How to Confront Your Spouse’s Bad Behavior
Micromanaging, criticizing, and fault-finding are toxic to a relationship. But problems don’t go away by ignoring them. What do you…
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How Your Mood Affects Your Spouse
The honeymoon is over. You’ve settled into the routine of life. Small irritations and disappointments seem all too common. Life,…
Characteristics of a Sound Mind
One of the Scriptures many Christians know well is 2 Timothy 1:7. In the KJV it reads: “For God hath…
When Your Spouse is Negative
Keeping a positive outlook on life brings many benefits – both to your own experience and to your marriage. But…
25 Good Things to Think About
Thoughts control actions. Thoughts come before emotions. Thoughts impact how other people see you, and how you react to every situation you come across. Choosing what thoughts to think can go a long way toward making you well or sick, happy or sad, lonely or connected, desperate or satisfied.
If you feel challenged to know what to think about, here’s a list to get you started. When you find yourself rolling negative things around in your mind, choose one of these items instead. You can think about:
3 Things NOT to do When You Feel Disconnected From Your Spouse
Getting married, you were hoping the fireworks between you would continue. The bond was real, and it felt good. But…
When People Disappoint You
Did you know that happiness research is a “thing?” For the past few decades researchers have looked at what determines…
Connecting with Others when you’re Single
Feeling isolated, alone, or lonely is a common struggle for singles. And you may imagine that finding a boyfriend/girlfriend and…
Finishing Your Marriage Without Regrets
Marriage is for our benefit here on earth. Marriage can sometimes seem endless and tedious, but it is temporary. And…
The SCENE in your Marriage
Today’s Western culture is often less than helpful or friendly to long-term Christian marriage. Few believers would dispute that, and…
What to Do When You Feel Lonely
Pain is perhaps the loneliest thing in the world. That goes for emotional pain, physical pain, spiritual pain. It becomes…
It All Belongs to God Anyway
God’s in charge, right? Then why do bad things happen? We can’t fix things ourselves! But God has given humankind…
When God Calls You to Stay in a Bad Marriage
Every marriage will have periods of challenge, times when “till death do us part” seems beyond your ability to handle.…
Three Keys to Lasting Love
Valentine’s Day is coming up next week. If you’re a wife, you may be thinking, “I hope he remembers!” If…
He Needs You to Need Him
This one is for wives only. (I know; you may read this even if you’re not a wife.) But here’s…
What’s It Like To Be Married To Me?
The fact that any two sinful human beings ever make it through decades living together can seem like a miracle.…
How I Push Through the Holiday Blues
Holidays are supposed to be “happy and bright,” right? But every year I hear from people for whom the holiday…
How Loving Others Changes You
Ask almost any Christian believer, and they will say Yes to the question, “Are you interested in becoming more like…
What Gratitude Does For You
Today is Thanksgiving Day in the United States. Many are gathering to celebrate with family, food, — and football. It’s…
Did I Marry the Wrong Person?
It’s important to choose your spouse wisely. But you’re already married! When your relationship goes sideways it’s easy to feel…
4 Ways to Change the Dance in Your Marriage
A relationship is like a dance. You and your spouse have fallen into some ways of relating that seem “normal.”…
When You Don’t Feel Like Loving Your Spouse
Loving is easy when it feels good. That’s why they call it “falling in love.” In our 21st century western…
To the Woman Feeling Rejected By Her Husband
You’re a woman feeling rejected. Part of you believes it shouldn’t bother you so much, but it does. You thought…
5 Things To Do When You Feel Like God Doesn’t Care
Do you ever feel like God doesn’t care? Someone says, “God is good.” And you respond, “All the time!” And yet…
How to Start a Difficult Conversation with Your Spouse
Perhaps your spouse isn’t picking up the hints you’re dropping. Things aren’t going well, and perhaps you find it necessary…
What Did You Get Married For?
When you said “I do” you imagined things would be great. Most people expect to be happy when they get…
Two Perspectives That Will Transform Your Marriage
Your perspective matters. Things may look completely different at 35,000 feet from how they look out a car window at…
When your Wife Is Behaving Badly
Neither gender has a corner on bad behavior, so I had to arbitrarily pick which side to address first. Next…
What Do You See in Your Spouse?
There are many ways you could describe the one you’re married to. You might see them as your confidant, friend,…
How to Break the Crazy Communication Cycle
Do your attempts to communicate with your spouse end up leaving you more frustrated and upset? The Crazy Communication Cycle…
What Can Christmas Do for You?
Few of us, if any, come to Christmas unscathed. The busyness of family and church events, family drama, or wishing…
5 Ways to Keep Family Dysfunction from Ruining Christmas
Family is a big deal around Christmas. The memories you have of Christmases past – both good and bad –…
What to Do When You Don’t Feel Thankful on Thanksgiving
Today in the United States we celebrate Thanksgiving Day. Family and friends gather to enjoy each other and remember our…
If Opposites Attract, How Can We Get Along?
Do opposites really attract? In many marriages it seems so. No two people are exactly alike, but if opposites attract…
Keep Your Sanity when your Spouse Doesn’t Meet your Needs
Your spouse should do more to meet your needs. Really, how could your husband or wife be that insensitive, clueless,…
Why Get Married? (It’s NOT for Happily Ever After!)
People get married for all kinds of reasons. In our modern Western society perhaps the most frequent reason is a…
Pursuing Intimacy with Your Husband
(This is a message especially for wives. Last week I talked about the other side – a message for husbands.)…
Your Prescription for Fear and Anxiety
What are you so worried about? What are you so afraid of? The Bible says we should not be anxious…
You’re NOT Stuck in this Marriage
One of the most common sentiments I hear from married people is, “I feel stuck in this marriage.” Yes, you’re…
Lonely and Disappointed on Valentine’s Day
Do you feel like a member of the Lonely Hearts Club? Were you disappointed on Valentine’s Day? You’re not alone.…
Positive Thinking and the Bible
Is it magic? Is it “mind over matter?” Does faith mean white-knuckling it with positive thoughts and affirmations? What do you…
The Stockdale Paradox and Spiritual Warfare
Vice Admiral James B. Stockdale was an officer in the US Navy during the Vietnam War. He became a fighter…
HOPE for the In-Between Times
The in-between times can often be one of the most challenging. The Christmas celebrations are over. The New Year is…
12 Things to do if you’re Lonely at Christmas
The Christmas holiday season is promoted as a time of togetherness. Families sometimes travel long distances to be with loved…
5 Things You Should Believe About Marriage
Recently I talked about the 3 biggest false beliefs people hold on to when it comes to marriage. What you…
Heavenly Perfume: How to Smell Good as a Christian
Jesus smelled good. Do you? I don’t mean Jesus showered every day; He didn’t. People used various methods to try to…
Intimacy when Sex Becomes Impossible
Can you stay physically connected and enjoy intimacy when sex becomes truly physically impossible? Intimacy between husband and wife is…
How Can I Get My Spouse To . . . ? Facing a Miserable Marriage
One of the most common questions I am asked is some variation of “How can I get my spouse to…
Punish Your Wife or Husband the Right Way
Your spouse is completely exasperating you, and you can’t put up with it any longer. Perhaps if you punish your…
Where is that Peace on Earth?
I heard the bells on Christmas Day Their old familiar carols play And wild and sweet the words repeat Of…
