacy God experiences within Himself–Father, Son, and Spirit–is what He designed husband and wife to experience in marriage. The…
How Being Faithful to Your Spouse is More than Sex
You rightfully expect your spouse to be faithful to your marriage vows and you probably hold yourself to the same…
How the Old “You” Will Have to Die for Your Marriage to Survive
OH! That’s not what the preacher said when he or she pronounced you man and wife. Dying is not what…
What’s Keeping You From Intimacy With Your Spouse?
You thought you wanted intimacy when you got married. But did you realize what kind of work it would take?…
5 Things You May Really Want When You Want Sex
You are more than a biological creature. You are an integrated whole–physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual. That’s why for human…
Where to Invest in Your Marriage for Long-Term Success
Nothing of real value just happens. You don’t drift toward a finely tuned athletic body, a million-dollar retirement fund, or…
The Rhythms of Communication that Keep Marriage Alive
You know communication is necessary for a healthy relationship. But like any other good thing, it doesn’t happen if you…
To the Husband Blindsided by Your Wife
You’d have given your marriage a 7 or 8 on a scale of 1 to 10. You might prefer more…
How Managing Your Anxiety can Transform Your Marriage
You know you’re not at your best when you’re stressed out, anxious, or afraid. And your internal state doesn’t just…
The Gift Your Spouse Really Wants (But Won’t Ask For)
Whether you’ve been married six months or sixty years, coming up with a Christmas present for your spouse can present…
Experience God Being With You This Advent Season
The season of Advent is here. For some this season brings joy, busyness, and countless activities connecting with family and…
Ways to Find Hope from Impossible Marriages that Survived
Marriage is both beautiful and hard. Sometimes it seems impossible. In today’s world we constantly see marriages ending. That may…
Seven Discussion Questions that will Improve Your Intimacy
Communication between you and your spouse can get stale if you don’t have a plan. You coordinate schedules, talk about…
How Christ and the Church Form the Model for Marriage and Sex
Intimacy in marriage. The one-flesh experience most Jesus-followers are looking for when they say “I do.” OK, you have physical…
When Sex Gets in the Way of Pursuing Intimacy
God created you with the need, desire, and capacity for intimacy. When you said “I do” you expected intimacy, including…
Five Steps to Building Better Intimacy in Marriage
God built into you the need, desire, and capacity for intimacy. It’s part of how you are created in His…
Where to Start if Your Marriage Lacks Intimacy
You want intimacy with your spouse and it’s not happening. You’re living as roommates, as if passing as ships in…
What God Designed Intimacy in Marriage to Be Like
We’ve been talking these last few weeks about the journey to what God designed intimacy in marriage to be like.…
The Trust Required for Intimacy, and How to Build It
You expect to be able to trust your spouse. And that’s not an unreasonable expectation. But if your marriage is…
How to Build Safety in Your Marriage
You want intimacy. That’s why you got married! But intimacy doesn’t just happen; there are several necessary ingredients that must…
Want Intimacy? You Need Honesty as a Foundation
God created you with the need, desire, and capacity for intimacy. That’s a core part of what you were looking…
Caring for Your Heart When Your Spouse Won’t Connect
You were created for intimacy. You probably got married expecting that doing so would fulfill your needs for connection, love,…
Hiding and Intimacy: They Cannot Coexist
Are you aware of how you are hiding? You are hiding, you know, whether you think you are or not.…
Sex Before Marriage: What I Did Right – And Wrong
I did it right. I made it. I didn’t have sex before marriage. And it was a long wait, too.…
Nine Possible Reasons Your Spouse Doesn’t Want to Sleep With You
Sex and intimacy (they are related, but not the same!) is a top area of conflict in many marriages. Trying…
Single Christian, Are You Struggling with Sex and Intimacy?
If you’re a Christian and you’ve been in church, you’ve probably heard the message “sex is for marriage.” But you’re…
