Understanding Your Spouse’s Heart
You fell in love. You said “I do.” You thought you knew the person you were planning to make a…
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The Secret Ingredient that Makes Marriage Work
The trash didn’t get taken out – again. His underwear is there on the floor – again. She was late…
How to Escape Unnecessary Suffering
No human being escapes all suffering. While perhaps unkind, it would have been true for me to say over the…
How to Move Closer to your Spouse
Knowing about God’s design for intimacy in marriage is great. But that goal can seem so impossible to approach. What…
When God Calls You to Stay in a Bad Marriage
Every marriage will have periods of challenge, times when “till death do us part” seems beyond your ability to handle.…
Three Keys to Lasting Love
Valentine’s Day is coming up next week. If you’re a wife, you may be thinking, “I hope he remembers!” If…
He Needs You to Need Him
This one is for wives only. (I know; you may read this even if you’re not a wife.) But here’s…
How I Push Through the Holiday Blues
Holidays are supposed to be “happy and bright,” right? But every year I hear from people for whom the holiday…
Sometimes I Feel Like Cheating
You haven’t done it – not yet. But you’ve felt like it. Part of you knows you shouldn’t. But things…
Help! My Spouse is Cheating!
Among the possible sources of pain a spouse’s betrayal ranks as one of the worst. The person you expected to…
Blended and Blessed: Finding Peace in a Step-Family
Over 50% of families in the United States are “re-coupled”, with one or both partners having been married before. Over…
Your Change, Your Choice
The God who created you has treated you with amazing dignity by giving you the gift of choice. Your limited…
3 Questions to Ask When You Feel Like Giving Up on Your Marriage
Marriage is not easy. You know that. When things become so painful it may seem leaving the marriage would be…
Are You Wounding or Healing Your Spouse?
You’re probably doing both. Two sinners getting married is a setup for pain – and for transformation. It’s likely you’re…
4 Ways to Change the Dance in Your Marriage
A relationship is like a dance. You and your spouse have fallen into some ways of relating that seem “normal.”…
To the Woman Feeling Rejected By Her Husband
You’re a woman feeling rejected. Part of you believes it shouldn’t bother you so much, but it does. You thought…
How to Forgive Your Spouse When It’s Hard
In every marriage people get wounded. Your spouse is a flawed human being, a sinner who causes you pain. (You…
How Forgiveness Opens the Door to Transformation
If you’re human you’ve been wounded. No one escapes. And when wounded, we do things and make decisions that result…
How to Break the Crazy Communication Cycle
Do your attempts to communicate with your spouse end up leaving you more frustrated and upset? The Crazy Communication Cycle…
How to Listen for God’s Voice
We communicate with the people we care about. There’s no relationship without communication. It’s the same with you and God.…
How to Get what you Want from your Spouse
You’ve tried to change your spouse, but it’s not working. You need them to communicate better. That annoying habit of…
Love is not Wimpy
Say love and chances are your immediate mental picture is soft, squishy, and colored in pastels. If you’re over 40…
Married On Purpose: Intentional Relationship Investments
Too many people slide into marriage without much intentionality. It’s just something you do – “if we feel like it.”…
Keep Your Sanity when your Spouse Doesn’t Meet your Needs
Your spouse should do more to meet your needs. Really, how could your husband or wife be that insensitive, clueless,…
When You’re Still Afraid and Anxious after you Pray
Jesus and His disciples are in the boat on the Sea of Galilee. The wind and waves are about to…
Worry about Material Things: What to Know and Do
Of course you worry when there’s no money in the bank, no food in the house, no immediate prospect of…
No Trust in your Marriage: 5 Steps to Care for your Heart
Your spouse cheated – emotionally or physically. You found pornography on their smartphone. Your spouse abuses alcohol or drugs, is…
The Key to Solving Communication Problems in Your Marriage
If your attempts at communicating with your spouse leave you frustrated, angry, and feeling even more distant, you’re not alone.…
Your Prescription for Fear and Anxiety
What are you so worried about? What are you so afraid of? The Bible says we should not be anxious…
You’re NOT Stuck in this Marriage
One of the most common sentiments I hear from married people is, “I feel stuck in this marriage.” Yes, you’re…
Lonely and Disappointed on Valentine’s Day
Do you feel like a member of the Lonely Hearts Club? Were you disappointed on Valentine’s Day? You’re not alone.…
7 Things to Do the Day After Christmas
It’s the day after Christmas. The presents are unwrapped. The Christmas decorations may still be up. Christmas dinner leftovers are…
12 Things to do if you’re Lonely at Christmas
The Christmas holiday season is promoted as a time of togetherness. Families sometimes travel long distances to be with loved…
How to Find Healing: It’s a Choice
Healing is not something that simply happens to you. Instead, it’s something you work toward, search for, and live out.…
How Can I Get My Spouse To . . . ? Facing a Miserable Marriage
One of the most common questions I am asked is some variation of “How can I get my spouse to…
3 Keys to Help You Manage Emotions
Have you picked up the habit of expressing yourself with emoticons? They fill our text messages, Facebook status updates, and…
Why you SHOULD Sweat the Small Stuff
It’s probably happened to you. Your life is going along relatively OK. There are bumps in the road, but you’re…
How to Find Healthy Motivation to Change
You know you should, but you just don’t. Perhaps for you that means you know you should lose weight, reign…
Five Must-Haves in a Potential Spouse
What should you be looking for in a potential spouse? Is it the financial stability? The chemistry? The sexual attraction?…
7 Mistakes to Avoid When You’re Worked Up
It’s a rare person who never gets emotionally flustered. And I’m not sure such a person truly exists. Some people…
The Blessing of Limitations
We love stories of people who overcame limitations. There’s Harriet Tubman – escaped slavery as a young woman, then became…
Three Steps to Begin to Take Charge of Your Life
You’ve had a wakeup call of some kind. Somewhere in your soul there’s a glimmer of hope. Maybe it’s only…
Women In Charge!
Women have a difficult time in this world. We always have. It’s not that men always have it easy, but…
Is Someone Else In Charge Of Your Health?
Perhaps you’re like many of those I talk with. You feel powerless. Stuck. Sick and tired of being sick and…
Two Minutes to Being More Happy
People who are more happy experience 23% less stress, 39% better health, 31% more productivity, and 34% more positive social interactions.…
Why I Hate Unnecessary Suffering
There were, and still are, many reasons I’m glad I became an OB-Gyn doctor. I love serving women in some…
When You Feel Like a Failure
Let’s just admit it. We’re not perfect, and we know it. But sometimes the not-perfect-ness gets really old. Your head…
How Getting Fired Can Become Priceless
I’ve only been fired once. It happened in one of the worst possible ways. The email arrived on a Sunday…
What I Wish Christian Parents Would Teach Kids About Sex
At 15 years old she was scared. Her mother sat there silent. I confirmed that Angela (not her real name)…
How to Choose A Mental Health Professional
Practicing good mental health means choosing what you spend time thinking about, filling your mind with positive things, and learning…
