How Identity Leads To Behavior: Who You Are to What You Do
Why do you do what you do? Why do you work out, or keep a clean house, or go on…
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Is It Gossip, Loyalty, Cover-up, or Getting Help?
Should you tell? Does keeping it hidden mean you’re being loyal – to the family? To the church? Does telling…
How to Deal with Doubt and Make the Choice to Believe
Is God real? Can He be trusted? Is He good? Is He for me? Where is God when it hurts?…
How Authentic Christianity Moves From Religious Activity to Following Jesus
Imagine you’re a marketer for Christianity. What does being a Christian involve? OK, here we go. You get up early…
Uncovering the Heart of a Christian Woman
It’s never been easy to be a woman. Ever since the Garden of Eden the serpent has come against Eve…
Submission in Christian Marriage
Hear the word “submission” and “marriage” in the same sentence and you may be gripped by the sudden urge to…
How to “Forget the Past” When it Haunts You
You’ve messed up. Perhaps you’ve messed up a lot over a long period of time. You’d like things to be…
What Makes God Angry: It’s Not What You Think
I’ve sensed God’s anger. And it’s one of the most empowering, refreshing, encouraging parts of my recent walk with God.…
9 Characteristics of a Healthy Sexual Relationship for a Christian
Sex is complicated. When experienced as God intended it’s beautiful, bonding, nourishing. But when sex is marred and distorted by…
When You’ve Been Harmed in the Name of God
It’s not just a salacious news article or one more statistic when it’s happened to you. When “God” is used…
Two Reasons to Rejoice on Good Friday
This is Holy Week, the time each year when Christians around the world remember the death and resurrection of Jesus.…
Caring for Your Heart When Your Spouse Won’t Connect
You were created for intimacy. You probably got married expecting that doing so would fulfill your needs for connection, love,…
Overcoming the Fear of Dealing with Your Sexual Stuff
There are good reasons for you to hold back. Fear is a big part of why you keep hiding. Getting…
Sex Before Marriage: What I Did Right – And Wrong
I did it right. I made it. I didn’t have sex before marriage. And it was a long wait, too.…
Eight Scriptures to Enhance Your Sex Life
Sex was God’s idea! And Oh how far humankind has fallen from His lofty ideal. But if you think the…
God’s Purpose for Your Life is Unique to YOU
Just because it hasn’t been done before doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. The fact that there is no specific…
Your Biggest Calling May Not Be in Church
There’s little that is more fulfilling than to serve God. Humans thrive when they are part of something significant that’s…
Finding God’s Purpose for Your Marriage
Swimmingly smooth or terribly turbulent, newlyweds or lifelong lovers, there is a purpose behind your marriage. You may have slid…
Don’t Let Your Pain Go to Waste
Do you sometimes feel that much of your life is a waste? Things that have happened to you, decisions you’ve…
How Detachment from your Spouse Makes Your Marriage Better
As with everything good that God created, the enemy has marred and distorted God’s statement, “they shall become one flesh.”…
Are You Praying for a Miracle? Or for Magic?
You pray and pray and wonder why your prayers aren’t answered. If God loves me, why doesn’t He answer me?…
How to Know If It’s Truly God’s Voice
God speaks. That’s a central truth of Scripture, and for centuries those who have followed Him have born witness to…
Are You Hoping or Doing for Your Breakthrough?
When you feel stuck and little seems to change, humans tend to fall into one of two ditches. Some people…
You CAN Experience Breakthrough
Why does it often seem so hard? The stuff you want to be different in your life – why doesn’t…
How Divine Discontent Drives You to Your Purpose
God does not want you comfortable. He doesn’t enjoy your pain, but becoming satisfied with the way things are is…
Becoming a Recovering People-Pleaser
The trap of people-pleasing is an easy one to fall into. I’m sure personality has something to do with it.…
The Resurrection that Follows Death
Death is not the end. That’s the message of the gospel, the good news. The paradigm of death followed by…
What Dying to Yourself Can Mean for your Christian Walk
The kingdom of God turns many of our human assumptions upside down. The way to power is through service. The…
How to Extend Grace Without Tolerating Sin
Jesus was full of both grace and truth. (John 1:14) We as humans tend to easily fall into the ditch…
How to Hold to Truth Without Being Judgmental
Jesus was full of both grace and truth. (John 1:14) But we as humans tend to easily fall into the…
Is God Disappointed in You?
How does God feel about you? (We’re using human words to talk about God; that’s troublesome. But stick with me.)…
How to Put God First in All Things
You know the Scripture: “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be…
Solid Ground in Times of Change
A wise professor told me once, “You can never step in the same river twice.” Each time you step in,…
Is It Healing? Or Is It Deliverance?
Give a boy a hammer and the whole world looks like a nail. And Christians can fall into the same…
How to Make Christ the Foundation of Your Marriage
It sounds good. You know you “should” do it. “Make Christ the foundation of your marriage.” But what does that…
Learning to Pray for a Breakthrough
Have you felt stuck in your prayer life? Does it seem your prayers don’t get anywhere? Things are really bad,…
Why You Are NOT Entitled to Sex
You expected to be having sex with your spouse when you got married. And you may have also imagined that…
Why Free Will?
Couldn’t God have created us all to automatically love Him? Why did sin ever come into existence? Why free will…
The View from the Top
Perspective matters. You know that. A good leader regularly reminds herself and those she leads of the bigger picture, especially…
El Roi: The God Who Sees Me
You carefully curate the pictures you upload to social media. You want to look your best. Or perhaps you are…
What Is God’s Desire For You in this Pandemic?
Last Sunday millions of Christians around the world celebrated Easter differently. Many worshiped using online streaming services. Others met in…
How Knowing Who Your God Is Helps You in a Crisis
Who is your God? What kind of a God do you serve? How does knowing Who your God is make…
Three Ways to Pray During the COVID-19 Crisis
Praying is a good thing. Always! For the believer prayer should be the first thing we go to. And yet…
What You CAN Control in Your Marriage
Human beings love to be in control. But in marriage, when one person tries to control another true intimacy is…
What does Wholeness Look Like?
Jesus had a wonderful way of asking questions. You may know the story well. Jesus sees a man lying on…
How Messy is Always Part of the Process
Jesus accepts you just as you are. Unconditionally! And if you let Him, He has promised to take you to…
A Cure, not a Band-Aid
The problem isn’t always the real problem. Taking Tylenol when you have a fever doesn’t cure the infection. Mowing the…
The Difference Between Codependency and Love
Unhealthy people draw other people into their dysfunction. Anyone trying to be married to, or parent, or care for, or…
Choosing Your Focus for 2020
Happy 2020! Welcome to a new year, and a new decade! And if you want this year to be better…
Waiting for Christmas – and Eternity
If you have a child or grandchild, you’re watching them count the days until Christmas with great excitement and anticipation.…
